Hi Elaine
I am so sorry to hear that you are still suffering so much and still after all this time going round in circles going from pillar to post and at great expense and still getting nowhere. I remember you said it has cost you a lot thus far, but rather than waste more money going to yet another endo, if I were in your shoes I would jump straight on that plane to Florida (as long as your results fit their criteria). I do recall that Dr Norman operated on a patient to remove a tumour and he also at the same time diagnosed that the patient had Hashimoto's disease I think it was. He could most likely tell you if you have Grave's or not.
Dr Norman does have a calcium App which only costs a few dollars (up to about £5) which you key in y
our results and it will tell you how likely it is that you have PHPT. Your PTH is on the high side and your calcium is almost at the top of the normal range (top being 2.55). As for the Vit D, at 150 it is now high, my UK lab range is 80-150. If you send all your results to Dr Norman incl any bones scans, ECGs. etc (whatever he requests), then they can do a personal chart for you and let you know if you likely have a tumour. Ignore your scans, they are wrong more than they are right. If I were you I would NOT submit to the old Draconian exploratory op which means a GA, a large cut likely from ear to ear, and hours on the operating table, with the chance they won't find anything (or might remove a lymph node by mistake). You really don't want that.
It's not surprising you are worried about your back pain and osteoporosis isn't painful when you have it due to menopause but with parathyroid disease, bone pain is a common symptom. I had bone pain in my shins that kept me awake at night and also in my forearms and all the muscles and joints in my body ached and my muscles felt like they were on fire but then it was all made worse as they were giving me large doses of calcium and Vit D (for the wrong disease) when I already had high calcium and then the steroids for a year which was awful, also they gave me a PPI to cover the steroids so I was really rattling! and in the end I didn't know what was causing what. All medicines are iatrogenic!
If you do have PHPT, you simply cannot take bisphosphonates - they were designed for postmenopausal women with osteoporosis and not intended for use when it's caused by a parathyroid tumour, in the presence of a tumour, they will not work anyway because hormones are very strong and the PTH being a hormone will ovrride it. People often have thyroid problems (or nodules) together with parathyroid problems and when Dr Norman's team operate, if there are thyroid lumps that need removing, he will do that at the same time and assess the thyroid too. There are a small number of people who don't get high levels but get high normal levels but they can still have an adenoma.
It's not very comforting to be told by the surgeon if he was still operating on the NHS he wouldn't mind opening your neck up on a fishing expedition since you weren't paying for it so if he couldn't find it, it doesn't matter because it didn't cost you anything!, but would feel worse if he robbed you of your savings achieving the same likely fruitless result! As Dr Norman would say, "get up and run for the door"!
I had one physiotherapist who pumelled my whole spine (which didn't feel good) and a physical therapist later said she should not have done that as it could cause damage! I had a very stiff neck and shoulder muscles and I had 5 sessions with a physical therapist (not the same as a physiotherapist) and she worked on my muscles and now they are no longer stiff. She was brilliant. I would be very careful about letting anyone pummel your spine when you have osteoporosis, it could make things worse.
The physical therapist did show me how to get out of bed without stressing my back. If you roll onto your side and put one hand under one side of your face and then use the other arm to push yourself up, she said that is easier on your spine.
If you are worried about myeloma, you can have a blood test and a urine test to check for that. Because the parathyroid disease made a lot of my blood results abnormal, they did actually test me for it and it was clear. You could ask for the tests just for peace of mind, they are very straight forward. I'm very lucky, my GP is very interactive and patient-friendly and rarely refuses anything I ask for. I've had 3 bone scans to name but a few. A friend of mine couldn't even get one!
I was very sorry to hear that you lost your husband, I didn't know that, and I am truly sorry for your loss. It was terrible to read about your husband's colleage in Melbourne too who wasn't diagnosed correctly. Poor man. Have you had an MRI? Maybe they would let you have an MRI just to check although as I said, PHPT does cause terrible bone pain.
The bottom line is that you and I know how, shall we say, 'unfruitful' it is going to all these endos etc and at great cost and if you can contact Tampa and send your results in the first instance, that would be a good start. If they say you are not a good candidate for whatever reason, I think that they give you a part refund but they have an enormous database and bucket loads of experience and would be able to tell you in a very short space of time - just think, you could be cured in just a few weeks and then from that moment you can start to heal. Most people now know on this site that waiting is bad.
Be your own advocate, take the bull by the horns and if you have to, try and borrow the money to start the ball rolling towards Tampa. If your bloods show you likely have a parathyroid tumour, you could have it removed in just a few weeks and in time for Christmas then you can start your recovery.
In my case I was not allowed to go direct to a surgeon in the UK, they insisted I see an endo first!! And as I said, they said if it didn't show on the scan then - no op !! (and mine didn't)! But it would also have been done by the surgeon in my area who also removed your friend's lymph nodes!! So I had a lucky escape!! At this point I lost interest in what the UK had to offer, told my GP I was going to Tampa and my GP printed all the copies of my results I needed (at no cost) and I emailed them all to Tampa and about 3-4 weeks llater I had my op. Tampa is where all the doctors and surgeons go.
I do realise all this is easier said than done, but what other option is there really. I hope you get the results and treatment you need soon.
Let us know how things go on Monday.
Kindest regards.
Rosemary (sorry this is a long one)