Today i am supposed to be having my clips removed I'm 14 days post op ..
i had to fight to get a district nurse to come , and bit worried they wont turn up ...As you hipsters know cant drive , i have no one and feeling pretty low and vulnerable...
but onwards and upwards
will they cover the scar or will it be left now to heel , any advise on how to help the scar will be very much appreciated
Hi Amanda, I have no idea regarding scar and stitch removal but I do know about feeling down and alone, have you no one you can ring and chat too, there's nothing worse than having to cope with something as traumatic as an op all on your own so I'm hoping that the sooner your more Mobile and can get out and about the better.
Big hugs from someone who knows how any form of trauma can really put you in that black cloud, it want be long though before your better than ever and feeling so much more optimistic
Thank you for that , my family just think I'm fine now and can get on with it ...prob the effects of the op making me feel so sad , and you do feel isolated when you can't get out and about .....thanks for the well needed hugs
Amanda, es ist wirklich schwer, wenn man sich gefangen und allein fühlt. Ich kam gut zurecht, bis zu diesen letzten Tagen, in denen ich nicht raus konnte, weil es nichts als geregnet hat und ich Angst habe, auf den nassen Gehwegen auszurutschen.
Alles, was ich tun kann, ist zu hoffen, dass du dich bald hoffnungsvoller fühlst. Aber da du tatsächlich Familie hast, lass sie wissen, wie du dich fühlst. Sie können es nicht wissen, wenn du es ihnen nicht sagst. Umarmungen
Your welcome and don't hesitate to ask for reassurance and sympathy, its not weakness it is a normal reaction to shock which is what you have been through, I think its a form of PTSD, your family maybe think that its best to gee you on, they don't always understand.
Have a good cry/scream/rant or even bang a few pots or pans about eat something you crave and watch lots of telly, I know its probably not something you would normally do but hey your healing and it takes time, lots of
Thanks Ann my family know how i am and just see me as a moaner i think ,,,it has made me realise that just for once when you need them they can be a little selfish , lesson leant though ...
My mum has helped but cant be here daily ..i do have visitors on Sunday which i am looking forward to ...
yes the thought of slipping is very scary ...you take care x
Just a thought, I am on crutches permanently and brought some flexi feet off Internet, there not cheap but my life on crutches has been transformed, it might be that as you only need them temporarily it wouldn't be worth it, you could sell them on after or donate to red cross.
Hi Amanda. Sorry to hear you're feeling down. Tell the district nurse you want a dressing on your scar. When mine came to remove dressing( and my scar was glued) I told her I was worried I may knock it. To be quite honest, I'm such a wimp, I didn't want to see the scar. Dressing stayed on for almost a month! Putting bio oil on it now , with cotton pad, because I really don't want to touch it, YUC!
It's a nuisance not being able to drive. I was told I can drive now, but still haven't just in case I couldn't do emergency stop.
I do wish you a very speedy recovery and hope you're not as bored as I am !
Hallo Amanda
Mach dir keine Sorgen, ich bin sicher, die Krankenschwester wird nett sein und sich um deine Wunde kümmern.
Es könnte durchaus eine gute Idee sein, einen Verband darauf zu lassen.
Ich kann verstehen, dass deine Familie, hoffentlich, dich im Krankenhaus unterstützt hat, in dem Glauben, dass sie dich jetzt allein lassen könnten, aber seltsamerweise hättest du dich wahrscheinlich im Krankenhaus ohne viele Besucher wohlgefühlt, da du die Ärzte, Krankenschwestern und andere Patienten hattest.
Ich hoffe, du machst weiterhin Fortschritte.
Mike
Hi mike staples out alll went well the scar is uncovered now ..I really happy with it ..
making good progress thanks ..
half walking with stick and half with walker ...
onwards and upwards
Hi Carol , staples out and no dressing on , its all looking good .
yes i think its the boredom thats the worst , what do us hipsters do with ourselves ..
hope your recovery is going well x
i am wondering what are flexi feet .. am half walker and half walking stick and walking up the stairs for the exercise , not sure if its too soon , but I feel ok doing it
Amanda
Das klingt besser. Es wird ein bisschen auf und ab gehen, aber du solltest mehr Höhen als Tiefen haben.
Ich habe heute meine Tochter und Enkelkinder hier, was schön ist, und werde später am Vormittag meine Verbände wechseln lassen.
Mike
hi amanda,
great, so that is done and your scar is neat and dry ... what a relief, right ?
arghhh ... the feeling low and alone is something we are not prepared for -
I am with Alexandria here - it is some kind of PTSD - everything from leading up to the surgery , having the surgery and now post-surgery .
I had (and on occasion still have) waves of these emotions and being alone, living alone is not helping -
family and dear friends don't know what you are going through - they also feel helpless and since there is no cast or bloody anything they think we are doing well ... invite them to watch the surgery on you tube - none of my loved ones wanted to - but I know how you feel ...
and that is why this forum is brilliant - you can ask anything at any time and find a kindred soul who has gone through it -
come here anytime - you are not alone, darling ...
For now, just try to accept that this is what it is ... no need to get upset about it - it won't go faster - healing takes time so allow your body to heal -
I could not even keep my attention on anything for more than 5 minutes and exhausted myself for wanting it to be different ... very frustrating ..
Easy for me to say, but this too will pass - be kind to your self -
big warm hug
renee