i need a rant, no one to talk to to vent, times like this I wish my counselling hadn’t ended. After doing mindfulness I was feeling a lot better, calmer and more positive. I was eating breakfast and had gained some weight. Until, a relative lets call X comes to stay has been here a week on this coming Sunday until hopefully they go next Sunday, basically they have no one else for xmas to stay with. I have a tidy house, not ocd just worked hard and waited to have things replaced and I take care of them. This X like last xmas does NOT lift a finger. Does not bring plates through, glasses they’ve drunk out of, doesn’t pick their clothes up or PJS or make their bed, open curtains. Goes to bed at two am waking me up when I have insomnia anyway. Asks what is for tea which annoys me, runs water for lord knows how long. The bathroom my pride and joy is a S....t tip when they’ve been in. I feel so stressed and depressed with this Christmas and wish it was over, I can’t watch no tv they have the remote. Sorry but I need a moan. They can’t come next year and I can’t go through this. I’m not Christmassy anyhow as Mam isn’t here anymore. Selfish people I hate them.
Thanks for taking the time to reply out of your busy day. I had a good cry, kept looking at the front door imagining my Mam turning up in her old red car like she used to, I’d give anything for that, I hate Christmas this year. My X relative is a slob yeah they work but just glam themselves up, doing nails and make up then leave the place a mess, their own place is a tip. I have it tidy for stress free mind and it works, keeping things clean in my eyes stops them needing ripped out and replaced. I agree with you but when I had a go last night said to me Chillax which then winds me up.. I’m definately going away next year crisps in a hotel room is better than this c....p. Sorry doing mind admitting I ain’t jolly. Hope you are ok x
We are ok, We would go away abroad for Christmas before we got the dogs, something to consider for you next year. My Christmases were very much the same as yours we would do everything for family and we just felt Christmas was a chore and everyone would fall out with each other. Now we have disappeared Christmas is our time. I know it is selfish, when we do our own thing. However we do have the remote for the TV too share
cheered me up, someone to chat to. I don’t think it selfish at all, I’ve been too long following other people’s traditions at Christmas and never my own. Getting too old now to worry about others so yeah not doing this next year. Time for a change at Christmas and try something new, to me life is too short now and my own happiness is paramount now, I really believe this. A dog must be great I find myself always stroking them when out. I think christmasses from years ago are different, grief and other events have come along and life changes and so do the way you perceive things. At least I know I aren’t the problem here, I don’t think I’ve had support in my grief I realise now. Yeah you too, hope you have a god xmas Bob x
Hello Sue. I hear you loud and clear! Why don't you stop this insanity? Set house rules! Give a resentment rather than have a resentment! What horrid house guest.
Had a roommate years ago for three weeks. No contract. She was horrible had no boundaries. Had no idea what was hers and what was mine. So I invited her to move to a new residence. She did. I stopped being mad immediately. Diane.
Good for you Adldiane that you did that. I was unstressed before they came. Would you believe they asked me to hoover their car yesterday. I aren’t doing that it’s mind boggling how people are.
Oh Sue they have NO shame. I wish they would ask me to Hoover their car😊! So what's next for you. Some people. All I would be trying to figure out would be how can I learn everything I need to so I never walk this way again. So...what did you tell them? Diane.
i changed the subject when the hoovering came up, apparently it’s because there was skin from about six weeks ago when I was passenger with them, I felt so nervous in the car I picked at my thumbs. It’s a habit I’ve never done before in my life but was doing it last night as well. The fact that they eat in their car and the car has cds strewn all over and they are going on about bits of skin. I do feel very uneasy here at the moment, xmas day tomorrow then count down till they go, I’m marking down the days like they do in prison movies, last night I’ll do a woop woop to myself. The councillor has tried to make me say no by teaching me I’m more important than a lot of people xx
Hi Sue. I'm just glad that you didn't hoover that car! What a deal it is Christmas and you are having to do a different kind of count down. Bummer. But it sounds like you're getting a bit of a sense of humor about it.
Merry Christmas to you. And you already have a present for next year. No guest. Ha! Diane.
Hi Sue - don't forget to present them with hotel bill when they leave - and you must insist X gives the maid a super big tip, it being Xmas and all. Tell X that next year the hotel is undergoing refurbishment due to sloppy guests, and so will be closed over the holiday period.
Thats a good idea I am definately going to say about about th maid getting a tip, passive aggressive I know, which I don’t like but yeah I am going to say this. Yeah asked me to hoover the car yesterday again I blanked them, get stuffed or words worse I thought. Counting down till the slob goes. They came last year but their personality has really gone horrid in a year, very self entitled which I don’t like x