I have had depression for 2 months now and we all know how awful it makes you feel. I don't work at the moment and I have a lovely husband, family and home. But yet I feel so alone and blue!! I am having huge problems sleeping, getting out of bed in the morning, doing household chores and going to the gym. I know this is a big ask but is there anyone out there who has discovered ways of tackling any of the above problems. Your advice would be gratefully received. Keep strong x
I wish I could share a miracle solution with you... I can really relate to what you are experiencing. I think it is just a case of carrying on, making plans and seeing your successes. Some days are good, some days are a bit nothing and some are truly awful.
Thanks Amberstar it is always reassuring to hear that people can relate to the same depressive difficulties. Sometimes I feel so much better and I think the depression is lifting for it to return the next day. Take care x
I've found taking b complex and fish oil capsules help. Also to really cut down on tea coffee in evenings..xx
Thanks I am guilty of drinking coffee and tea in the evening. I won't tonight and I'll see if it makes a difference. My mind seems to race instead of sleeping x
Yeah tea and coffee can make u more anxious. Try a hot chocolate as they say sends off good feelings. Also try the b complex and fish oil capsules I take one every morning and I'm completely off all medication now xxx
Yes hot choc with marshmallows and fresh cream. Pleased that you are doing so much better. How long did your depression last if you don't mind me asking? x
If finances allow Maybe you could consider Massage or another Holistic therapy. Try to give yourself some little treats and remember a time when you felt Well and remember you can feel that way again with a little Bit of support.
Most importantly talk talk talk It really helps to know your not alone :-)
Therapy, therapy, therapy & self help books would be my advise!
If you've been ill for 2 months, do you think there may be a possibility that it's SAD -seasonal affective disorder? Do you know the cause or have an idea of what set it off?
Mine seems to intensify in early November. I've been ill for 20 years & I know that if I had the right help initially then I'd be in a better place now. Keep talking on here if it helps. You are lucky that you have a good support network around you so cherish that. That's something I'm lacking, I think that's why or one of the reasons why mine comes back.
Yes I am lucky that I have a lovely husband, family and home. I don't need to work either. I appreciate that so much but I feel guilty that I am not that fun loving wife I was. a couple of months back. He worries about me. My depression was bought on by family illness. The last time I was depressed was 4 years ago and that lasted for about 5 long long long months. Depression is such an awful illness and I pray that it will lift soon. I hope that you have had an ok day x
I am lucky that I have lots of people around me that care. My husband took me away to a health spa for a few days. It was very noticeable to me that I did not have the same energy levels. It was almost to much of an effort to be there. I feel terrible saying that because it was an expensive treat. The depression at the moment is making me lethargic. Hope you are doing ok x
What advice would you give a friend if they were where you are now.
My guess is that you would be Kinder and More understanding..
Remember what you feel Will pass and you Will Come out of this stronger.
Just deal with one thing at a time and the best thing you can Do for your husband is Focus on getting Well .
Youll get there I promise :-)
I have felt like I'm getting worse every day since July :-( I have been keeping on going to work until yesterday when I just couldn't anymore. I do feel loads brighter today so I am hopeful I will make it work tomorrow. Then I will get back into my gym and work routine 😃😃
Thank you for your kind words of hope and encouragement. I do so want to get better. For myself and my patient husband so we can enjoy life again without me crying every time he does something nice which is all the time. Am I right In thinking that you have recovered from depression? X
I am pleased that you are feeling a bit brighter today. It is hard knowing when to return to work and I think people with depression are good at hiding their feelings. I think for myself that when I start sleeping better then that will be a good indicator of me turning the corner. Be gentle on yourself. Is it worth having a chat with your doc.? All the best x
I'm at the doctors next Friday. I visited many times when I first started this period of feeling down - I was very anxious and struggling to function. I've found all I want to do is sleep. I think it is so I can hide away! At least I know that my thoughts obviously stop at some point - just not when I'm awake!
I work supporting people and sometimes I think how can I be doing this when I'm such a mess myself!!!!
I am Still recovering but take things one step at a time. It Has really helped me to talk to someone Thats not family or friends.
I think allowing yourself to talk freely and honesty to someone without the fear of being judged or pityed is one of the First steps towards recovery
You will learnt so many skills living through depression-empathy, courage to name a few. When the depression has lifted you will emerge so much stronger. Please be kind to yourself perhaps it might be worth having a chat with doc before you return. When I had depression 4 years ago I returned to work too early and had to take more time off. When I returned the second time I was in a much better place and I was able to pick up where I had left off. I think I am trying to say take time off to build up your strength if you think you need it. Work is exhausting when you are under par. Take good care of yourself and let me know what you decide to do. Best wishes x
Yes I totally agree and the good thing about this forum is that everyone understands you. I am very hopeful that I will recover from this depression. The last time I had depression was 4 years ago and it lasted about 5 months.i went on to make a recovery. In the summer of this year I decided to take a break from work and then a few months later ended up with my second depression. I think staying focused on beating depression and taking small steps will aid my recovery. I wish you a good recovery too x
I'm so nervous to have time off work as it is only a fixed term contract and I'm trying to make a good impression. I Spent two years job hunting before this job. But I do know I need to be kind to myself too. So hard to know what to do for the best. Xx