Today is one of those days where I just want to b***h slap the professionals. I work in health care too, and the professionals have admitted they are not educated enough on Menopause. The stories I have been reading from women these last two months have been grueling. I have cried many times reading what you're all going through. Its the same story after another..... What's it going to take for these health care professionals to start educating themselves on Menopause. This is not a laughing matter, this is serious s**t. 30% of men leave their spouses during menopause, there has been a 45% increase rate of women committing suicide in the last 15 years over menopause, many women can't work; They have been forced to quit, get fired, collect disability, short term disability, go out on FMLA. Whats it going to take to get ALL MEDICAL CARE STAFF on board with this? I sound p****d, and I am, but I'm justified. Enough is enough..... I'm more educated then the professionals. I've spent over $300.00 in the last 2 weeks just on natural products because one, I'm allergic to anti depressants and my OB refuses to put me on hormones due to past history issues. I'd rather live a damn normal life for the next 10 years and feel somewhat normal then to have to worry about the consequences later. I know my body better than anyone else. But yet you want to rule my feelings, emotions, and deprive me of having a normal life? The system is effed up! And honestly, I'm so fed up..... My advice, because that's all I got right now; Be your own advocate and don't be afraid to speak out. I don't sleep, I have extreme anxiety, panic attacks, fainted, no bladder control, barely eat, afraid something will trigger my anxiety, I live off vitamins, cream, CBD, vitamin D, Magnesium, and so much more. I've become paranoid, living in fear constantly, and yet all blood work and other tests come back normal. Oh and lets not forget we're being told, no caffeine, no alcohol, no cigarettes, no sugar, etc. BLAH BLAH BLAH..... Oh and then there's prayer, yep, been there done that too. Yep just commit me, I could use a damn vacation. Vent done.....
so true , they just havent got a clue what we go through , our lives are changed so much , for the worse !!! anxiety depression , no appetite , nausea , back pain ( chronic ) !! , headaches etc etc , how are we woman supposed to function ?? its so hard , my love to you all x
B.R.A.V.O.
BRAVO BRAVO BRAVO
Could not have put it better myself.
What a load of s**t then some!!!!
Hi Theresa! Will you all the way on this. I am better this year than last...my symptoms are still awful...but I am more educated. I had to stop working the beginning of last year...self employed...denied disability...sucks. One of my children has severe special needs, I have advocated for him for years with tenacity. I have applied that same mindset to myself now dealing with drs....weeded through plenty in the last year. Finally, for now, pleased with my obgyn and primary. But, it is appalling that even some of the female drs are ignorant on the subject! I am sorry you are in this predicament and are unable to get on hormones through your dr. Thank you for your post, at least here, it does not fall on deaf ears. 😉
Amen ! Well said . I’ll be 50 next month and have all them symptoms and feel like my life was ripped from me when all this crap started. I asked my FP to get some blood work done to see how my estrogen and progestin look and their reply was , I’m to young to even worry about them levels yet . Omg!!! They have no idea what it’s like cause they haven’t been through it .
I agree with you that the doctors don't have a clue when it comes to menopause, even some of the females which is mind-blowing. We do know our bodies better than they do. I am like you in that I can't take certain medications because of how I react to them. I just take each day as it comes and at the end of each day I thank God I made it through. Hope things will improve for you soon. Take care.
Another rough morning! When will end? One of those days where I could just stay in bed and sleep. Fatigue and hot flashes are unbearable this morning. And I loaded myself up with all natural products and still suffering.
I hear ya!
My goal, if I was to survive all this, was to go back and educate all the crap specialists I saw who knew nothing.
I was so mad the other day, there was a post on FB where it gave symptoms of a patient and you were supposed to guess what was wrong. A middle aged woman with severe pain in her upper abdomen, etc.. Well my guess, and I was half kidding, but not, was perimenopause. Well this woman responds to me saying “As usual, the go to diagnosis for those who have no desire to find the issue”. Talk about wanting to b#*% slap her!
😂You can’t win. Let her just google her symptoms instead... instantly stomach cancer will come up. 🙄
I remember when I first started googling my symptoms all this other stuff would come up but never any mention of menopause. I almost feel like there's something they're hiding when it comes to menopause. Oh, but let me guess, that would make me paranoid. Nope we can't win. 
The only way I figured out what was going on was finding this forum! I was so convinced I had some sort of cancer from googling all my symptoms. And couldn’t figure out why it wasn’t showing up on any tests.
Why do they always list the worse case scenario when you google something?
One more thing to add to this forum, which is very sad. I lost my mother 4 years ago so i can't go to her. My father, he's in his own world. My ex-husband divorced me in June 2016 and made sure to ruin me by telling my friends and my daughter that he left because I was a raging b***h, and I was but at the same time I was menopausal and he was having an affair. My daughter wont talk to me and I've tried to get her involved with the menopause I'm going through, I even asked her to see the OB with me to help her understand menopause. She refused by saying she had to work and she makes her own schedule. My daughter is 33 years old, you would think she would be a bit more mature about the severity of this, but just the opposite. She's completely dismissed me and my feelings and have become close with my ex-husband "who isn't her father, and is also working for my Ex's new lover." Not only am I going through menopause, but not being close to my baby girl has added rejection, hurt and stress to my life. I feel completely alone and I live alone. Its sad when you can't count on your family. My daughter and I use to be so close too. I really miss her. Unfortunately I don't trust anyone because this is such a touchy subject, not everyone gets it. Excuse me while I go to the bathroom and let the tears flow. Thanks for listening.
Hey to all ladies. Why don't we see if
we can get support from the government to get Meno disability?
I know it sounds crazy, and know it's probably impossible.
Being that the so called doctors have no clue about Meno. Their goal is to tell you take this take that because most ladies will take the meds that are thrown to them. What about the side
effects of those meds. I really think they gave us something in our epidural. The meds that are given is for us to keep going back to those nerds like an drug addict. Stay away from those docs mamagrams they cause cancer to you or your unborn. We are the doctors experiments.
Theresa what you're going through is awful. When I went to something similar I went to the bathroom as well and cried. As I was crying I looked in the mirror I saw myself and said why are you crying? Your daughter will get her jyst cause when she starts me no. Will you comfort her?
Girl stand up and be STRONG. Don't let those no good a holes make you feel like spittle on the ground. Don't beg for no one's love or understanding.
You know the deal, When people see that you're down and out they have no time for you. You're killing your heart and soul. You don't need that right now. Excuse me but your daughter has no respect for you, and your ex is a duck head. Stand up Theresa you're
a strong and lovely lady😊
Hi Marjorie, I fully agree with meno disability... But, I also think there should be a separate retirement age for women. I’m in the US, I think the retirement age is 67? It should be much younger for women. Our lives have always been some type of work. maternity leaves are not restful. It’s just swapping one job for another. We are barely recompensed for what we bring to the world. But, as usual the guidelines are not written by women. But, you are correct, we go to the dr complain and they throw magic beans our way.
Hi Theresa, thank god you are rid of him. I know that your daughter favoring one side over another is a kick in the teeth. In time, she will learn there are never 2 sides to a story...more like 50. I know you feel horrible, however, Find some type of happiness...otherwise this will eat you up.
I think our kids are just so wrapped up in their own lives they just don’t get it. My daughter came to visit me two years ago when I was going through the worse of it and saw me shaking and sickly, then I think she started getting worried. But both my kids came home for Christmas that year and did nothing but fight and I begged them to stop, that I couldn’t deal with it. The next year they did the same thing. Very selfish. Hopefully they will grow up one day, guess when they have their own children maybe.
Theresa, that very same daughter is going to be coming to you later on with questions about menopause. You can say that you were trying to prepare her. I wish I had someone prepare me. My mother is 87 years old and doesn't remember how it was. My older sister is going through it but doesn't like to talk about it. My other older sister and I are pretty close and we talk about it every now and then. But sometimes as we go through this, you are alone or at least you feel like you are. I remember when I started going through this I started go ogling my symptoms and it led me directly to this forum. I thought I was dying. But after I read the posts from the other women I soon realized that I was in peri menopause. So glad I found this site.
Beautiful Idea! All we need to do is print this forum out on menopause and it should open SOMEONES eyes! Let them see it writing.....