Good morning Kelly,
I can feel you so much and agree what you say!
I am 45 and also fight from panic attacks since I was 24. But not constantly. when I was 16-20, I had (because of stong diets) some faints. That period I was not afraid at all. On the contrary I was very cool.
The first panic attack was the period I studied for my diploma at university and was very stressed for the last difficult lessons before graduation. So I was driving alone to give the lesson and on the way I had the first panic attack and the same symptons of the faint. So " I got married" some phobias. From time to time I used citalopram (for 6 months) then stopped and was ok.
But in the meantime, I got my diploma, I found a good very profitable job, got married and had a daughter and got divorce. Now I have a good relationshiop. So from 26 till 40 was ok. I had some phobias like feel unsafe, when driving lond distances alone or with my little daughter or travelling alone, but I could enjoye life afterall.
Last 5 years from the time I lost my job (that I had a lot of confidence, money, travels etc) I started to have these compulsive negative thoughts and a lot of stress. So I started to taste several pills (that in the past were very helpfull) but this time are not so helpfull with this anxiety. Anyway, with the years I learned not to be shame about me and to find a way to express this phobia to others so it is not very strong now.
Last pill I took as told you since February was escitalopram. But does not work well with anxiety (for me) gave it up and started every 15 days a phsycotherapy. But I was prescribed every night for the next 6 months remeron that helps me very well with sleeping and the other day feeling a bit of serenity so maybe this is my pill...lets see...
I think that a biggest part of calming the anxiety has to do with the way that we think. If you think that is a chemical imbalance from your dad's family, for my poor opinion, you attract this thought and you do not help yourself in maximum.
For examble, Last March till June, I was very exausted from stress and was prescribed ladose and escitalopram. The first two monts I had terrible side effects like bad sleeping and worse anxiety all day. So I gave them up and had the opportunity then to go in my island (I am greek) and take care with my parents the little kids of my sister. So my pshycology changed completely, because my mind was in better activities and on the kids and had forgotten the thoughts and anxiety. I am a very swimming person and was helped by the sea. Of course the evenings had rtelaxable discussions with people and friends there and was feeling you know somehow...but this tension I had was about ok, not so stressfull as the winters. So I understood that is not always a chemical imbalance but a way of thinking and If you have a lot of activities during the day...the mind is not constantly stuck to the phobia, you understand...
So I am very pleased for you to hear that you live a better life with less anxiety and pills helps you, but in the meantime we have to be very active and not stand only to the pills. By the way, what are y doing generally? Are you working?