week 7 for daughter, its getting better!!

Treatment and medication
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today is the start of week 7, she survived xmas quite easily, i told her if she felt jittery or having a  sad moment, she was to come give me a quick hug, and potter off to her room, and i would know she needed some quiet. but she managed,

she is off work for the xmas holidays, and her anxiety has amost gone, she is home, she feels safe, and its building her confidence that the anxiety is her own doing, and she can to some point control it

insomnia, sleeping, and sweats seem to be her biggest problem still, and anxiety/headaches in the morning, but that wears off during the morning.

oh and clenching her jaw tight, is a new side effect she has  , anyone else had that?

she hasnt had any hide under a blanket moments this week, we went shopping in the sales, and the fullness of the shops still got to her  just she just moved away from the people and was fine, she didnt have to leave like before.

my husband asked me yesterday if she had stopped taking the happy pills now she is fine.....it made me realise how little he knows, and how much daughter and myself have managed it between us, im so proud of her, she was worried about visiting people and having to refuse an alcoholic drink, i said if you can hold your heard high, and just say, i cant sorry im on medication, she did one better and actually told them she was on anti depressents, its better its out in the open she said, im not hiding it. good on yer girl!!

since she was little i have always said, love you to the moon and back....my favourite xmas present was a little sign, that has it written on, the smallest things mean so much!!

all the side effects are easier for her to manage, there has been a calm christmas with no meltdowns, so hopefully now its onwards and upwards.

keep smiling. xx

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Lovely ! Well done to your daughter and you for been a great mum. Happy pills? I wish there was such a quick happy pill, not many understand at all but you can't really blame them its very hard to understand how awful mental illness is. I'm week 7 tomorrow and I think I'm turning a corner slowly bit by bit. My jaw was bad also but I had this at the very start of meds. Sweats now stopped. I'm left with headaches at times and fogginess but this is easing slowing 

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you will get there, once baby has arrived, and your hormones settle, you body can concentrate on getting better,

yes, happy pills, its what daughter calls them, she is also taking probiotic tablets and calls those "bug" pills, lol..

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Hi karen

So glad she is feeling so much better,  was about this time I noticed more improvement too. She's done really well getting out n telling everyone is such a brave move she obviously feels well enough to cope with the response and any questions she gets.

What a lovely present! It's lovely you're so close.   Your husbands question is not surprising, my husband keeps saying why are you feeling bad today youve been alright  last few days. If only I knew! If you've not experienced it before its really not easy to understand, I know I didnt. Your daughter is very lucky to have you, ive said it before but its very true!

Ive had calm christmas, more of a passenger this yr but still good.

Hope she continues to improve so well. All the best to you both.

Luv

Vix x

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Ps yes had clenched jaw thing sometimes still do  not sure if anxiety though as  often when I think im relaxed I realise every muscle in my body is tensed n I conciously have to make them release...... is that just me then :-)

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awww thankyou for the kind words, you have all helped so much on this site, and that in turn has helped me to help my daughter, and understand the side effects of this drug,

she has only had the clenched jaw a week or so, and is sometimes in awful pain when she gets up, as it must have been clenched in the night. although she does say she has muscle aches in her legs, that sometimes spasm, im guessing thats down to the meds also.

how is your nausea now? are you still taking the "bug" tablets?

it was worrying her so much about xmas, and having to explain why she couldnt have a glass of wine( she doesnt drink much) so i told her to face it, bless, so she did! and not 1 person asked her anyhting, she just said, "i cant im on anti depressants, " and she just got back "ok" so no awkward questions.

iv brought her up to never be ashamed, there is no "normal" in this world, and as long as your not hurting anyone, then its fine. at 19 she is a lovely young lady- even if i do say so myself!!

take care today, the sun is out here, its about -1, and rather chilly, and we still have snow and ice, i hope your smiling. x

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Nausea seemed to disappear wk6 ish which was a great relief, it had gone on far too long  Only trouble is I like being slim but im gonna get fat again unless im really careful n this time of yr its hard not to indulge!. My memory is not good so I do forget to take my vitamins n bug pills regularly but I try! Oops :-)

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Glad to hear your daughter is making progress and you all had a good Christmas too.  Funny thing is my husband didn't really know much about the medication I took, but he has learnt more since our son became been ill.  

Yes I talk more openly about depression now.  I never used to, and in fact all the years I was ill (before starting on SSRI's) nobody knew at all, expect 1 person.  I just couldn't talk about it.  It wasn't something you talked about, which is such a shame.  I'm so glad it's more out there now, on TV, famous people opening up about it etc, though there's still a way to go yet.  I've talked about it more since my son became ill and also admitted to friends that I suffered too. I think having this forum too has made me see that what I suffered from along with all the scary symptoms, is actually quite normal with this illness.  I used to think I was the only one.

Your daughter will improve more as time goes by too.  She'll still get little blips now and then, but they'll become a thing of the past.

K xx

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Just made me remember re Happy Pills and Bug Pills (and smile too) ..... someone I know is on anti depressants, and he calls them anti-barks ...... pills to help him from being barking mad he says haha.

 

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Haha kate I like that :-) hope you're sons doing well still?

Ive actually told more people whats going on with me this time and most have been pretty good with me but theres still people I dont want to tell but maybe thats just me. It is hard, depends on how well you know them I suppose.

All the best for the new year!

Vix

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set an alarm on your phone to remember?

im so glad the awful nausea has gone, iv noticed my daughter seems to get the munchies, something she never really did before, but she lost so much weight when she had the tummy virus, thats its not an issue, she could do with a bit of weight on. and she slept properly again last night!!! and she said she felt like she was finally getting back to feeling her normal self. she managed shopping yesterday, without any tears or panics, which is a huge improvement. i hope today your smiling. xx

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thankyou, i dont suppose i explained it properly to hubby, so cant expect him to understand, it seemed a 24/7 job in the early days( all of about 10 weeks ago) when she first went really depressed, all day, and most of the night, and we had just had weeks of her being unwell, we just sort of became coccooned i suppose, and didnt involve him as he works long hours,

anti bark pills- love it!!

daughter has a friend who told jess she was on anti depressents, when daughter said she couldnt drink on a meal out, and how she tried to come off them, and it made her worse! so when the time comes, i will go with her to gp, and ask for the liquid, and see if it can be reduced at 2ml a time, im not sure thats possible, but i shall ask.

how did your son manage christmas, and the change in routine, ? i hope he is  still smiling along with you. xx

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Yes I was the same - in the early days I also seemed to be helping my son 24/7.  My husband definitely understands more this time - think when it's your child you take more notice.

My son coped with Christmas well, and has seemed quite well and cheerful. The last 3 days however I've noticed he's not himself, grumpy, distant, and today we're visiting our daughter he's curled up and gone to sleep on the sofa.  I'm guessing he's having a blip, so will try and talk to him when we're home.  Looking forward to something is always exciting, and then after there's often a down spiral.

Yes coming off the medication is hard too, but I found d it not so hard as starting them.  Long as it's done really slowly, inching along, then the withdrawal symptoms should be smoother.

2 steps forward, 1 step back :-(

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how is your son now kate? hopefully ok!! i know daughter has been at work the whole time she has been on the tablets, xmas is the first time she has had several days off, and she says she is so exhausted, maybe its because his routine is different? anyway, i hope he is much better.

i knoticed xmas day that towards the end of the day, my daughter went very quiet, and curled up, safe, under her blanket,

i hope 2015 is a good one for you all. xx

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Hi Karen

Still seems to be having a blip, but I know this is normal when recovering.  Yes could be the change of routine, looking forward to Christmas then dipped when it was over.  Boys don't confide as much and girls either ....... mmmmmm.  Just need to work on his social skills now as he's very reserved and doesn't have many friends .... that's something that bothers him a lot.

My son has a blanket too .... lays on the floor with it, curls up in it or lays on top using the laptop ..... the blanket says it all ;-)   I think Christmas is exhausting for them, yes.

Yes indeed ... here's hoping 2015 is a good one for everyone :-)

 

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Hi all

Happy new year to you!

Think theres a bit of post christmas anti climax:-( I think i know how your son and daughter are feeling (strugggling with blues and needing that blanket). I  think the festive season is quite challenging when  youre not feeling yourself.

Hopefully returning to normal routine will ease it for us. Theyre both really lucky to have you looking after them and understanding so well.

Hope theyre both feeling brighter today. Heres to a happy n healthy 2015.

Sending hugs

Vix

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Thanks,  she has been fine today, but was so looking forward to comfy pj's on, and snuggled up watching TV. 

I'm sure if she had a choice she would perminatly stay home and not go back to work, but she knows she has too! 

I hope your OK, and still smiling, I just can't get my head round the days this week. I'v been on Saturday all day today! 

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Happy new year ladies ! Hope we are all feeling more positive for what this year will bring. Everyone seems to be doing really well and making imprisonments (ourselves or a loved one) I still feel really tired and spacey/foggy but a great imprisonment in my mood and how I handle it. Hoping once I'm not pregnant these side effects will lessen. I'm feeling a bit of a humbug because I can't wait to get the Christmas things down and sort the house for the baby (energy limited so parents job)

All the best for 2015 xox

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morning rachel,

wont be long now until the babys here!! im sure once everything settles down , you will be feeling good. i have to admit the xmas decorations are down, i got fed up of them so packed it all away yesterday. i hope 2015 is a good one for you, . xx

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neither of my kids have many friends, lots at work, but only a small, count on your hand number of friends to socalise with. they always had lots when they were small, but neither of mine go out clubbing/drinking ect, maybe that makes a difference, if your not around young adults, you wont meet more?

i hope he is soon over the blip, and on the up again, im sure he will. im s till s truggling with what day it is, i have just been and put the dustbin out, but its friday, the bins are emptied on a tuesday?? crikey, now im losing the plot, yesterday was saturday all day for me!

keep smiling. x