What are the best treatment methods? and relationship advice.

Sexual health
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Hi everyone!

So Im 20 and I was diagnosed with herpes type 1 and type 2 last year.

I have been with my partner for over 6 years and contracted it from him. As he is the only person I have ever been sexually active with or even intact kissed!

I found out that he was cheating on me with several women which he can't even remember the exact number. But for some stupid reason i forgave him and I am still with him.

At first i was being treated for thrush and other fungal infections, as my sores have never been visible and i had thrush like symptoms for several years. but i only discovered herpes last summer, when i had my first extreme outbreak where i was extremely ill, had several utis, discharge, burning and horrible sensations. I couldn't go to work, couldn't walk, urinate, wash or anything. I was extremely stressed and anxious because I had no visible sores so it took a long time to establish it was herpes.

I never and still never got cold sore like appearances. however the only thing i really had was swelling sometimes and cuts in the anal area. has this ever happened to anyone else?

I am struggling to cope with this because my symptoms have gotten better but i can't get rid of the itchy discomfort. i have been advised to take 2 tablets of acilover for 1 year and i am half way through the course.

My symptoms are not as bad as they were last summer. but i honestly also just think that i am eventually getting used to the symptoms and learning to deal with it.

are there any other treatments which have helped any of you? especially with the itchy sensation in the anal area. thrush creams, piles cream, fungal creams or vaseline does not help do not work for me.

I feel really disgusting and depressed as i can't speak to anyone about it. i cry near enough every other days and always argue with my boyfriend and loved ones. i believe part of the reason why i am still with him is that i have never had experience with anyone else so i feel as if i can never love anyone else and that no one will accept me with this virus.

i feel so alone and disgusting most of the times and taking the tablets and the pain down below is a constant reminder of him cheating on me.

i have had a few sessions of counceling but i believe talking about it hasn't helped as it felt that i was just ranting and feel that advice is better. this is why i came onto this forum. i hope that someone can help me. and i honestly feel for anyone who is going through the same thing.

thanks every one in advance

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Hey there! Don't be depressed but I do understand it may be a shock considering you have only ever had the one guy.

If you decide to stay with him that is your choice but please do not feel

Stuck in the relationship just because of herpes !

The other week I went out with a group of woman and after a few too many drinks about 6 of us were at a table and for some reason herpes came up. 3 woman on that table said they have herpes ! That is how common it is.

So there is no need to feel disgusted or depressed . Just try keep healthy and positive and you will make the right choice for yourself in regards to your relationship.

Xxx

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Hi

Thankyou so much for your reply and your kind words!

It's just so hard and difficult to cope with this, as I never thought that I would be someone to get herpes especially only being with the one guy!

I do wish that like your friends people are more open about this as I feel like from all of the people I know I'm the only one affected. However I can't talk as if I had the confidence to be open then I would discuss it.

But I just feel so disgusting and feel like it's affected me in my life. It's hard to block it out. I have my good days and my bad days. But just don't know what to do and how to feel. I guess I will just learn to live with it.

Thankyou again for your nice reassuring message x

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Hi everyone

I came across this hotline today.

it was amazing.

i feel like they told me so much more.

08451232305

they are experts and give great advice.

I feel as if the gp didn't really help. But these people did.

try it for those who need more help thanks

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That is great. It will get easier !

I have had it for 10 years. Doesn't affect my life in any way whatsoever it's really just like a yucky skin condition

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Hiya

I got diagnosed in December and every month since then I have had an outbreak, I have felt so depressed and even thought of killing my self as I can't live with it. I have a child too so I panic like crazy with her! I'm thinking if breaking up with my boyfriend and letting him have custody as I feel gross and don't want her around me. I need someone who is going though it! I don't have anyone to talk to! All I can think about is when I didn't have it or when I didn't know! I need help otherwise I feel I'm going to do somethink I might regret! 

my boyfriend doesn't even know cuz i cheated on him so I'm worried it could of been me! I cry nearly every day, ready to give up!

 

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Hi i was wondering what medication you use (if any ) for this virus not to effect your life