severe depression since two years, cant do anything, cant cook , cant concentrate, cant speak much , cant walk a lot, cant read, just stay in my bed, even if i force me to do something i am exhausted, it is a nightmare, even sitting at the table is too difficult! been on several meds, too many side effects, dont know what to do , doctors dont know either,i eat well, my vitamines are ok ...it is like i am living a severe burn out every day since two years.....someone like me? please, i dont understand.....family doing everything, i cant do anything ...i know i dont ask for a solution , but am desperate , so intense and so long it cant be....
Hi I didn't want to read and run as you sound so desperate for some help. I don't have any useful words of wisdom but I wanted to say don't give up. Keep talking on here as it will give you an outlet for your feelings. I have been where you are and it's frightening and overwhelming. Go back to the gp if you can and explain how bad things are. I really feel for you as it can feel like you are going mad and are trapped in your own head. I am suffering a relapse myself so totally empathise. Just keep talking. Xxxxx
Are you under mental health? If you're not moving about that can affect your mentality alot. Exercise releases natural good chemicals to the brain. You have to try to do things for yourself not to appease others. Its not easy but if you do not try to motivate yourself you'll end up regretting it. Try small things at first. Tell yourself that this depression does not rule you. Peoples opinions do not matter. Yours does. The rest of the world can get stuffed. Get back yourself. Eat properly. Drink water. Read, do things or get involved in things you enjoy. If you are worried about your family look into carers who can come and assist and offer respite. Whatever you do do not sit on front of a tv, continuously watch you tube or Netflix etc, get up be active as much as you can. Even sitting in bed listening to radio all day is actually no good. Get used to the quietness and be constructive. Hope this helps, Nick.
Anne
If you are not functioning, preferring lying down i your bed you need to know the cause of your condition. I understand you are depressed ? Do you know of any reasons why you are feeling the way you do. Look for reasons and to know the cause can affect you to move on in your Life.
What medications are you on at this time ?. Have you had a course of CBT to help you control your condition.
BOB
Oh how i can relate to your condition. It has been the same for me. I just dont know how tonshake it off. Attempts at different anti deps just made me worse. We need some expert advice. System not geared up for it.
I'm sorry things are so bad for you.
I've been there myself for a long time all I did was stay in bed, couldn't face doing anything or seeingn anyone and thought I was always going to be in that rut, couldn't see anyway out. I was put into a psychiatric hospital (for the 5th time) I was there for 11 days. Had a really bad time for the first few days (including a suicide attempt) wouldn't talk to anyone and spent most the days in my bed, but as the days went on I guess I'd given my head a wobble and told myself I need to do something. I woke the next day and something had changed, I was on new meds so I'm not sure if they played a part but I just felt more focused, less weight in my mind (if that makes sense) I started talking, I went to the groups and accepted all the help they offered me. I felt almost normal again which was a strange but good feeling.
I've been out of hospital around 4 weeks now and I know it's still only early days but I'm doing so much better, I no longer stay in bed all day, I set myself an alarm to wake me every morning and I get straight up and start my day. I'm doing all housework now, cooking meals, shopping and visiting family etc, and im also able to enjoy reading again now which I haven't done for so long.
If you read or have read any of my posts before you will see what a hopeless case I thought I was. I've had the odd down day but not as bad as have previously been and the next day I tell myself it's a new day and I start again. so I guess what I'm saying is there is hope and things can change. Just hang in there and keep trying and accept all help available to you.
Love dondons x
Hi Anne, I am going through depression for the last 15 months. It has been so hard and I am still in it. You will come out of it . This is my 3rd episode since 2001 - so I know that you will be ok from my own exerprience. Just hold on for some time.
What medicine are you on? Is this your 1st time.?
I have all the symptoms that you have. The side effects are countless and very painful.
Is this your 1st time. It has been 2 years since your depression and if you think that there is no improvement go see your doctor again and also if you have no confidence on your doctor you should change to another. I have a new mental health doctor to see what changes he can make.
We are always will to help on this site.
Keep in touch.
than you Stacey for your message, i just dont know how to overcome this and doctors told me they dont know what to do....as the meds i have problem with them, i am talking cymbalta 30mg now and feel more exhausted
i take cymbalta 30mg since three week , feel more exhausted, dizzy related tiredness medecine....
what can i do this if i have no energy to take a dish and wash it, you know it is really this...i just go out for a 20 min walk around my building and come back and have to sit or lay down, i try to go to the kitchen but i understand anything , i just cant concentrate and make an effort one year like this everyday,incredible but i ll try to do what you told me and find small pleasure, i dont know which one , get dressed is just an effort as i looking in the clothes is too much an effort, you may laugh at it but it is the reality...
i changed the doctor, and told me he does not know what to do
i have been to hospital several months, very tired because of the rythmn , the doc told me we dont know what to do......some meds were better in term of energy but i dont remember which one...
yes, very hard
I'm on venfalxine, like I say I'm not sure it's the meds, my focus or a mixture of both but things are getting better for me.
I hope and I'm sure you will find the right combination for you.
I sufffered a slight sicky feeling the first few days taking it but it soon passed.
I've tried lots of Meds too (including venfalxine) but at the time I was also taking mirtazapine so maybe the combination wasn't right for me?
I hope things get better for you soon x
Funny doctor - he tells you he does not know what to do. Is this your first time into depression? Do you get help from your family members? Are you home alone most of the time. Are you eating well?
Sorry to ask you so many question - this is because I want to help you.
Keep in touch. It will keep you busy.
yes, i understand....i am afraid to change again and again...i remember feeling ok before when i took duloxetine, but now it seems as it worsens my depression and exhaustion feeling.....i changed meds every 10 weeks....so i dont want to tell doctors about meds and what i felt
i wish i can have the right med to begin
How did you get into depression? Was it stress or it came just by itself. Was it a relationship problem?
i am on cymbalta first week 15mg, then 20mg now 30mg...feel more tired and spacey before i was on prozac 2 or 3 months and awful constant anxiety panic attack but i was not a zombie like this...i have been on almost every meds......before i never had those problems i mean 10 years before i got a med and it worked
doctors, i am deceived by them, they all listen to me but after....i can buy myself meds it would be better!
i dont know i happened just like that because of a succession of difficulties, i did everything alone and no one helped me, it was too much, i have my mother who is doing every thing, i do nothing, icant . i just walk infront of the flat cant go further....no i hade two depression before but cured with meds with no big problems
Are you under mental health team? Or adult social care? That probably would be a good route to look into. I know someone who has people come into assist them. These carers can come and help you in terms of physical things. Mentally it sounds like you need to ask your GP for a referral to mental health people. As said you go to focus on yourself and the present not your past. Good luck. Its a hard task but don't let people and their crapola get in the way of moving forward. Sounds like you need a new gp.