Cant handle feeling like this no more.
I’ve just turned 20; I’ve always been a shy girl but after leaving school and getting a job my confidence grew and I became an outgoing girl who loved going out with friends. However for the past year now I’ve been changing. And the worst thing is I don’t know what has triggered it. I can’t go to the doctors because I feel as if I’m wasting their time. I also feel guilty for feeling like this as there are people out there in worse situations! I have no reason to complain as I have a job and the best family and friends you could get. I constantly worry about everything, especially of what people think of me. If I go out, the next day is the worst, even if I haven’t drunk I need a friend to reassure me and tell me every detail of the night. Sometime I just suffer and don’t ask my friends because I feel as if they are sick of me and think I’m being silly. If I do drink which is hardly ever I could literally send myself insane with the questions I ask myself. My appearance is really bad also. Sometime I feel like I don’t want to leave the house or I actually don’t leave the house because of the way I look. It takes a lot of courage to get out the house and when I do go out I feel as if everyone is looking at me. I’m getting so spotty because I feel run down and my bags under my eyes are atrocious. Without fail I am sick before a night out. I constantly think of horrible scenarios in my head and believe that they are going to happen. I’m tired of being tired and having aching pains, I’ve been to the doctors about this and my bloods come back ok which I don’t understand. What is causing me to feel this tiered? I’m scared to tell people about the way I’m feeling in case they think I’m being pathetic and tell other people. It’s never ending Cycle. It’s getting me so down but I can’t show emotion as people will ask questions. I try to put on a brave face and try to act like the confidant girl I us to be, but inside its killing me. I feel as if I’m a freak.
How am I meant to get help if I can t even help myself and go to the doctors.
What if my symptoms aren’t even signs of anxiety?
What if I’m being pathetic and everyone feels this way?
There are too many what Ifs.
I’m meant to be going on holiday with the girls but I’m going to cancel it due to the way I feel.
You need to be more confident and love yourself more. Accept your self and others will too. Yes there is a good chance this is anxiety or you are causing anxiety from the way you think.
We all get aches and pains. I do almost everyday and I am a healthy woman. I am 34. However, worry and anxiety causes more aches and pains and definitely tiredness.
You shouldn't cancel your holidays. You need time to go enjoy yourself and to get your mind off your worries for a little while.
We all have worries all the time. Try not to let small stuff get to you. Take things one day at a time. Take time to do more for yourself. Extra time to try a new hair do, try new make up, something that makes you feel more better about yourself.
I am sure you are not a freak by any means. We all come down on ourselves once in a while but we have to stop being so hard on ourselves.
We are women and we are strong. You be strong, take control and try and fight these negative thoughts and worries. Dont be scared to go to your doc. You are not wasting their time. They get paid for that and that is their job.If we all thought we were wasting the doc's time, they wouldnt have a job right?
Tell your doc how your feeling, look into some support groups in your area and tale to a close friend who you can trust and tell them how you are feeling. If they are real friends, they will understand and help you though it. Believe me, you are totally normal and there is nothing wrong with you for worrying. Just dont worry so much about what others think.
Be happy and proud of who you are and love yourself. Thats all you can do. Thats all we anyone can do.
Definitely take that Holiday and enjoy it to the fullest. Dont let your mind and thoughts control your life. You be strong and fight this anxiety. I know its hard but you can do it. I have been dealing with anxiety for 18 yrs since I was 14 and although I have bad days, I decided one day that I AM NOT going to let me insecurities and silly thoughts take over my life. I deserve better and so do you...Dont ever forget that!!!!
Going over the same situations is not healthy. You sound a little OCD and must get help from a DR. for this before you can no longer control it. There is a chemical imbalance many times in people and they don't seek help. By reliving the past, you are not giving time for the future. Good Luck.
Hi,
have you thought about your image a lot when looking in the mirror? Does this cause you to worry even more? I think maybe that you might or might not have an anxiety concerned with your personal image and the way that people view you. Also are you eating OK? If not you may have an eating disorder. so go and see someone (if these questions have some truth) for advice.