first steps towards dealing with these feelings. Don't know how to explain them don't know anything really. Used to be a self assured person now just feel defeated. I need help that's the only thing I know for certain.
Im not ready to go to a doctor as I don't want this on my medical history. Feel lost I've told ,y partner but he hasn't taken it seriously and has brushed it off. Don't know what to do or how to get past this continuous up and down down down roller coaster of my life. Feel like I'm relying on others to be happy which isn't me but when I look at myself I can't find anything happy.
What at do you do on a down day?
Sharing how you feel can be helpful, I'm another one who feels ashamed at talking to people, so I understand.
It really depends on whether you feel seeing a doctor would be beneficial. If you're talking about seeing a GP, they will either give you SSRI's and/or a referral to counselling, or they'll refer you to secondary mental health services (community mental health team). Not trying to be cynical but the reality is that these sorts of teams are very stretched and generally don't do much to help.
If you want medication and you feel it is definitely the right way forward then stuff the medical history and go. There's nothing worse than being severely depressed and alone and totally unsupported. Depression is not looked down on as much as it used to be and it is enshrined in law that employers cannot discriminate solely on the basis of a mental health problem.
It does help to talk sometimes. Especially if it's with someone impartial who isn't going to judge you.
I am not sure what you mean about not wanting this on your medical history. Why is that? Your medical history is private and is between you and the doctor. Are you worried it will in some way damage your working life?
If you do not want to see a doctor and get help, then what is it you wish to do exactly? Depression is not an illness you can deal with on your own. You need support. I am sorry your partner has not taken it seriously as you need him to understand you are ill with depression.
Unfortunately depression is a life of ups and downs, and we have to cope with it as best we can. I take lots of supplements since stopping anti depressants after many years. If you feel you want to cope with this alone, it will be a long hard road. It is not something that can be got over very easily I am sorry to say.
On a down day you have to keep going as best you can. Do things that you feel you can cope with and take it easy and don't try and do too much. Go easy on yourself.
Depression does take a lot away from us, and is debilitating.
Would it not be better to get that support you need?
Sorry I don't mean to put a bigger downer on you, but I have had depression for a very long time and know how difficult it is to cope. I am used to the ups and downs, and people here manage the best they can. Not easy I know.
Don't know what else to suggest.
I appreciate your opinions and tanks for taking the time to give them. I clearly don't want to do it alone I wouldn't have posted on here if I wanted to do it alone.
as for medical history Im not looking for medication as no offence to anyone who does take medication, it is not for me and not an option I am willing to take. Of course I do understand that education is a valid option for a lot of people but for me I want to get through this a find healthy coping mechanisms to help get me through these down days and focus on the positives to get me back up. I don't feel a doctor or medication is an option in fact it would make me feel like a failure to rely on them (THIS IS PNLY FPR ME THOUGH AND I DO NOT JUDGE OR CRITISE ANYONE ON MEDICATIONS- in fact good on anyone who has found a way to get through depression or cope with it regardless of the way). Each to their own but I refuse to use medication.
Thank you for your input tho and I do appreciate it. I'm just wondering what people do in their down days. How do you all get through them?
Thank you for taking the time to reply. I agree with your comments completely. I just want to know some drug free ways of coping and to chat to people who understand that is why I've posted here.
This is a supportive community and I wanted to be part of that.
Concentrating on any interests you have - even if they're solitary. For example I find I get more depressed and anxious if I have nothing to do so I build models out of nanoblocks. Sounds totally lame but it gives me a sense of achievement being able to follow complex instructions and produce an end result.
Exercize and reading, going out for coffees, meeting friends. Just the small stuff, watching a good TV programme. It all helps.
Unless you are unable to keep yourself safe then it is a case of coping on your own and trying to get through each day as best you can.