For the last few days i have wanted to be based with my dad. Only one problem - he's not alive though. My family have done it again - they've upset me so much i would like my life to end so i can be with my lovely swert natured dad. So what's the easiest way to make this happen. My whole world seems black and this feels good! Please let me go, so i can join my dad.
Hi Sam,
Sorry to hear about your thoughts. you know all of us have these thoughts time to time. These thoughts will pass. You can call the Samaritans who are a uk based charity who deals with helping people face these situations and get out of it. you can Google your local phone no.
it can be hard when you are facing such feelings but you will come out of this. see your doctor if these feelings dont pass. There is lot a doctor can offer.
Let us know how you get on. But dont lose hope all our best wishes are with you.
Sam Don`t let your family get you down. Just look after yourself.
Yes I realise you loved your father.
But sad to say he is gone now.
You have to live for yourself.
Forget all family members who dont understand how you feel.
Forget them completely.
If they are like this now in your time of need.
Then they are no good. Just concentrate on YOUR LIFE and making it better.
There is a lot of fun to be had. And new experience to have end enjoy.
Just stay strong Sam OK?
Thank you for those people who kindly responded. You would think family would understand grief and give me the chance to miss my dad, but considering i was told to not cry or get upset at my dad’s funeral i’m not surprised i find it so hard. I’m disgusted at my sister. I don’t feel part of this family and am seeing a counsellor about this. I was told not to do this by the same person. I don’t care what they say, i Also see my counsellor about assault and my family never did anything about that either. It says a lot doesn’t it?
Hi Sam - why on earth were you not allowed to grieve your Dad? What “law” did they invoke that they felt they had the right to instruct you on how you should act? Grieving is a very important part of loss. Without it, the pain and anguish fester within, and like all wounds that are covered up and not allowed to breathe, it becomes poisonous and infects the whole system. I am outraged to read this was done to you.
Meanwhile, though you miss your Dad and his huge importance and support in your life, i would suggest that he would not want you hurting in this way. You have a job to do in this realm. It may seem a long and desolate road, but it is short from the stance of the Soul. Short and very important. You will see your Dad again when it’s your turn to go Home. Hastening that exit from this harsh and difficult world before your time is not a wise move at all.
With regards to your family - they don’t own you. Anyone who actively prevents you from dealing with your hurt and seeking relief and understanding has their own interests at heart and the first thought is “what are they afraid of?” Something about themselves and their own ego, I’ll bet. Keep seeking that help, grow into the person you are meant to be, then show them who’s boss. People can’t give you what they don’t have, and families are a pathway to that understanding. Keep strong - you are here for a specific reason and you will find it if you look.
Hi Wayne, there’s a reason why I seek out the support that i need off this site because whenever i have needed help or advice i have always got some on here. I have decided to not speak to my family at the moment. I am disgusted by them and think they need help not me. I am saddened by my sister’s attitude, they both started this by being rude to me when my dad was in our local hospice. I didn’t want to see him in there because he wasn’t very well at all and each time i go there i’m reminded of how sick he was. But i was told i ignored him there too. My mother told me not to cry at my dad’s funeral - he was my dad, a person who i adored. I have times where being with him seems the best idea. I have truly had enough my family. This hurts so deeply, hence the counselling. Thanks so much for trying to help me understand. One day i will jump - being with my dad is at times the only thing that feels right to me.