I'm 20 years old and I just received the worst news of my life a day ago. I got a phone call telling me that I had got my results back nd that I was positive for herpes. All I could think was how was I gonna tell my parents. This herpes disease is the hardest I've ever dealt wit. Sometime I think about hurting myself. I hate myself for not using protection sometimes I just was die. Please help me Idk wat yu really can do but anything positive will help.ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
Baby doll... I promise you, this will not be the worst news of your life and one day, you will look back on this and realize that it's not as big of a deal as you think. I promise you. I was devastated, just like most of us are when rexiwving the news, but I promise it will get better. As the days go on, you'll think about it less, you'll notice you went an hr or more w put thinking about it and just enjoying conversation and time out w friends. It is totally nor am to feel devastated and it is a grieving process for sure. Don't be so hard on yourself, condoms only provide 30% protection from herpes, so you could have gotten it anyway.
Just remember, this time will pass. You will not keep feeling this way. It in no way defines you and makes you any less than. You arw just a carrier, not the disease. We all carry multiple strains of herpes as is, unfortunately genital heroes has a stigma and that's due to ignorance and big pharma doing fear mongering..
You will go on about life feeling normal and happy again, I promise. You will marry and have kids one day, if that is what you want. I have 5 gfs w heroes. 3 are married w kids 1 married twice w kids and o e in a long term relationship and all had herpes going into their relationships and are happy. You will have this too. We all are here for yiu. If you need anything just reach out. Hang in there doll, we got your back. ;-)
Thank yu for hearing me out. I really appreciate it a lotðŸ˜
No problem. Feel free to ask me anything ... I'm full of knowledge on the virus. Keep your head up sweetie.. This is way more co.Mon than you realize.
Believe it or not. This is one of the most minor problems you will come across in life. I was diagnosed a year ago, I thought my life was over but now, I'm fine. I barely even notice when I have an outbreak.
I haven't told anyone about it, except my boyfriend, which took me a while to do. He is still with me, he is very understanding.
I never told my parents, why do you feel you need to? Somethings you can keep to yourself.
If you have any questions. You can feel free to private message me, or if you really need someone, I could offer you my number.
This site has helped me out A LOT when I was diagnosed. But I promise you, in a month you will forget all about it. =)
Best of luck.
Hi Heartack, I'm sorry you've received the news you were dreading. I too have just found out I also have it (although I'm still awaiting my results but it's definitely positive!)
Don't blame yourself at all. It's not your fault. The more you read up on this condition the more you realise just how common it is! Look how many people have cold sores! This is pretty much the same just in a different area. It's nothing to be ashamed of. You don't even need to tell your parents if you don't want to. Why would they need to know?
Do some reading online around it and you'll see that it's actually not a big deal in that it's not life threatening, symptoms are manageable, not everyone suffers recurrent breakouts, everyone is different. ive had amazing support from a friend I made on here the other day who has dragged me out of the same feelings you're going through so reach out to us all on here. You're not alone and it won't seem so scary in a few days. 😊
I definitely understand how you feel, sweetie. I believe we all have had the same reaction when we found out. I found out in July that I had herpes and I was devastated. Since then, I have had to tell 2 partners about having it before I became intimate with them and they both were fine with it. No, not everyone will be ok with it, but there are still open minded people out there who will realize that herpes doesn't define you and they won't look at you any less. Why do you feel the need to tell your parents? If it makes you uncomfortable, they don't need to know. Just know that this site has helped me soooo much! Everyone on here has been such a blessing to me and they will be amazing support for you also! Please feel free to message any of us or start a discussion anytime you need! You have an amazing group of people here and we will help you through this! And please rest assured that one day you will wake up and it won't even cross your mind that you have this. Keep your head up and show that smile.... you are so worth that!
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Heartack, are you in physical pain with sores? If so, ask your doctor for a numbing gel. That really helped me loads. The pain won't last forever, it will start to reduce in a few days. Can your parents/friends help out with the kids for a few days? Tell them you have flu or a tummy virus. All I want to do at the moment is sleep but today I have to go into work and I feel sick and achey. You WILL get through this, eventhough it feels like the worst thing in the world right now. Just remember, the pain and sores are only temporary