Oh fellow hipsterz...........I don't know if I can do these two weeks!!! I'm hurting so much from my shoulders and hands from this awful use of the walker!!! When I sit in the wheelchair I feel like im sitting on a rock, not to mention my leg & foot get cold and/or tingling, bed is ok but I can't be in it all day!! When it's time to go to bed at night my tailbone gets sore and no amount of shifting helps!! I'm itchy, my skin is so yucky looking!! I'm tired of this!! I don't know what dr will do in two weeks when I see him. Screaming & crying is no help. I see my hubby is starting to wear down. He has his own problems. I feel completely useless. I want to go somewhere but I can't even get in a car yet!! Praying and praying but I lose faith and hope. It's so frustrating and to go through all these things. I see no one except pt 2x a week now she will only b coming 1x a week. Y me???? Sometimes I think I was better off before this!! I try to keep in mind that I was having difficulty getting around, I was no longer able to wear the clothes and shoes I wanted, but.....sorry hippies. 😞😢😭
Well Linda - it may be time to go out and bark at the moon a bit😠😱😣😲!
Goodness knows you have been tested enough over the last while.
Call your husband and ask him to bring home your favourite takeout meal ... and don't forget your favourite ice cream or favourite guilty pleasure.
Set the table nicely with candles (and flowers if you can manage) and spritz yourself and have a nice cuddly evening with your man.
Tomorrow (or today if you are up to it - make a list of your favourite activities and figure out which ones are feasible right now - and make them happen. Call, email or text your friends and tell them that with 2 weeks to go you have reached the starkers (raving mad) mode and need urgent help, s.o please come and visit.
If all else fails, order in a massage therapist to give you head and shoulders, feet and toes - should be feasible.
Big hugs ... you will get through this.
L
I know where you are coming from.It will pass.I had the problem with tailbone pain.Resorted to sleeping on a neck pillow.It felt like it would never end and I wondered what I had done.There was crying and swearing believe me.
It will end.I am 6 weeks post now and able to sleep on my side!!!
Still got a sore spine but hoping time will help.
Don't despair.You are not alone ,as this forum shows.
Thinking about you
Janet xx
Oh, Hunni
Love and Light from me to you.xx moan all you like I have, it can only get better. Look at what you can do and take baby steps from there, I turned a corner this week, I can lift the dreaded lead leg, bend my knee, get a drink from the kitchen wITHOUT spilling and even go a few hours without falling asleep Do you have a reclining chair? mine has been a god send. I slept in it for the first week.
Send you very gentle hugs xxxxx
Kim
A massage therapist coming in is a great idea.... They'll definitely make ur back, shoulders and arms feel better
Are you taking your meds often enough ? Some days are awful but you will hopefully see an improvement every few days - seriously it does get better. Look forward to the things you will be able to do that you couldn't before.
I remember thinking at one stage 'why did I do this, I would rather have the pre-op pain' but once I turned a corner I know why I did it because the pain before was bloody horrible - this pain will ease and then disappear. It's a long term gain for short term pain. We've all been there - use this forum, share experiences, listen to the positives because you can do this. Try not to be hard on yourself - cake helps 🍰. I should know I've eaten enough these last few weeks 😃
Each week I see a little more progress. I'm at week 3. Looking forward to next week. Yes. It's hard in the beginning. Don't be afraid to use pain AIDS and ice. Also I still use pillow under my knee while sitting and at night. Still get a little pain now in then in various parts of my leg but doc says its normal. Don't overdo. Normal to get depressed now and then. I did too.
Dear Linda
We have all been there, it will improve. I have found having something under my legs in bed and extra pillows eases the pain in the tail bone.
Depending on what pain meds your on some cause itchy skin so do check this out.
My legs looked like was an elephant for 1st 2 weeks, now gone down and I am 4 wks post op.. I have crutches which also hurt the hands and shoulders but my motto is "NO PAIN NO GAIN" if only I could go past the barrier.
You will see an improvement believe me... I went through I wish I had not had it done.. now the otherside and I am beginning to see the light at the end of the very dark tunnel
Thanks Linda, I need a change of scenery. Being home bound SUX! 2 weeks and 2 more to go!! Got a couple of emails that there are some wine pick up parties, I'm wine club member to 2 wineries, and I won't be able to go....😞 Just be barely getting off restrictions! I hope that changes when I see him. I have been thinking what I want for dinner tonight but my 8 yr old grandson wants to spend the night, and my husband has a funeral he is going to this evening. His friend & coworker passed away last Saturday. Was a shock. Trying to be positive! Thanks for listening and offering some things I can do to help me for the next 2 weeks! 🤗🤗. LD
Thank you Janet! How is it my tailbone doesn't bother me during day when I'm just chilling for awhile but come bedtime it's a pain!! No amount of shifting helps!! I appreciate all the support even on my bad days!! Thank from the bottom of my heart! 💖 LD
Aww Kim thanks! 🤗 I know that dreaded weight aka: the leg!! I'm still using that gadget to get out of bed. Great that things are getting better for you! I know I should be grateful things have gotten better but 2 more weeks, right now, feel like forever!! As for a recliner, yes I have one. I used it when I had my first hip replacement, but since I dislocated it and dr had to do a revision, dr said no hip flexion past 80 degrees and recliner will put me past that not to mention getting out of it will involve a lil too much hip movement which I'm NOT allowed to do! 2 more weeks!! God willing dr will give me more freedom and everything will be good from here on out ! 🤗🤗 LD
I was thinking about that the other day!! I'm gonna look into that! Thanks! 🤗🤗. LD
Mm mm 😋😋 cake sounds yummy!! I only take tramadol 1x a day. It was making me so tired & out of it. For most part it's been working. At night at bedtime I take a couple of Tylenol. But I really wanted to stop that. Thanks for listening!! 🤗🤗 LD
Thanks Molly! You're right. It's just some days I feel enough is enough!! I can't do this!! I appreciate all you hippies! 🤗🤗. LD
You're right Elaine!! I need to stay positive! Just some days everything starts to get cloudy and I feel helpless and unsure. But I do appreciate all of you on this forum!! It's a great place to rant & rave! A great place to feel support! 🤗🤗LD
Linda l feel you its so hard sometimes l have went from having a normal. Life working everyday to since last november been through 3 operations and been stuck at home for months and months. It sends you crazy. Its worse if your in pain.
I had 1 hip replaced in december then the other hip replaced in feb this year. I thought that was it l could maybe get back to normal life.....but no l then founf out l needed 2 knee's replaced. Right now like you l am not a happy bunny. I am 3 week post my 1st knee replacement and beleive me l would take hip replacements anyday rather than knee. Its constant pain unless l have just took my medication. I so want to get out the house as my mum has just founf out she has cancer and l want to soend as much time as podsible with her. I have noticed the knee is getting better everyday but l have had days l jusy cry and feel so alone and nobody knows how l feel apart from me and if ciurse the people on this forum. The time l did have inbetween my 2 hips an my knee when l. Was able to drive what happens is my husband ends up.in hospital really ill they think it was an infection that traveled up onto his brain do l spent 2 week crying living in adrenaline until he finally turned a corner and started getting better. And l had my mum.to deal with her cancel which looked bad to. Tbh Linda l don't know how l.got through the time but you do hun. You will get there and suddenly ine day you willl feelma lot better. My new hips are great and l am so glad l got them done as l was in severe pain for a year with my hios being bone to bone. So hang in there lady you will. Pull stenth from somewhere. What l always thought that there were people out the who are worse than you even though simetimes it does not feel like it. I was so depressed for a lot of the time l was stuck at homr but l am getting there. And so will you hun.
Keep your chin up
Laura
Xx
Hi there Linda we've all been there has the aweful pains you had before your op gone or at least some of it ,I no mines much improved,I'm 9weeks
post op now and today I've gone most of day without crutches,I've cryed for Enngland felt sorry for myself but the difference at this stage is great
Be brave you'll get there .hugs xxx😁🐰
Right now it's hard to tell since after this second surgery my dr put strict precautions and have been non weight bearing for 4 weeks with 2 more to go, no hip movement & no flexion past 80. I'm trying to be brave!! It's hard!! Thanks for being here for me! 🤗🤗. LD
Wow Laura sorry to hear about your mom. My prayers to her and you. I appreciate you so very much and sharing with me. I know things could be worse. I got to keep the faith and hope. Thank you and God's blessings to you and your mom. 🤗🤗. LD
Oh Linda....first you don't have to apologize at all. Oh gosh if I had been in your shoes I wouldn't have held it together near as well as you have. Let it out! Is ok, you need to vent and certainly have reason to! Unreal all that you have been through. I know it probably doesn't seem like it but the two weeks will be over soon. Look how far you have made it already. Is their anyone who can come and help out a little and give your hubby a break? I know what you are talking about my hubby was wearing thin with me when I had my first hip replacement (also had a fracture). Then knowing that also makes you feel worse, Please know that you are being thought of, and been keeping you in my prayers. It will be getting better soon. I know soon as you are able to be weight bearing you will start to see improvement. We are all rooting for you here. So sorry that you have had to go through so much. Sending the most calming, healing hugs possible....Hang in there...........Hugs....Barb