I got a new partner about two months after we started seeing each other, I had a doctors appointment for birth control and an UTI. I ended up testing positive for Chlamydia.. shortly after I started having all the symptoms.. I am almost for certain I got it from him.. I haven't seen anyone since: he said he doesn't think he has it because he doesn't have symptoms, and I think he lied about being seen at a walk in.. Is it at all possible I didn't give this too him. like can you not pass it on if you are having unprotected sex? I think he keeps trying to give it back to me.. and he tried talking me out of my next appointment .. What should I do..?
You want to see very recent paperwork of results that clear him of chlamydia. You have to have your best interests in mind; no one else will in this world (aside from maybe your parents if you had good ones). Don’t meet up with him unless and until has the paperwork, FULL STOP. Tell him you want to trust him, but you just want to be sure as having chlamydia put you through hell and you need to be sure he doesn’t have it. If he cares about you he’ll listen and do it. If he continues to talk you out of doctors appointments to get tested and refuses, then don’t walk, RUN from this guy. Take this from a guy who’s extensively studied social psychology, and if there’s one thing I’m pretty good at it’s reading people. I saw your previous post on this too, and I think guy is probably bad news, though that’s admittedly on too little data to make say anything for certain. But asking him for the paperwork will tell you how much this guy truly cares about you and is invested (or willing to invest) in a relationship with you. This is hardly asking the world of him; it’s really the only sane option if you care at all about your own well being. You know this is what you have to do or you wouldn’t be asking. Be strong and stand up for yourself; you can do it.
Addendum: based on what you’re saying, yes, he probably has it – or at least had it, as maybe he has received treatment and just didn’t want to admit to having it. But guys can have fetishes for the oddest things, and that can include exactly what you’re talking about, even with much worse infections such as HIV.
thank you..