Blue Moon, it's an outrageous way to treat women and hardly an "offer" of elective cancer screening together with real and balanced information permitting you to make an informed decision to screen or not.
Informed consent is a legal right and the doctor has an ethical responsibility to obtain that consent.
The UK has a call and recall system and i understand your GPs also, receive target payments for pap tests. (ours do too) Some practices, nurses, doctors, receptionists have taken it upon themselves to pursue women aggressively and disrespectfully, this is unprofessional and unethical conduct. Some practices remove you from patient records, ie. sack you, if you continue to decline or flag your file for opportunistic pressure when you next appear at the practice. This sort of conduct should be challenged...report them to the Screening Authority and/or send a letter of complaint to the practice outlining how you've been treated.
Some practices may "say" you need to see a doctor or two for counseling before you can opt-out. This is an unethical tactic, a try-on, to pressure you into screening.
I contacted the NHS Cervical Screening Authority about the treatment some women receive and they assured me all screening is elective and they respected our right to decline. They said some over-zealous doctors or practice nurses would be responsible for these phone calls, home visits etc. You don't have to provide a reason for choosing not to screen, unless you choose to provide one. (I chose to discuss my reasons with my GP, but if you go that way, make sure you do your reading, some doctors see it as an opportunity to challenge you)
If my GP was rude, dismissive or refused to accept my decision, I'd change my doctor and let her know why I was changing my doctor. I think it's important to challenge this sort of conduct, they do it because they get away with it, it works and gets most women screened. I'd sign the letter and include a paragraph saying you do not agree with the wording of the opt-out letter and the practice should review their attitudes and conduct. All screening has risks and hopefully, some benefit, and legally and ethically requires informed consent. It is inappropriate and disrespectful to female patients to harass them about screening or to present screening in a one-sided "must have" way. The use of scare tactics is also, inappropriate.
Few benefit from pap testing as the cancer is rare, always was, while a much larger number of women endure excess biopsies and over-treatment after false positive pap tests. It is for us to decide, not practice nurses or anyone else. For me it was easy, near zero risk of cervical cancer v a 77% lifetime risk of colposcopy and potentially damaging biopsy or over-treatment. (Now I know I'd be HPV- and not at risk) I've never screened and I'm now 55 and unlike most women my age, have an intact cervix. It's shocking to see the damage caused to huge numbers in an reckless attempt to help a few. ALL women matter...and anyway,there was never a need to harm so many with evidence based screening and informed consent.
Blue Moon, it's the practice that is in the wrong here, not you, you have every right to decline screening for any reason. The UK cervical screening program says it respects informed consent, they could even be asked to speak to the practice about their conduct. Weekly phone calls is harassment, which makes me think it's a practice nurse drunk on power. There is a disturbing thread on another website where practice nurses talk about chasing women to get them screened and boasting they "get" everyone. I challenged them and called them out on their attitudes, it's grossly improper conduct that needs to be addressed, I can only assume these people have not been trained or supervised properly or reflect dysfunctional thinking at the practice.
By the way, Dr Margaret McCartney, the Scottish GP and writer, has also declined pap testing and will also, decline mammograms when she turns 50. We're not alone...there are lots of women and men who decline cancer screening. You're right, men are treated differently, I think the profession is still very paternalistic.
These programs treat women badly and that needs to change, I think it starts with us, refusing to accept this treatment. Australia may introduce a call and recall system, it gives them more control over women and helps them achieve targets. I will seek legal advice if they refuse to remove me permanently from the registerI know in the UK women opt-out and then the letters start again 4 years later... you "can't" opt-out permanently...well, we'll see about that, it's another try-on. These people back away quickly when they're challenged, they know this is unethical and possibly, illegal.
By the way, most women cannot benefit from pap tests, you may be interested to know the new Dutch program will offer 5 HPV primary tests at 30,35,40,50 and 60 or self-test with the Delphi Screener, and ONLY the roughly 5% who are HPV+ and at risk will be offered a 5 yearly pap test. More women will reject population pap testing when they discover there is a far better way to screen for this rare cancer. More women who wish to screen will seek out HPV primary testing or self-testing. I know more Australian women are ordering the Delphi Screener online. MOST women cannot benefit from pap testing, it just risks our health, why on earth would we endure a lifetime of unnecessary pap testing and accept the high risk of over-treatment?