I was bullied in work a couple of years ago,I was already suffering from high levels of anxiety at the time,and some of the bullying was related to how my work colleagues perceived me, I was called nuts weird and asked randomly if I had taken my meds. I had a spell in hospital for anxiety and depression which they new about. Any way two of those staff left partly related to how they treated me. The trouble is now I am in an other work environment same company, I have been going through high levels of anxiety again because of new working environments,and have been bullied again but I stuck up for myself, but find it difficult to deal with my thoughts around this.The thoughts just stick in my head, my head feels like it has a tight band around it and I feel like I'm going mad, I'm scared I'm going to end up back in hospital.
Hello Rhian
I was so sorry to read about your plight in the workplace i am not surprised you feel the way you do. You need to take this matter to your immediate manager there is no room for a bully in the work place and these culprits should be sacked and taught a lesson your work place should also be giving you support and you should not be made to feel like the way you do. These people should be ashamed of themselves. Ross
hi rhian. so sorry to hear of ur history of being bullied in the work place. we've become such an uncaring & sometimes a brutal society. what might help u cope with the feelings/emotions around the bullying would be to use a technique called emotional freedom technique or eft for short. it's easy to learn & simple to self-apply. it's got no side effects. it can be very powerful, yet gentle and effective. have a google & watch some demos on u-tube. if these ppl keep on bullying u, i'd have a word with HR or/and ur line manger.
best wishes
Caitlin
Hi ross thanks for your reply, the last time I was bullied it did eventually come to light there were three staff involved two of which were more ot less sacked for other reasons, the third one had mediation with. I had a meeting with my manager Friday I didn't bring up the most recent incident because I felt I had delt with it, I will have to content myself with making sure if it happens again I will report it.
Thank you Caitlin, you hit the nail on the head there, I find it difficult to cope with how cruel people can be,the conflict comes when I question how other people deal with bullies, most people seem to find a coping strategy, where as I just seem to fall apart maybe that's where the eft might come in handy, I heard about it years ago, will definitely google it thanks again x
I, too, was bullied at work. I was the "new kid on the block", I had dealt with this since I was young, being called "odd" or peculiar,etc. So, later in life, being bullied by adults came as a surprise to me, actually. But, I had always been so use to adversity, I just ignored the slights, and the looks, and the laughter whenever I was in their space. I wld think"what small ppl they r". Basically, I just ignored them. And this gave them no fuel. so they just gave up. And I just continued on. Who needs this???? YOU hv to get a backbone!!!!
I read some of the above replys. From experience, HR cannot help u with this. The bullying will get worse if u complain. JUST ACT LIKE U DONT SEE OR HEAR THEM and just smile at them, be civil and say as little as possible when u hv t be iin their space. Trust me!!