Hi I know I'm posting like every day and I should probably give it a rest but..well I just feel I have to make one last post about something I've worried about for a long time..and that's flying for the longest time I've had a phobia of feeling trapped if I'm ever in a situation where I'm stuck in one place I'll start to panic for example I absolutely hate lifts or elavators whatever ya wanna call them and I just hate the thought of not being abe to get fresh air when I want too but I've always managed for the most part very well and it's only recently with my anxiety that busses have become a problem with me and the fact It all started with an anxiety attack on the bus adds to way that makes me uncomfortable but I always pull through thinking well it's not like im really trapped I could get off if I wanted too and yeah it's hard but I just about manage but with flying I would be stuck on there with absolutely no way out until it lands no way of getting fresh air or anything..and that just sounds so horrible to me and I'm certain I would have a panic attack and feel awful the whole journey but the s****y thing is I've been in a long distance relationship for a year now and I don't wish to give up on it but she lives in Canada..she says she will come to me and not to worry but she has to go back and see her family at some point and I'd feel awful just letting her go on her own and me just staying home also I would like to travel to different places one day..but I feel I'll never be able to get on the plane cause it's all so terrifying..and I'm constantly thinking I'm never gonna get over this anxiety too..now im so much better than i was and I've had anxiety for like 5 weeks and I've only had 2 full on panic attacks but other than them all i get is sometimes these mini panics that im just able to deal with after drinking some water and getting up for a sec but I've read stuff where it's like you have to face it and accept it but when I feel the fear that could turn into a panic attack I always just do my usual thing to be rid of it I can't face it it's just too terrifying and I don't wanna just feel it I can't possibly handle it..and if to get over anxiety you have to fully feel a panic attack and let it feel worse and and worse until it's over then I can't do it and I'm never gonna get over anxiety..
Hi i totally understand how u feel. I haven't been on a plane for 14'years for fear of panic or being ill. I used to fly at least 2 or 3 times a year. I haven't been on a bus or train for years either. Will only go within walking distance of my house or travel by car. Try and get some counselling as this has definitely ruled my life. Hope u can get through this
Yeah..I'll do the best I can but it's so hard..I'm not strong..and I'm sorry to hear about how it is with you I hope things improve I'm sure you know it but you're not alone..it's such an awful horrible thing..I hope one day you and me can live happily without fear.
Hi there,
Lots of what you are saying is very relevant to me, so take comfort from that. The start of my anxiety problems actually began on a plane, so for me to have to get back on a plane was really difficult. That was 5 years ago, and I've actually just returned yesterday from a holiday in Santorini, Greece.
I'd love to be able to tell you I have a grand secret that will make it all okay but unfortunately I do not have it. However, and I'm sure you've heard this before if you've done some research, you need to face it. I can guarantee you 100% it will not be as bad as you think it will be. Perhaps, if you are financially able to, try and take a short distance flight. It will build your confidence.
Also, being nervous (or even looking panicky) on a plane is not uncommon. I completely understand and actually feel the same about the fresh air thing but you will be able to get through that. It may be uncomfortable for a while but once it has passed you will feel so much better and be proud of yourself that you've really achieved something.
Hope this helps mate.
It's not easy. I started at the age of 18 feeling crap. I'm now 46 with 3 kids. I've been up an down over the years feeling sick, shaky etc. Over the last year I've had this horrible breathing thing. The worst I've ever felt with anxiety. Finally approached the doc about 6 months ago. No help previously cos i knew what it was. My gran suffered from agoraphobia and i knew all the symptoms. Thought i cud deal with it myself. Nope. The last year has been the worst. All we can do is try and deal with it, try not to be afraid of it, the way our minds work is what we have to change. By god if tried but it's so hard
I get the feeling too. I can't be in doctors offices because the area is small I feel I will suffocate being in there. I hate big places too. Feels like a fear of being trapped and needing to know there's always a exit to go out and breathe or leave. I totally understand. You can, there will come a point in time you wont care anymore. That's what people tell me...as we get older we won't care. Some people have a mid life crisis in their 20's or 30's. I hope I get one right now. If you can't get in a plane and it causes you what you described. Sounds like what I feel when I used to go out. One day this problem will go away maybe you get f*d up and decide to f it and do the things you have always avoided like this. Let her come. You have a problem I'm sure she will understand. You will get there💪 All of you will🙌🙏Stay Strong💖
I'm 18 now..and it might not be the same but I keep having worries about my breathing like it's just not right and I'm not getting enough air..it's so awful..and wow you managed this long and had 3 kids!? Im terrified at the thought of getting a job and panicking nevermind responsibilities like that..you're certainly stronger than me..I'm abit up and down too but I don't feel like I could ever really overcome this it's such an overpowering fear..so hard to face..
I'm currently 18 and still looking for a job but I do hope I can get the courage to try a short distance flight with some friends and build that confidence..I really hope I can..I just wish I could rely on meds honestly but I imagine it probably doesn't help too much..
Thank you :' I'll do the very best I can
Didn't mean to do winky face xD
It's awful. I have a busy life which helps. The breathing thing i feel so hard to deal with. I try to do deep breathing but i still don't understand how anxiety can cos all these horrible symptoms. Maybe if i accept that i will be on the road to recovery. Please get help now. Don't be like me 30 years on
Lol don't worry. 🙏
I feel you pal, it ain't easy. No one actually understands it until you've really been through it, I feel like I'm on the same journey as you but maybe I am slightly ahead, my anxiety started at 18, I'm 23 now and I've learnt to control it to a certain degree. I actually did a psychology degree to, realistically, try and solve my own issues. If you want any further advice or anything I can try and help based on what I've learnt from experience!
All the best