So I recently quit my job because I knew it not for me anymore and that I had to do something that made me happy. Only problem now is that my anxiety is telling me i made a bad decision and that I will never find something I like. I am 27 years old and have a very supportive father who said I can stay with him while I figure myself out, only problem is that I don't know where to begin. The anxiety gets so real and it makes me feel worthless and like a failure. I try positive self talk and read a lot online but I know I have to be the one to make the change. I just get these feelings of hopelessness and it just really takes a toll on me to the point where I can't concentrate on what it is I actually want. If anyone has any input that would be great thanks.
Go speak to your Doctor and seek a good therapist and work on yourself for a bit. You need you. You made the correct decision to go back home for you. Start with a visit to your gp this is common they can guide you.
please dont berate yourself. Thats sabatoge. This is just one bad chapter in an entire book of your life.
Dixoadam,
Though my situation was a little different to yours, the foundations were the same in that I no longer wanted to do something that I felt was an empty road for me.
Thinking this means that you have bigger hopes and aspirations for yourself than the position you find yourself in. This is good...you wanted to make a change and you did so. It's also fantastic that you have a parent who supports you through this.
I understand that you suffer from anxiety, but I think it is really important to emphasise how stressful, frightening and disheartening your situation can be. You have made a brave step and I defy anyone to do the same and not feel some element of trepidation. It is also perfectly normal to feel like a failure.
My advice is simple, but it got me through: remember why you left your job in the first place. Get a sheet of paper and write these reasons down and keep it somewhere that you can easily reach it when you question your decision.
No one makes this step lightly... You had good reason to want a change.
Once you come to terms with your decision and begin to manage your anxiety better you can then begin your next step. So many options are available to you. You could return to education, volunteer and add valuable work experience...perhaps you have a career in mind and can actively work towards this.
It sounds like you have a great relationship with your dad. I recommend that you talk about your options with him, lay out your ideas and then perhaps together you can lay out a plan of action.
It's early days at the moment. The decision feels new, raw and you're vulnerable.
I know that you suffer from anxiety as I do, but please know that some things will generate anxiety for ANYONE and with good reason.
Give yourself a break x
Personally if I was in your condition I would make an appointment to see your GP, make a list of your concerns so you can explain how you feel. and get more out of your Appointment. Some CBT may help so your GP may refer you to that department
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