HI liz ~
While it's been years since having children, I believe I suffered the same affliction as you. I had my first child at age 24, and between the my age of 20-24, I had an etopic pregnancy, three miscarriages and a intrauterine death at 7mths. then a pregnancy of my second child at age 30 , both pregnancies w/child were premature by 5-7 weeks; and two years later had a complete hysterectomy.
I was quite young to have had a complete hysterectomy and it did change the hormones. I went into a downhill spiral with my hormones. I was happy, then sad, then angry and yes, mostly agitated with anxiety. My gynaecologist put me on a HRT. The mood swings but most important that awful feeling of anxiety subsided and I started to feel somewhat "normal". I can't say normal again because throughtout the years of ovulating, I suffered awful PMS which was nothing but a nightmare so I wasn't quite sure of what my normal was. This problem also ran/runs in the family. All the Aunts and female cousins and now daughters in our family had experineced the severe signs of PMS and early hysterectomy, although my daughters and my cousins daughters are entering into that age where we all had hysterectomies. Hopefully, and so far, our girls haven't had the extreme PMS symptoms as we did, perhaps the cycle has changed...I'm wondering why? Guess that's another thread I can check into or perhaps start
I have to say HRT did help for approx. 10 years; then at age 41, I was told I was postmenopausal. I was pretty much in shock. The gynaecologist explained that after a hysterectomy, one tends to jump start on the premature menopause cycle. I had noticed that I had a few (three, maybe) of nightsweats but didn't think much about it because I just thought maybe I was having dreams causing anxiety.
Speaking with my doctor about this, she said that I was experiencing all signs of menopause. I was delighted that all I had was maybe three nighttime sweats and that was it! The doctor increased my HRT by a few mgs...it eliminated the night sweats.
Liz, hope you get the treatment you desire and you're able to settle down and live. It's like we have a wonderful family, great kids, a husband that loves me and I was depressed? Why? This isn't making sense. When explained how the body operates w/o the proper hormones, all came to fruition.
I hope you decide what's best for you and your family and you're able to move out of this part of your life and enter into a healthy wonderful life. Not sure this helps but it is my experience and thought you'd like to know, many do understand you.
Warm regards,
Frustrated