I literally feel like im losing it. I am almost 48 and i feel like i am rotting a slow death mentally and physically. I put so much stress on my body and mind over a year ago and weighed 92 lbs and stopped getting a period until recently. Have gained 10lbs but i Feel weak and like i have the flu ALL the time, pressure in head, tight tingly feeling all over i can only describe as torture, so dry all over, dry mouth yellow on tongue horrible breath, vivid dreams, non stop gas, panic, anxiety, a feeling of over stimulation but exhausted at same time, racing mind but like im moving in slow motion at the same time, even when i urinate and a ton of mucus comes out. My sister says its the start of menopause that im sure I made worse with the stress i put on my body from over exercising. I am extremely sensitive to smells and sounds i cant take it. Have gone to so many Drs and everything comes back normal meanwhile I pray to die almost everyday and have 2 beautiful children. Feel like my insides are rotting and my body rejects everything. Cant take the dry mouth, tongue and odor that i can smell and taste even tho my family says theres no smell it doesnt take a rocket scientist to figure out that its beyond offensive to ppl. Does anybody else get this? Please i just want to die already:(
you may want to do tests for candida epstein barr lyme etc. just to make sure that its not something else. i seemed to be having a harder time than anybody i knew or anybody on the forum so after 6 blood tests i finally found out i have Epstein barr virus. i too lost 25lbs was working out like a maniac and coupled with the hormones dropping the virus has kicked my butt for 6 months now . its been pure HELL!!!
Sorry to hear you are feeling so awful. Some of your physical symptoms could be hormonal but if you at feeling so low perhaps speak to a medical professional and consider a mild anti depressant or look at HRT.... If your doctor thinks it's a good idea.
YES!! from 46 to 48 was all that for me. it was a horrible two years to be sure...but it does end. stay strong...take long relaxing baths...and bluntly tell you family that YOU need care...that it needs to be all about you for a bit. Take time to take care of YOU right now and let them take care of themselves for a bit. it was a very rocky time for my marriage...but my marriage has really grown through it. my husband went from a blah, never there unless he wanted sex ignore me all the time kind of guy...to a wonderful, attentive and charming man who adores me after 28 years...lol. so it really was worth those two years of me feeling terrible and useless and in a fog and feeling ill. it looked up for the last year and a half...no anxiety...feeling fantastic...and in the last month I got wolloped with headaches and jaw pain that have me almost in tears at times. but I will get through this too...and my once inattentive husband is offering massages and cuddles now...so it aint so bad
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I understand how your feeling, it happens all of a sudden and you dont know where to turn. There seems to be so many different symptoms where we all each get certain ones. It does feel like your going mad a f always feeling unwell, its like you have good and bad days. I dread how im going to feel in the morning. I had very bad anxiety and thought something life threatening was the root cause, i still havent been fully diagnosed with perimenapause, but with all the different symptons its looking likely thats what it is. I have had cameras, bloods, ct scan and xrays and an ultrasound scan to check for other issues... they have come back clear.
I have started to try and stay calmer as if i dont i start feeling really unwell again.
Go and see your GP and ask if they will do hormone bloods to check if is the menapause.
Take Care
Its like you are describing my life. my menopause is literally killing me. My legs dont work properly, I have developed intolerance to most foods and my brain doesnt work. Thank heavens for my supportive husband who is becoming more like a carer every day. I an 49 and 5 years in how much longer must I endure this
Hi Susan, I lost weight too last year when I stated this mess. I was down to 100 lbs and looked like death. Finally put some weight on and look somewhat healthy. Looks are deceiving though...I know what you are feeling. Some days my body is so fatigued that I am shocked when I actually wake up in the morning! Weird though, not like yawning tired...just worn out! I also have a weird tremor in my hands. I stopped googling because I thought I had Parkinsons
I had a sinus infection last year...first time in my life...I could smell my own breath when I had it...smelled like a toilet....very weird. Migraines and awful vertigo unbalanced too...everything bothers me, weather, smells, sounds, lights. Migraines somewhat under control for now with medication. But, I feel as if I am not with the program. It is not the med because I was like this before! Like cognitively...but all tests come back fine! I am 41, married 2 kids...gotta hang in there! Want to start combo BCP, but dr wants me wait on my period...that is very late now. ugh! CANNOT WIN!
Thank you:) I am so afraid to take anything now and ive read bad things about HRT. Of course im one of those that googles everything which i know is the worst thing you can do but when youre desperate its hard not too.
Thank you:) I wish i could say my marriage was good but it isnt. Atho He has been very supportive in all the drs ive gone to and testing ive had done. It has and is costing so much money. Part of me thinks its because he knows the stress he put me under is partly what got me here. I am glad tho that yours turned around and is better. I am hoping for a day when i can say the same:)
Hi thank you:) i know- there are so many symptoms and like you ive had scans, brain mri, ultrasounds, repeated bloodwrk, urine tests. You name it. The gyn i went to said there isnt a blood test to check if youre in perimenopause or menopause? Im seeing my 5TH naturopath who is checking gut things and detoxification which i feel i do not detoxify good and thats where the odor comes from. Its a living hell but then i see someone struggling with something else and i feel like an idiot:(
Im sorry youre also feeling these things, It is awful. I hope there is an end soon or at least something to help some of the symptoms. Its very hard getting through the day, working, feel like i have failed my kids, my family, my friends. I dont want to do anything go anywhere. Just want to do nothing but even then i cant relax.
Hi yes i googled so much the past 5 years iv convinced myself i have everything. Im to blame for the weight loss- Anxiety depression and digestive issues went into an eating disorder you could say. But i feel its all hormonal and gut health and that i dont detoxify good and thats why i smell:( now i have all these other symptoms and sensitivities and legit feel like im losing it. Best way to describe it is i feel like a drug addict who doesnt want to be and anything i try makes me feel worse so much worse- exactly like you said-cant win and it pisses me off because there are ppl, children suffering and dying everyday and i hate sounding like a victim.
Hi Susan
Yes dear, i totally understand your plight, I understand it all too well, and its a dreadful nightmare what happens to us all, at varying degrees and levels. So many symptoms i have had and still have. I have been in the storm as I call it for 1 1/2 yrs Its slowly getting better, but its really difficult. Moods and anxiety are by far the worst, i understand the overstimulation and exhaustion, dry mouth etc etc. the guilt for not being the mom you have to and need to be. its a major horrific time in our lives that is a sin of the human condition that we as women have to deal with. No your not crazy, and none of it is nothing short of hormones. When you say you pray to die though is this depression your feeling or your just totally overwhelmed? You will get through it but you need to be patient, and very kind to yourself. Just hang in there, and know it will get better. It wont get better overnight though, so if you can mentally prepare for a journey and not fight it, it might be easier. I struggle all the time trust me. Just read my posts, or those of others..its just like this for some of us we get it realllllyy bad. I also was and am still dealing with mono exposure so had massive fatigue. it just seems like a twisted cruel joke. Lots of support headed your way, stay on the forums and stay strong.
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Hi and thank you for your support and i send some back your way as well! Yes both depressed and overwhelmed. Unhappy marriage for a long time. Have always been disgusted with myself because of bad breath and body odor which i feel is worse even tho my family says theres nothing there. You'd never know by looking at me- always put together, hair done, make up on so the things i smell completely disgust me. Stress over my daughters and some things they struggle wth. It all becomes too much and i pray to die. Terrible thing to pray for when i have 2 beautiful children i know:(
for body odour and down there odour drink pineapple juice daily...pure unsweetened. works very well for me. i get bad breath as well. i think mine is from postnasal drip. i havent found a cure for that one yet...lol
i too have said to God if you want to take me take me now . im suffering TERRIBLY with meno and mono at the same time . i feel so so ill i totally understand where you are coming from . we all get very low points but lets just hope that nothing stays the same . that we improve and lead happy healthy lives .
I tried the pineapple juice a cpl years ago. Unfortunately i have such terrible digestive issues- candida and sibo which i guess isnt that uncommon but i feel like i have soooo many more reactions to whatever eat its awful- I eat the same handful of things everyday it sucks. Waiting for test results from naturopath i went to. Thats why i wonder if my symptoms ate so bad as a result of my stomach and intestines bcuz most of the hormones are produced there which i didnt realize:( ive tried everything for the breath you name it ive done it ive struggled wth it since i was a teenager. Nothing works for me. I hope u find something that works for you!
Do you still have your tonsils? It could possibly be tonsil stones causing the bad breath. They are disgusting, but pretty common and harmless. You can look to see if you have them without going to the Dr and you can remove them yourself usually. I know google is like the devil when we look up health issues but looking up how to identify and remove tonsil stones isnt that sinister ( i know, I' ve looked it up before).
I'm sorry to hear you're having a hard time right now. I am 13 months with no period, so officially in menopause. Last year was so bad for me! I truly thought I was dying! Its been 15 mos since I first started feeling terrible and i am now almost back to my normal self. The only symptoms that remain are some shortness of breath at times and Im still not as energetic as I use to be.... but I can and do push through the tired times now where a year ago there was no pushing through anything! I was just trying to survive each day back then! So while each of our meno paths are different, just know it does ease up and eventually end. Hang in there! Hugs!
I am so sorry your feeling this way. I just dont understand with medicine today and all they can do, face transplant, cloning a frigin sheep and they cant figure this out and we are just left with being told everything is fine. Are you taking anything for mono? and what sucks is EVERYTHING throws off hormones- everything. I pray for everyone here that nothing stays the same:)
Yes I think it runs in my family somehow...even my poor granddaughter has it...and has since she was on solid food. I am almost ready to try a bland diet and see if its a food sensitivity that perhaps we all have. I have had it my whole life too. It sure plays with the self esteem...thats for sure.