Before I start, I’d like to make two points:
Firstly, I’m not proud of my lifestyle but I haven’t come on here to be judged. I’m writing this for advice on erectile dysfunction. I’m not interested in judgemental opinions.
Secondly, I’m no wordsmith. It’s not my intention to be deliberately vulgar, but I’m just writing the facts honestly and bluntly. If you consider yourself easily offended, then it might be better to stop reading.
Anyway, about me… I’m a 38 year old straight male. I don’t believe I have any health issues. I don’t watch what I eat but I eat a relatively balanced diet and I’m not overweight. I do not smoke or do drugs. I usually drink a glass of whisky before bed, but that’s usually the only alcohol that I drink. I do not exercise, but daily I probably walk a lot more than most people do. For the past month I have been taking an undecylenic acid dietary supplement for a candida issue that I convinced myself I had.
I travel a lot, so I find it difficult to start or maintain serious relationships. I haven’t had a serious partner for around ten years. In that time, I have had numerous short “flings” and numerous one-night stands and until now I have never suspected that I may be suffering erectile dysfunction. I have recently been out of the country and I met a girl through a dating app. Upon meeting her for real, it became apparent that her pictures had been heavily touched up and she was at least ten years older than she was claiming. It had been six months and I was so desperate for sex that it was affecting my concentration at work. She was up for it, so I tried to make it happen. Despite starting with a healthy erection, I simply wasn’t attracted to her at all. I could sense myself getting more and more flaccid. In my defence, I wasn’t getting much assistance from the girl, who did nothing except lie on her back. I wasn’t enjoying the sex and I felt sure that I wasn’t going to be able to finish so I asked her to finish me off by hand, which she did.
Two days later, I was still feeling unsatisfied, and I managed to snag myself another hook up via the same app. This time the girl looked even better than her pictures. She had exactly the sort of body that turns me on and was also very pretty. I felt sure that I was going to have a great time with her. Again, I started with a healthy erection and I was enjoying the first few minutes of intercourse but, after a change of position, it quickly became apparent that she stank. To be completely blunt about it, her arse stank of ■■■■. It turned me off completely and despite trying to continue, I rapidly lost my erection. It didn’t help that the girl was giggling while I struggled to continue (she seemed oblivious to the cause of my sudden flaccidity.) On this occasion, I couldn’t even finish myself off by hand until she’d left.
Now, even though I can easily attribute my loss of erection on both these occasions to the girls I was with, I can’t lose the lingering feeling that maybe it’s something more. I keep wondering whether I am suffering from some form of erectile dysfunction? I don’t know how long it’ll be until I next “get lucky” but I know my ability to maintain my erection is going to be worrying me.
I guess I should also point out that I usually masturbate at least once a day, and I don’t have any trouble bringing myself to orgasm within a minute or two… but I am usually a lot more vigorous with myself than I ever could be during penetrative sex.
Sorry for the essay. Any opinions?