Hi wondering if I'm the only one feeling so lost, lonely and empty! I just can't leave my home when on my own! I have been like this for years now but with daughter going back to school and find myself home alone the sadness has kicked in!
I've suffers from depression since 1999 following childbirth! I'm on Venlafaxine that was increased recently! I've never suffered from anxiety or panic attacks but lately I find my self with chest pain and feel physically sick light headed etc! I usually feel ok when I'm house safe etc but lately even my home doesn't make me feel happy!
Don't even know why I'm on here just googled and led me to here so I signed up!
How do I get my life back! I used to work full time in the health profession but hurt back so retired and then developed fibromyalgia 4 yrs ago!
I can totally understand what it feeling. I too just googled and ended up here!
I find this time really hard and have spent the past week hiding in bed now kids at school.
Es tut mir so leid für dein Leiden.
Du bist absolut nicht allein.
Ich lebe seit über 15 Jahren mit Depressionen und wurde kürzlich mit PMR diagnostiziert. Ich habe meinen Job vor 6 Jahren aufgrund von Depressionen, Angstzuständen und PTBS gekündigt.
Etwas, das dich vielleicht aufheitern könnte, sind tägliche Spaziergänge.
Ich habe neue Hobbys gefunden, die mein Gehirn fordern. Ich habe Mützen gestrickt und an Krankenhäuser für Frühchen und Krebspatienten gespendet. Das hat mir einen Sinn gegeben und auch wenn ich jemanden anderen diese Dinge abliefern lasse, fühle ich mich gut dabei, anderen zu helfen.
Vielleicht würde es dir und ihnen guttun, ins Krankenhaus oder ein Altenheim zu gehen und Patienten zu besuchen! Einige dieser Menschen könnten jemanden gebrauchen, der einen Botengang für sie erledigt oder sie zu einem Termin fährt; scheint wie nichts, aber für sie ist es alles!
Jedenfalls tut es mir leid, so lange zu sein, aber ich möchte nur einige meiner Bewältigungsmechanismen teilen.
Weiter lächeln!!
Hi Mary - are you in contact with any counsellor, therapist or psychologist? Is your doctor conversing with you about your venlafaxine? I was wondering whether they might need changing to help you along?
Hi Wayne
I'm terrible as I just plod on and only go to Dr when my mood really low for a few months hence why it was increased. But I've been on venlafaxine for years and years that is the only antidepressant I'm on or have tried! I had counselling years ago one to one and found that ok but they then suggested to going to group therapy which was a no for me as would find it too awkward talking face to face with others ! Thankyou for replying!
Thankyou Brenda, I definetly need to try something even if just to get back with wanting to socialise with others! The only people I'm comfortable around is my children.
It's awful Michelle, just wish there was a magic wand to lift my mood! Hopefully your feeling ok today! Big Hugs Mary
Hi again Mary - it might be an idea to see the doc again and discuss whether another med might be more suitable. I was on venlafaxine for some months and had a terrible time with it. Of course, we are all different, and you have been using it for some time. Perhaps the issues stem from the upped dosage? I was changed to mirtazapine and haven't had any probs. Do you think another shot at one-on-one counselling might readdress things for you?
Hi Wayne, I agree definitely need to visit Dr again just get so embarresed having to tell them how i really feel! I had to got to appoint for my esa recently am done can you believe. Evause I attended clean tidy and smart they said I didn't look depressed! What does depression look like my god ! If they could see inside how I feel they would cart me off ! Just want to feel well again! Hope your doing ok! Thanks again
Hi again Mary - thanks for responding. I can relate to what you have written. I have always dressed well, shaved, showered, well spoken, considered funny and intelligent etc, and found because of this I was dismissed, with people saying "what have YOU got to worry about?" and doctors treating me as if i was malingerer or dramatising. Terribly hurtful when you are desperate for help. Like screaming in a room full of deaf people, In the end I gave up caring what they thought and coughed up the worst I could find about my life-long battle with depression. The whole process was such an exasperating disappointment that i gave up on doctors and have had to accept that this illness is part of me. I take the med and keep holding myself upright, just taking a day at a time. I hope you have a better outcome and find what works for you. They reckon a giggle helps so i'll leave you with this:
Doctor: I've got good news and bad news. Which do you want first?
Patient: The bad news.
Doctor: Your gonna die.
Patient: Good God! What's the good news?
Doctor: See that nurse over there? I'm going out with her tonight.