Hello all i am new to this group my name is Craig i am 43 years old and back in the year 2000 my ex left me and she stopped me from seeing my children i have two but i went to court and it lasted for three and a hearth years and then i got told to withdraw my application by my Solicitor he told me that if i carry on with the case i will not get any where so he told me to withdraw my application and he said i can reapply latter on down the line well three years on in 2003 i went back and ask him to re start my case up he ask me if i new where my ex and my children where i told him no he then said there nothing he can do so now it been 15 years since i have held my children i have had 6 nervous breakdowns i have Tried to kill my self about 30 times but thinking of my children stop`s me but i have Suicidal Depression been to the doctors and ask for a sic note she said she can get in to trouble if she give me a sic note and as i live alone i have no one to talk to and i am all ways thinking about ending my life as i have nothing to live for any more am i wrong in thinking like this the way i have all so just been told that my Uncle has just been found dead in his flat and like i said i have got Suicidal Depression abd back problems to and my doctor will knot give me a sick note .
I don't understand how ur ex could do that. My new husband has sole custody of his 6 yr old daughter. Her mom was unfit to keep her. But yet she has 4 hours court ordered time with the 6 yr old. If anyone should be kept from a m d its that sorry excuse of a mother...also I don't understand why u need a sick not and if u r sick ur doctor should not get in trouble for writing u a sick note. I'm just a cna though. But seems odd that ur doctor said that. Sorry to hear of ur recent loss. Hope things get better.
I've got the same condition as you. My ex ended it between us and got with my oldest friend. We have two girls together she makes it hard for me to see them so I ring my kids to sort seeing them. Why do women use kids as weapons I just don't understand. My kids love me and want to see me. They are my life and like you the thought of me killing myself and the effect it would have on them stops me from ending my life. We can't help the illness we have yet due to it I was treated like sh*t for many years I put up with it because of my children just wanted to be there for my kids every day. If you need a friend to chat to I'm here Craig
Why do women use kids as weapons?
This unfortunately, is a topic nobody really wants to discuss or sort. I have experienced what you are going through. I was mourning the death of my Mother when my fiancee at the time told me she never really wanted me, just a baby. Deverstated was an understatement, and then she stops me having anything to do with my daughter. Like you, solicitors offered absolutely no help, then she "disappeared". My daughter would be 21 this year, and not a day goes by without her in my thoughts. To make it worse I do not even appear on her birth certificate because unless you are present with the mother at registration you have no right to be added without her permission. Fair system eh?
Sorry for my rant, you're post hit a very raw nerve.
I do sympathise for you, and can only say, respeak with your GP, emphasis exactly how you are and feel.
Good luck my friend.