Hi,
I've had depression since I was 8 years old. I had a very traumatic experience that I only got over when I was in my twenties. I've been bullied since I can remember, even now to an extent. My depression became really bad when my art work from my A-Levels was thrown away and I gave up on my plan to go to art college (I realise now I should have just made a new portfolio and got over it but hinsight is a wonderful thing).
I went from crap temp job to crap temp job, with months off in between, barely able to get out of bed (I felt like acid was filling my brain the longer I stayed in bed so eventually i would get up).
Ive made two attempts on my life and abused alcohol and drugs, though Im happy to say Im coming up to my years anniversary of quittting both (AA is brilliant).
I read a self help book (Robin Sieger) which really helps but ony when I can bring myself to read it. My problem is that I see things that will help improve my life as possibilities to fail.
I did a course in a trade but because of this anxiety it took me 3 years to complete (it was a one year course) and now i cant bring myself to practice it and feel ive forgotten most of what I learnt.
My job isnt that bad, but because I was heavily abusing drink and drugs at the weekend i messed up at work far too much and the relationship with my two colleagues suffered to the point that they bullied me.
Now i only work with one of them but we cant stand each other (probably more me of her than her of me). I want to get out so badly but can't bring myself to commit to the same job elsewhere because i have no confidence in my abilities and cant commit to any other career. I think this is all related to depression and anxiety, which Im working on by reading my book and making affirmations every day (when I remember to).
I had therapy but it was rubbish. It was left to me to just talk, if I didn't she wouldnt ask me anything wed just sit in silence. She came to the conclusion that I was projecting old feelings onto new situations but thats about it. She came to a conclusion but there was absolutely no solution. A year of stirring up awful feelings for very little pay off, though Im glad i did it. Id have hated to have gone the rest of my life not knowing.
When I think about possible careers, bettering myself or changing job etc I get an acid feeling in my spine and brain which makes me feel like I want to die. Ive been feeling suicidal.
I try to tell myself 'things could be a lot worse' which they could, I'm not completely ungrateful, theres people that have lost their limbs etc and I'm here whining that I feel bad when I think about moving my life forward but I can't help the way I feel.
I think combining a medication with reading my self help book will get me through, only problem being no SSRI's have worked so far. Prozac, Venlafaxine, Citalopram (the worst by a country mile) have all failed and made me feel awful. The only drug I believe will work is a DRI (Wellbutrin as it's known in the US). Ive heard they wont prescribe it over here for depression but it works so well for people in the US I dont understand why they wouldnt use it here.
Does anyone have a similar experience with meds to me?
Have you found one that works?
I also have social anxiety which has made social events like clubbing or pubbing near impossible (every cell in my body tells me to go home the second I arrive - thats why I loved alcohol, it was perfect for this problem).
Look forward to hearing your replies,
Mike.