I don’t drink often but when I do drink I don’t know my limits, just lately I have been having blackouts and can’t remember things. I have now done something stupid due to drink that has jeopardised my relationship. I can take or leave drink but when I drink I get so drunk, previous relationships have ended due to me being a handful after drinking vodka
if you are able to take or leave it .... leave it believe me it's not worth anything
Just focus on fixing what has been done.
Good luck to you!
Blackouts are not good and please try to stop i suggest.
Yes I know all about that one, black outs now believe me, I know I have been there, time for you to think hard and serious about what is going on and try and break this circle you are in but maybe that's too much, you now and what you were no comparison (as I said been there too many times) but I have turned my life around and I have drunk on and off for over 20-30 year's now I don't count how long just one day at a time ok
It’s when I drink vodka sometimes I feel I know Iv had enough but keep drinking it. I honestly don’t think what has happened can be fixed this time, I never seem to have a drink and just wake the next day happy. I suffer terrible anxiety afterwards and normally acted a fool in some way. Should I be concerned
Hi Jay, I feel your pain! I was in this exact situation in April where my partner reached his limit and my crazy drunk moments had reached a limit. I decided to take a few months off alcohol as sober. The point of this was firstly to prove to myself that I didn’t need to drink alcohol in social situations. I learnt from this that I could go out partying or go for a nice meal without needing alcohol, when usually I would have normally drank. Secondly it helped me demonstrate to my partner that I wanted to repair the damage to our relationship. The main objective was to teach myself control, and then slowly introduce alcohol back into my life in those circumstances if I really felt it necessary.
After doing 3 months of being sober, here’s what I learnt: that i don’t have to get blind drunk, that I do in fact have a limit whereas usually I always surpassed it and went too far, and that it’s easier for me to control the portions / amount of alcohol now because I have managed to control and abstain from drinking when sober.
Now for me this worked because my crazy drunk moments where only occasional, every few months or so, as I didn’t (don’t) go out all the time and I don’t have an alcohol dependency, it was more of an issue with control, so I had to teach myself control. I recognise this might not work for everyone but I feel it is working for me, so far so good!
Good luck, you’re not alone. It’s important you know that because I struggled to find relatable posts. A lot of stuff I read basically made me feel like I needed to go to AA but that didn’t feel right to me!
Thanks for taking the time to reply, I can relate to this. I don’t need alcohol I’m not dependant on it it’s almost as soon as I drink I press the self destruct button and seem to go wild! My on/off boyfriend and the reason he is on off is due to behaviour before from alcohol. It is as if I have no filter, although this weekend has proved how much of an issue it is and he has had enough of me. I can be the nicest person but after drinking vodka I just become a different person. Just feel really low at the minute
Honestly I would encourage you to try going sober for a couple of months. Once you have reminded yourself what control actually is by abstaining from drinking in the typical situations you would normally drink in, you can teach yourself how to control your limits. You just need to remember what your limits are, like you need to reset your mind and body when it comes to alcohol and right now you just don’t know what those limits are which is how you end up in these circumstances.
Taking a few months off the booze is actually rather tough, it teaches you a lot of resilience to sit with your pals whilst they drink bottomless cocktails and you are designated driver. But I feel it’s worth it, if it teaches you that element of control you are missing. And also a small lesson in the grand scheme of things if you are having blackouts which can be so dangerous.
Set yourself a time limit that’s realistic, saying you won’t ever drink again wasn’t realistic for me so I used my birthday as my goal post and then Slowly reintroduced drinking back into my life - that means I didn’t go out and get smashed immediately! I took it easy!
Yes I think that is what I am going to do, sometimes if I pop for one after work or something I am ok so long as it’s not vodka. But when I’m social situations and vodka is on the cards I drink and drink and get louder and louder. I genuinely feel like this time I have blown my chances of my bf even ever speaking to me again, but even before this I have always known I have some kind of issue. Weekends away from social events will be what happens now for a bit, try to rebuild my life a little x
Interesting reply since I also stopped drinking for one month 10 years ago. My gp said liver values were slightly raised and that made me stop. However, everything changed a few years later and I lost my job and so did my wife. My fAther visited me at Xmas and was very sick with dementia and looked ancient. Both of us unemployed and dad sick and drank massively!!!but stopped 31st Dec 2012 and never drank since. 5 1/2 years sober