I have finally ended up with a wonderful GP, he is very open about almost anything, has a very naughty sense of rumour, but at the same time very professinal.
He has even apologised to me and my husband when I told him in no uncertain terms to pull out his cardiology books and have a read of symptoms that hide themselves as other issues, husband has no pain in chest, only in arm, no swelling, all typical symptoms of heart failure.
Not only him but the cardiologists junior houseman missed symptoms that I was insisting was my husbands heart, and at one stage asked when had i spent years at university studing medicine.
I got junior back when the cardio consultant arrived and said what is going on, I told consultant my theory and how long it had been going on for, nurses shocked, they said to me nobody in the hospital dares to speak to the consultant like that, I do, and pointed to the juniors and said they are not listening to my theory, and I know my husband has been failing for months, walking less, more breathless.
Consultant didn't even leave the end of the bed, turned to juniors and said, my office 9am tommorrow with patients file, very long faces from juniors, funny we never saw them again in the hospital.
Have since seen cardio consultant, he is delighted with progress, and even turned to me and said with a smile, from a man who doesn't smile and said does my patients wife approve, he also approves of my knowledge, keep up the good work, what 4 times now you have saved his life. YES was my reply.
I have made a study my husbands condition, heart failure, and can talk to them on their own level, using correct terms.