I need to talk to someone who cares, someone who talks about more than work or the weather. I feel like I need to tell someone how much I hurt, how sad I am. I don’t want to hear “you always feel this way” or “shape up” or have them walk away in disgust. I just want them to hold me let me cry and quote Lenard Cohen to me. I know this isn’t possible in my life I have no one like that. Just needed to express myself.
Hi there deb87510,
Well you have come to the right place. This forum is great to explain our experiences and give advice on our journeys. Could you get a bit more in-depth of why you are sad. Explain your thoughts and feelings so then it is easier for us to help you and guide you. So if you can be a little more specific about your situation that may make it a bit easier for us to understand your situation etc
So many things are wrong. I haven’t seen my son for 4 years. I reached out to him again at Christmas but no response. I miss him and his children so much. I have a grandson I have been trying to help get back on track but I am failing him. He just hides in his bedroom on the computer. He is my daughters son and she is mad that he lives with me. My husband is a good man but doesn’t really love me we just live in the same space. I have withdrawn so much over the years I have no close friends and have gotten good at putting on a brave face. But some days it is so hard I can’t take it.
I’m here and I’m listening xxx
Hello Deb.
I think one of the most painful things that has been done to me is to be minimized or invalided when I express my feelings to someone. This may fit what you are experiencing or not but I found it extremely painful.
Sorry that you are hurting at such a deep level. On this site we care very much about each other having hurt ourselves so please feel free to write to us as much as you like. You didn't mention therapy..depression or meds so I don't know if any of these things would even be appropriate for you. Please keep writing and we will keep listening. Diane
Thank you everyone for listening. I feel a bit better today.
You can always come here and express your feelings. We care. We want you to be healthy. Please keep coming back here venting will help you. We will listen and not pass judgement. We will try to help you.
Leonard Cohen is wonderful isn't he? I remember discovering him back in the early 70's and someone said it's music to commit suicide to! Not sure about that but he certainly helped me through some very difficult times in my life.
I think counselling is the way to go for you to find out and deal with how you feel. Have you been to a doctor yet? Meds might also help. x
You are always welcome to come here and talk or express yourself especially if it makes you feel better. Do you suffer from crying jags often? Did something happen something traumatic that would make you feel so low? You may want to speak to a professional.
I have such a feeling of dread deep inside me. I told my husband how bad I am feeling he did listen he wants me to appreciate all the positives I have. I do have a warm home,food to eat, a job to go to. Why can’t I focus on that and not all the negatives I have? I go back to work tomorrow I don’t know how I will cope. Pray for me please.
You poor thing. I’m sorry that you are feeling so low. How long has this been going on? Is there something going on st work that is bothering you? You can always come here to talk and vent. We care and understand how you feel. Do you think that you might need professional help? Maybe a dr and or therapist ? Please come back
His music certainly makes me cry. It also makes me long for a person who has such deep feelings about life. I am surrounded by superficial people.
I have tried therapy without much success. I was on pristiq for 5 years for depression I went off it this past summer because it wasn’t helping. I have a cocktail of meds that are suppose to help me sleep. None of which help me consistently. I did get a few hours last night. Thank god.
Hi Deb therapy isn't usually a short term thing as don't forget it took many years for you to feel like this and it will take time for it to start helping you.
There are many different types of therapy so if one isn't helping don't be afraid to try others. x
I have a question. I am about 20 pounds overweight our grandson is about 50-60 pounds overweight. I was watching the TV show “My 600 pound life” my husband says he watches it because it “hits close to home”. I was very upset over this comment. Do other husbands/men make comments like that when they are at home? Am I being over sensitive? I would appreciate feedback.
My first day back at work was not too bad. I use to love my job and felt it was the one part of my life I was successful at. Now my position has changed and I don’t feel appreciated or that people have my back. I am grateful that I have work and I am going to try and hold on to the good moments.
2017 was in my mind the last chance for things to improve in my life when this hasn’t happened 2018 is hard to face.
Hi Deb, i feel for you and always know that you are not alone. There are many of us out there and always be assured that you have done nothing wrong to get to this "lonely" place that you are in. This forum is fantastic, if only for being reassured that there are others that are going through the same thing, only for different reasons. We are ONE. I will surely pray for you, because in the end, it's God who will walk us through this. Take care.
You can express yourself right here. We will listen. Please tell us what is bothering you. We want to help you.
Hey Deb.
I accidentally stumbled upon your message. Since your message is approximately 8 months old I ask if you are still in this sad state or are in recovery. If the former I have the answer for the recovery of the soul.
Still am dying slowly. No light at the end of the tunnel. I just keep putting one foot in front of the other and try to hide my sadness
Hi Deb,
Sorry to hear but I think I know what the problem is. The original title 'Feels like my soul is dying' is actually not far from the truth. Several years ago I was in this exact position myself. Lots of sadness, feeling lost, riddled with guilt from my life, depressed in general about my life, stressed, addictions etc. I had been searching for solutions but all the things I tried were only a band aid at best. I was just about to give up and resign myself to the destructive path I was on, when a chance meeting (I don't believe it was chance now)occurred. My wife had met a lady at our daughters kindergarden she was attending. Our family was invited to dinner at their house and so we attended. By the way our marriage was also about to fail. Anyway we heard a few things that night which interested us. They said that God had fixed their life , healed their bodies , mind and soul and had set them on a new path which leads to everlasting life. Of course we were a bit skeptical but also curious as to where this would lead us. Hey we had nothing to lose so why not have a look, nothing gained nothing lost right. So they invited us to a meeting on a Wednesday night.On the night in question my wife was suffering a migraine headache and couldn't attend but I went to the meeting with this couple. What I took from that night was a feeling that I was being looked after in a way I'd never experienced before. I don't remember much of what was said but the people seemed very HAPPY and JOYFUL. Wouldn't that be a gift. Anyway I went home a told my wife of my experience as she was curious to know what it was all about. We were invited to come again the following Wednesday night and my wife attended also. This time I was more able to take in was was said by the preacher. I was amazed because the things that he said that night exactly described the state I found myself in. There was one scripture in particular which really made the hairs stand up on the back of my neck. That was "A double minded man is unstable in all his ways" I could really relate to this because that is how I felt at the time about my life. After the meeting my wife and I had a little chat with the pastor and It was amazing because we both decided we wanted to be baptised. The following night we were invited over to the pastors house for dinner and we asked many questions and every answer was from the BIBLE not from the opinions of the man. The following Sunday we were both baptised and that was over 15 years ago. Immediately after the baptism I felt like a new man , clean, forgiven . I really felt this at my core being. Something had changed. I can't expain it really. It was at the soul level. After that I found as I kept coming to meetings all the promises of the bible came true. Healing of the body mind and soul and the gift of Holy Spirit which I experienced after attending for about 7 weeks. Ever since then I can't explain the JOY I feel each day of what God (The Lord) has done for me personally. It is true to say the Lord healed my broken heart and made me free from the bondage of this life and has made me into a new creature. Old things have passed away. I live this experience. So as I said in the beginning the problem you have is spiritual. God (Jesus) can save you , heal your broken heart , make you whole again, make you HAPPY. I promise you this is true. There is no other way. Yes we can have fleeting joys as we go through life but in the end the sadness is never healed. The Bible says many are called but few are chosen . Are you chosen? You must choose. You have a free will. Let me know what you think. In Matthew 11 verse 28 (look it up King James Bible)Jesus said to all who will hear. Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke (burden) upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke (burden) is easy, and my burden in light. Feel free to ask any questions. Let me know what you think. I promise you this is the truth! If you wish to communicate in private I can provide contact email etc. Hope this helps.