sometimes I feel we need to think about the fact that fibro impacts on those around us too. All too often they are silently suffering as much as we are and feel helpless. Glad he could appreciate the words.
I have to admit I dont always see things from my husbands side of things and how all of this is affecting him and how hes feeling. because we are so wrapped up with how we are feeling we dont always appreciate what their going through and how its affecting them. its certainly made me sit up and open my eyes to how my poor husband is feeling and what hes going through. so beautifully put maggers well done you
Not talented just find it easier to write than to say it. Fibro fog makes me get all tongue tied and words come out totally wrong - you know the feeling...all fibro folk do!
Ive never been a selfish person and Ive always thought and looked after other. but since having fibro I must admit my focus has been on myself I will certainly start to think of how this affecting my husband and the inpact its having on him. I know he struggles alot of the time with me being ill bless him its not his fault or mine. I do appreciate all that he does. ut I think your right we have to think about our loved ones and the impact it has on them.
I know that feeling very well but I still think you are very talented and how you put things. Im dont find it easy putting things into words and especially pen to paper. but its something you are very good at.
It is difficult finding the balance and not allowing fibro take over and define who we are. I use a number scale so that I don't have to give details of every ache and pain. The scale runs from 1-5 so people then know what sort of day I am having without needing to spell it out. Works well for work colleagues who haven't any interest in knowing the details.
Maggers your poem has brought a tear to my eye, so beautiful, sad and poignant. We are so lucky to have such supportive partners, though I feel for those who are having to deal with this condition on their own.
My poor husband has been suffering over the weekend with toothache, unfortunate as that is, the silver lining is that I have been able to look after him for a change, and pay back some of that love and tender care.
Hi Maggers; thankyou, too, from me....you've got me really thinking.....firstly, I do understand how my husbands is "pushing" himself physically to support me (both financially and physically)...and know he is ready for retirement from the very heavy work he does ( a civil construction carpenter...builds bridges etc).....and secondly, how do you manage working? what type of work do you do and how many hours? I did further study to try and be able to work and assist financially....but I am soooo unreliable, healthwise, that I don't know how to find something suitable....have tried being a "check-out chick" and thoroughly enjoyed the people/team contact...but that too became impossible, after developing the tendonites.....any ideas would be gratefully appreciated....Bron
Hi Bron, just read this, I am not sure of your work background but If you were a nurse, what about, part time or back up in a medical practise. If any one would be understanding, you would hope it would be them. The other alternative is working for someone in alternative health area. Sorry just rambling thoughts, as you seem quite knowledgeable in the medical field.
I used to have a highly stressful job in the legal world. Then for many years I worked for a vet. Both jobs long gone as the pressure too much in legal and the physical working for a farm vet became impossible. So now I work in a country store, talking (which I can do for England) to customers about their animals offering medicinal and dietary advice and also working behind the till, helping customers with equipment advice etc. I only work 3 afternoons and all day Saturday. If I could I wouldn't work at all but needs must. So far the only time I have had off was for surgery on my leg last year. Fortunately the IBS and nausea seem to strike me on my days off or early mornings for a few hours so have managed to get to work. Occasionally I do paperwork from home which is great or I may get to go out and deliver something. I cannot sit for long so it is important that I can move around. I'm not the person I was but I can still give something to the working community. Luckily I am at the end of my working life so only have a few more years to go - if I make it that far I will be shouting from the rooftops, but I am realistic and know that at best I have another year or so in me. Financially I need to keep going.
My husband though this was just beautiful..thanks Maggers..know what you mean about not being able to get out what you really want to say..don't you just that fog....,:-) xxx