Does anyone have any great ideas of how to approach dating with this disease. I would not be able to have relations and that may be a show stopper for a guy. At 60 it is not the most important thing for me but maybe it still is for a man. Any suggestions...
I am 63 and my husband has his own issues. Yes we still want closeness but until we know how to undestand what's going on how do we explain to our partners. Without making them feel we have something they can catch.
Thats the issue, most of the public is not educated nor wants to bother to be...people jump to their own conclusions. I do not plan on relying this information as I do not and cannot have relations due to it. So guess the big problem would be to tell someone I cannot have relations and just leave it as a menopause issue... Not sure men are still hungry for the physical relations as they get in their 60's...maybe it could work out...thanks Diana... We have enough on our plate...
Hya hun, I’m in my mid thirty’s and recently have been diagnosed with this horrible condition - it’s spread like wild fire the white patches. Having moved on from a messy lengthy divorce and taking time out for me. I felt ready to start dating again & come across his condition. Now it feels like my whole life has stopped!!!!
Like your questions I have the same!
How do you approach dating, where do you start with this condition ? Telling a guy he definitely will run a mile!
Tbh being Physically Active is very important to men - well that’s what I think! And with this condition - some days are goodsum days are very bad!
My personal advice is give it a go, your looking for friendship/companionship. There are sum great men out there (that’s what they say). I’d be interested to know when to start the LS conversation. Good luck hun x
Hey ladies!!! I think that there is someone for everyone on earth. Sadly enough people do jump to conclusions with ignorance. But remember that the way we are suffering with LS probably some men are to. Some men maybe suffering from another condition. Imagine perfect combination of understanding one another. There is always a way to discuss when the time comes. But date and just don’t jump into bed to fast. And if the person doesn’t stick around ....his loss for poor guy has no clue what kind of a brave woman just passed under his nose.... at 60 man have issues to. Stay confident LS is not you. Xx
Hi Linda,
We are in our 60’s. To be honest I miss having a good ol romp but there are other ways and you just need to be looking at it all a bit differently. My husband really isn’t that fussed. The right man will be able to get on board with you.
Lots of love and hugs
I don't have to worry about getting into bed unless it is to cuddle, my body cannot tolerate anything else and that is just the way it is. Hoping as you say to find someone who has his own worries and conditions and therefore we can offer each other a 'safe haven' of understanding and support. At 60 plus, I have to believe a lot of men are anxious about the subject and not in the mental state to want to approach it. All I can do is try...thanks Brigitte...
I agree Deb, lets hope a kind giving man is out there for me....
Hi Linda. Men do still want relations in their 60’s. Finding the one that wants you for you will just happen. I am lucky in that I met a guy who has loads of patience with me. There are other ways to enjoy each other in an intimate way and boy does he know most of those !!!
I’m 62 he’s 63 and we both need the closeness ... oh and lots of cuddles.
Don’t despair if you do meet someone. Your body will find other ways to please and the right time will present itself naturally. Attraction isn’t all sex after all ... good luck
Linda!! I’m 45 and I don’t really care for the act anymore... I don’t know i think premenopause is my problem in top of LS. But i tell y’a a comforting relation doesn’t have to be just about down there. Yep I think we need to stay confident and stick with what we really want. Xx
I agree....hope it works out for you, we all deserve happiness...
What a lovely reply 😘🤗😘 A lot of ladies are young when being diagnosed its damn scary .
I am not young but not dead yet and in a new relationship when i was diagnosed i did push him away .
Although at times i have very low moments he has rode the storm with me and is continueing to do so.
Be postive as LS feeds on negativity do not let it define the wonderful woman who you all are 😘
Love your reply so positve and true 🤗
When someone asked you out go! Have fun and do not mention your health issues, because it is not their business! When they get serious then mention it. I had lichen for years and I date. I have been sexual active! I was engaged but and he loved performing oral sex on me! What can I say love is blind. He had rectal dysfunction so it was his mental issues that tore the relationship a part! I can say I treated myself with steroids and took good care of my self so I would not fuse together. Lots of oil. If a guy does not like you vulva then dump him and move on! No one can look like a porno model!