Hey all. My sob story I guess, I was diagnosed with Genital Herpes back in 2014 from an imbecile from Finland. It was incredibly hard and i only just kind of mentally recovered from the emotional setback it gave me. Last year while I was living overseas my sister called me and announced with a sad heart that she had caught it off her new foreign boyfriend. Naturally I go to look at this boy I had never met and was distraught to discover is was the same guy from Finland that gave it to me 5 years ago. What are the odds!? We are from New Zealand. Anyway, that was hard- for both of us. Fast forward to two weeks ago and I have just been diagnosed with Genital Warts. My partner claims to never have had symptoms and the only other guy i've slept with in the last 6 months also denied any symptoms. So i'm stuck with two horrific and life-lasting sexual viruses. To top this all off I have to take medication to stop my reccurring symptoms. For two years I took them twice a day, every day- and up until two weeks ago was taking them each time i came near my period, or felt run-down. I'm finding this all incredibly hard to deal with. I'm not one to pity myself much but I have been crying myself to sleep every. single. night. I'm just wondering if there is anyone out there who is going through something similar? Or if there are any good websites, or even people to talk to about dealing with this physically and emotionally. Thanks for reading, if you did. Sincerely Worstlucksally
I read it all, and you’re not alone. I’m not sure what I can say to help; I’m a bit autistic, so I’m hardly a social darling. But know that the majority of people have herpes, either HSV-1 (typically cold sore) or HSV-2 (typically affects the genitals). A lot of people I guess are kinda ‘lucky’ in that they dont get symptoms, but they can still pass the virus. It’s incredibly common. Warts are also incredibly common; they are the most common skin virus we get. They’re so common they are basically ubiquitous. There’s a few strains of the over 100 that could lead to cancer, so that should be checked. Other than that. I mean, I can’t say ‘don’t worry about them’ as you should try not to pass them off to others. But everyone will get one wart virus or another in their life – many wont get visible warts, but that doesn’t mean you were never infected. We have to drop the stigma. Both these are so incredibly common that people shouldn’t feel bad about it. It’s not a failing on your part nor anyone else. Sex is the most natural thing to want to do. These things are common. It’s probably insulting at this point – 4 years later – to say “just don’t worry about it.” For one thing, easier said than done. But I’ll basically say it anyway: Try not to worry about it. Focus on other things in your life. Most people have these things in one form or another and they get on with their life. You have to find a way, too. I hope this helps and you didn’t feel insulted or minimized; that was never my intention. Good luck.
herpes is super common! they say if you dont have sometype by 60 your the oddball. dont let the stigma get to you. As you know you can still have partners and a normal life (happy you have someone) As far as warts here are some things i was told
-the strain that caused warts is not the same that causes cancer
-you can get them removed and just have to use condoms for 6months after removal
-check yourself for anymore before any sexual contact.
-it usually goes away with in 1-2 years