What is wrong with my penis? Is it herpes or worse?
Background: 3 weeks ago, the day after oral sex from a girl, I developed an itchy penile shaft and the skin between the shaft skin and the glans (the remnants of my foreskin before phimosis led to a circumcision). The minute I scratched all ■■■■ broke loose as it became even itchier and red. I noticed holes on the underside of the shaft that looked like large hair follicles and I think they were tears (but may have been caused by my scratching). It was really itchy and uncomfortable and my glans went a bit red blotchy too. I had an STD test (all clear) and the nurse doubted it was herpes but couldn't take a swab as there no visible signs. She thought it was a heat rash. Everything returned to normal 3 days later. Throughout I applied moisturiser and face balm to try and calm it down.
Last week I developed the itchiness again on the remnants of my foreskin between the glans and the shaft but I also noticed very dry flaky skin on my glans - often looking like I was shedding skin. I wondered if this was a result of the moisturiser and face balm I applied previously. Whenver I wet the head everything returned to normal before drying out returning to dry and scaly. The nurse, knowing i had athlete's foot, figured it was fngal and recommended I get some miconazole cream.
And now we come to what's developed now. 3 days ago at 3 am I had a fumble in a club with another man. We unbuttoned our pants and our penises touched as we kissed for a couple of minutes. I woke up 10am the next morning with a bright red rash on the left side of my penis head and it was tingling, too. Not itchy like last time but tingling - classic herpes symptom All research says herpes and STDs cannot incubate in just a few hours but it just seems too coincidental that I get it AFTER the sexual fumble in the club. The urethera was also inflammed and there were red blothes all over my penis head. Where the red rash was it appeared to turn scaly/lumpy and I couldn't tell if they were little blisters - though when I got an erection everything looked fine apart from mild blotchiness. The tingling has increased to painful stinging.
But to make matters worse my penis head has gone really wrinkly like when you sit in the bath for too long. Even when aroused (and not wrinkly) it still crinkles up terribly like old man skin whenever I rub it even though it didn't used to do this. Scarier still is that when I pull my penis out to pee (or inspect) it's shiny and reflective, almost as if it's moist. I swear to god it even looked like I had sprinklings of glitter on it as tiny specks danced in the light like stars!! Yet again, whenever I wet the head everything looks okay and the sheen disappears - even the blotchiness looks less - but this is temporary only whilst the head stays wet. It sometimes appeared I had two very small, round lesions, as though made by a needle, but whenever I stretched the skin out to get a better look, or an erection, I couldn't see anything.
What's more, the left side of my penile head is angry and red and I think may be swollen too. This is on top of being wrinkly and shiny. Please help as I am very scared.