Hello, my name is zoey im 22 years old, and my anxiety is herpes. I have not had sex in 5 almost 6 months (military relationship i have had no bumps lesions etc. but tend to freak myself into thinking i have it. i constantly get checked and they all reassure me that i am fine. I recently had sex and had lube but i feel fine, lately my anxiety is so bad for no reason. i checked today and their was slight irritation on the out side of the vulva, darker pink. could be from sweat or lube, no bumps but due to my anxiety i am freaking out. has anyone had this? and if so how do you deal with it
Hello.
I have had the same anxiety as you - it still gets me every now and then sadly.
I literally had to go for therapy as the whole Herpes anxiety turned into a full blown Health Anxiety disorder, I am on anti anxiety meds, they do help but they dont take the anxiety away 100% they just make it more comfortable to deal with.
My advice to you is try talking to a therapist or Dr than can help you manage your anxiety - I know what its like, I was so anxiety ridden I used to check myself down there about 100 times a day, making the area swollen, red and irritated then from this the anxiety about Herpes starts even worse, its a vicious circle to be in 
Do yourself a favour and talk to someone - even if on here 
p.s. dont look or pull or feel too much down there