I’ve been following this blog for about 7 months and have heard a lot about cathing, drugs, and the various BPH procedures including PAE, Rezum, Urolift, TURP, Green Light Laser and HoLEP. The following summarizes what I’ve read as best I can.
Bottom line: drugs may work for a while (for me it was about 3 years), but they are not a long term solution and can also result in damage the bladder from constantly being over extended/full. Some procedures seem to work for some but not all. Worse yet, some have reported total incontinence after their surgical procedures. It’s hard to tell if it was a botched job or not.
The real answer imho is surgery, specifically HoLEP. I did the research on all the procedures (except PAE….had not heard of it), and chose HoLEP. It is the best surgical procedure because; 1) less time in the hospital and a on catheter (less than 24 hours), 2) less bleeding, 3) very small chance of needing a repeat procedure, and 4) they remove prostate tissue (instead of burning or otherwise destroying it), so they can biopsy it for cancer. I have heard no reports of anyone having HoLEP and needing a second procedure or experiencing incontinence or needing to continue cathing. I’ve heard way too many horror stories on this blog about TURP & GL. My uro explained that they both burn the tissue out, and therefore leave scar tissue. That tends to shrink over time, and hence the need for a repeat procedure. With HoLEP, they cut the tissue away, grind it up with a ‘morcellator’, push it into the bladder, and then wash it out.
Yes, you the have retro ejac, but sex drive returns, and since I don’t plan to have any more children (age 68), it’s not a problem for me. I was retaining close to 800ml, and my prostate was 85 grams, PSA 3.8. After it was 46 grams, PSA 0.2. I had my surgery in January, and after two to three months had no problems at all. I did have leakage for 3 or 4 weeks. Some in the UK report they were told to do Kegel exercises for a few months before surgery to avoid this.
I have heard some good reports on PAE which is done by interventional radiologists. It is an outpatient procedure and far less invasive. If I had it to do over again, I might do that first.
Lastly, the experience & ability of the doc is critical, and often difficult to determine. Hospital ratings for various specialties can be found in the US News & World Report evaluations. Bios for docs may or may not be available. For example, the Mayo Clinic was rated best in the nation, and they have the education and publications of their docs listed…… very helpful. Best of luck!