I tested positive for HSV 1 and HSV 2 a few days ago. My partners says his results were negative I don't know how this could be. I've only been with him for years. I had blood IgG testing and he had a mouth swab. Neither of us have symptoms. The reason I was tested was because he was unfaithful and contracted Trich. My doctors are adamant that he should have had the same testing I did. Please help me to understand.
test do come negative sometimes, he shld do a blood test, which still can come out negative. did u ever had an outbreak?, or maybe u had a mild outbreak and you never realised, my partner gave it to me was tested positive for hsv 1 but negative for hsv2. I know i got it from my partner.
Of course he should have the same tests done: IgG (not IgM) antibody test for both herpes types. An oral swab doesn't look for genital herpes and would only detect oral herpes if he has cold sores or viral shedding, which wouldn't be all of the time. His negative oral swab in the absence of anything to swab means nothing in the grand scheme of things.
No I've never had any type of outbreak. I was devastated to know I had this. I'm tested for everything yearly and this never showed until now.
Well he insist that he had the right test done. I guess he's just happy that the test came back negative. He prefers to think I cheated when I didn't never have. Not even after his cheating spree that led me to going to be checked.
I read your other posts. Do not tolerate such behaviour from him. He is very likely the source, not you, and he knows it, which is why he won't do the proper test (IgG).
so if u do IgG test even if u never had an outbreak will show that you are positive?
Yes, especially for HSV-2, which is the important one. Once you've seroconverted (usually by 3 months), the IgG test will pick it up in 98% of cases. You don't need symptoms or an outbreak, just the IgG antibodies to prove infection.
It did for me.....I've never had any type of outbreak mild or severe. That's what I don't understand. I was diagnosed last Thursday.
I'm not going to he's done. I'm no fool but if he wants to walk infecting others that's on him.
Good, glad to hear it!! After reading your posts, I was so furious and disgusted with him that even I wanted to kick him to the curb, lol! Make sure you make it clear to him that you were negative before, but not now, and have never cheated, unlike him, so you know damn well who had it first and that the only reason he's unwilling to test properly is because he already knows or fears the worst and is a coward, and an infectious one at that. Hope he doesn't spread this nasty virus to other women out of denial and by claiming he tested negative...
Coward is the exact word! In a rage on Saturday night I text my ex who gave it to me and gave him a piece of my mind. He had just walked away and never gave me a second thought, after hiding the fact he had it from me for the 4 mths we were together. I took him to the clinic with me where he was tested etc (no need seeing as I'm 99% he already knew but it was all an at!) and he was positive, by swabs and bloods also. That was 3 weeks ago, then this morning a friend saw him on an online dating site already... Off to do the same lying cycle again - people like that disgust me!
That is disgusting. Do you think he knew all along? You're lucky you managed to get him to go along for testing. I don't know if my giver knew or not. I'm 50/50 on that one, but I'm still mad at how it transpired. Mine also walked away, no apology, and it was definitely him, not me, that was virus-riddled. Still makes my blood boil thinking about it, too!
I know he knew, he wasn't phased at all by it, not shocked not upset, wasn't trying to trace back to where it came from, absolutely nothing like the shock and dispair of a normal reaction. He slipped up on lies about how many Valtrex he had ... He'd got them at home already. He also never used any condoms I bought, said they were all too tight... Obviously he found some long ones for max coverage (yet still not enough!) He took lysine daily, never let me give him oral (I mean Jesus I'd prefer to have hit this orally than genitally thanks buddy!), there's loads more mind f*cks that I see now and wonder how I didn't click that something was up 
All too late now, and the hurt and disgust I feel for him after all his lies, it's horrendous. Even worse to see that only a few weeks later he is back online dating (not that I think he shouldn't date, just that I know he won't disclose).
Mine i told him whilst in hospital and i told him u gve me hsv go and check so you won t give it to anyone else. he said yes he will test. Then he lied and said it came negative so i check were he went to do the test and they told me that they do not do test unless one has lesions. As were i live it is like stone age. Then i confronted him and told him you are lying. recently he sent me an sms saying he did the test in germany and it came negative and has hsv1. i asked him what test he did and never answered.
Oh, wow, if he had the meds, lysine and refused oral, then he definitely knew. He seems to have tried to reduce transmission, but why wasn't he on the meds daily? That and condoms would have reduced the risk greatly, so I'm guessing he wasn't. Lysine doesn't do anything to reduce transmission, only outbreaks, and even then, it's anecdotal and only maybe works for some people. Did he ever apologise?
It's really hard to know the truth sometimes. There are days when I think mine knew and lied, and days when I think maybe he didn't know, so I try not to dwell on it too much, but it doesn't change the fact that he 100% gave it to me and refused to apologise, even when tests proved it was him, and that's something I'll never forgive or forget. Lol, this is good being able to rant about our givers! :D
They don't put people on suppressive therapy over here (Ireland) , only if you have 7 OBs or more a year they told me. It costs a fortune too. Yeah I mean he may have tried to avoid transmission but all he had to do was tell me you know, we were together long enough. He has a very high sex drive and then came over and stayed on two occasions and didn't make any moves which was absolutely UNHEARD of, then the next day we slept together. I'm convinced he thought he was going to break out, didn't do anything sexual then maybe when nothing did break out he thought it was safe so went ahead, unfortunately not. He had an OB then couple of days later, same time as me, except I was freaking out and ran to the clinic and doctors, he didn't even go see anyone till I made him. Swear to God it's sickening, I'm an understanding person and would have appreciated honesty you know... It's just so unfair when the decision is taken away from you. Not to even mention how horrendously he treated me, packed his stuff up from my apartment at 4.30 in the morning and no joke his car actually skidded he was in that much of a hurry to leave. Nice way to shape up to your responsibilities!
What a douchebag! It's bad enough to get it from someone, but then to be abruptly cast aside (in your case, literally speeding/skidding away in the middle of the night!) makes it all the worse. Do they feel no guilt or remorse? Or is that their pathetic way of (not) dealing with it? Smh
Yeah I think running away was easier.... I mean I'm 33 and he is 38, at what age do you realise you're an adult and should face up to things. How could you not feel guilt, I know if I were ever to pass this on i would feel awful, and I would not be one to lie about it, I'll always be upfront, but even at that I'd be riddled with guilt, yet he lies and hides things then runs for the hills, I dunno... You have to question people's values at times.