I am 29 years old and I just got a vaginal hysterectomy and I have been so depressed lately I cry a lot and I feel so bad about myself I have 2 children that need me and don't understand why mommy is so upset what should I do?
Dear Tricia,
I'm so sorry you are feeling bad. I am 60 years old so I can tell you I've been to low times in my life. Your emotions are so responsive to your physical being. You have the surgery behind you and hopefully you are on the way to good health. I can testify that you will get past the depression. If you need help at this time ask for it. Sometimes I have had to just hold on live today for a better day tomorrow . So look forward to good days in the future they will come. Smile at yourself and smile at your kids. Maybe you can start something that makes you happier like an exercise class. Get plenty of sleep it is so important.
Best wishes!!
C'est un peu accablant, n'est-ce pas ? Vous venez de subir une importante opération et vos hormones sont en émoi. Il s'agit d'une réaction normale bien connue, mais vous devez dire à votre médecin ou à vos infirmières comment vous vous sentez. Ils sauront quoi faire pour vous aider. Vous pouvez dire à vos enfants que maman se sent fatiguée après l'opération et qu'elle va voir le médecin qui l'aidera à aller mieux. Demandez-leur de vous faire un câlin et dites-leur à quel point cela vous aide. Ils peuvent aussi vous soutenir d'autres manières lorsque vous avez besoin de vous reposer. Un peu de va-et-vient, un dîner à emporter, quelques friandises. Il s'agit d'une situation familiale et la famille peut vous faire sentir moins seule et moins effrayée. Ça va s'améliorer. Faites-nous savoir comment ça se passe. Gros câlin de quelqu'un d'autre qui a subi cette opération !
Hi Tricia. Whatever the reasons for your hysterectomy, remember these in a positive way. It must have been needed to make you feel better in the long term. Accept any help that is offered from friends and family to care for your children while you recover from your surgery. It will take time to feel strong again. Then you can rest and recuperate, ready for hugs when your children come to you.
Have you been offered any anti depressants or hrt to help you recover from the hysterectomy? Stay strong and keep in touch. There's lots of advise from lovely ladies on here x
You've been plunged into drastic surgical menopause so your hormones are acting up big time. This scenario would have been explained pre-op surely? Exhaustion doesn't help as your body fights to heal & adjust. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You CAN & WILL get there. Try & stay strong for your littlies and don't worry about not achieving everything everyday. Rest when you can. Have you got a parent that can come stay for a couple of weeks?
I joined this group because I too was feeling depressed after surgery. I thought something must be wrong because I was so down. However, it is a part of recovery as your hormones, or lack thereof, are evening out. Even on HRT, I experienced a low period. Tell your children you are tired and your body is still healing (getting stronger) Know this group is here to help you through the low points. A hysterectomy is major surgery that affects multiple body systems including your emotional well-being. Hold tight to the knowledge that this is a phase and let your doctor knowexactly what you are dealing with. Know here is no shame in feeling depressed. We are here for you.
Hi, can I ask if had a full hysterectomy ? If so have they put u on HRT ?
When I had mine done I was just the same all I did was cry 😭 didn't know what was wrong with me. I was so scared to go the doctors u wouldn't believe but I eventually got there with the help of my mum and was give the HRT which seem to do the trick.
Hope u get the help u need x
Hi, are you on bioidentical hormones or the synthetic one?