What am i supposed to do when I 27 and i am completely alone.
I have no friends and have never had friends. I very rarely see any family ad they are old.
I feel like if I die, nobody would know.
Was it you that just posted about the panic attack? If this is on your mind that may be what caused it. I know you may feel alone hun but everyone has someone that cares about them. Is there a particular reason you find it hard to make friends and don't see your family very often? xx
Yes, thanks for your replies. I have siblings that care about me but everyone is just busy with their lives but I am alone due to being alone since I was young, sort of a catch 22 thing has happened as I go older where if I had no friends to talk about, people would find this strange and not be as interested in talking to me. I am quite shy and some may even think sort of a boring sort of guy. I tend to keep myself fit thouugh.
I have no had friends since I was young and it has always been like a catch 22 to make friends, I needed friends or events to talk about but I have nothing like that and people find that strange. I am sort of shy and people may find me sort of boring. I think I triguered my panic attack by taking 1 sniff of poppers, I don't know if it was the panic attack that followed or the poppers but I havn't really felt the same since. Doctors think this may be what triguered my panic attack. I am just trying to relax now and not worry, I think I am getting health anxiety now where I am thinking I am dying or somthing.
I absolutely hate drugs but I stupidy bought isopropyl nitrate poppers I think I triguered my panic attack by accidentally taking 1 sniff of isopropyl nitrate poppers, I don't know if it was the panic attack that followed or the poppers but I havn't really felt the same since. Doctors think this may be what triguered my panic attack. I am just trying to relax now and not worry, I think I am getting health anxiety now where I am thinking I am dying or somthing.
I absolutely hate drugs and wish they would ban and confiscate all drugs when they like.
Hiya, I will reply properly a bit later on as I am just about to have guests over, but I wanted to say it was very likely the poppers that cause the panic attack, they force your blood vessels to open very quickly and you get an instead 'high' which quickly turns into a headache, it could be that the shock of it all sent you into the panic attack. It would probably be best to steer clear from now on? xxxx
HI folks I never had any friends until I was in my late 20's for the simple reason I had never learned how to make them! I missed that somewhere in my childhood and teens.
I decided I needed and wanted friends so I started studying people to see what they said and how they reacted to things, but most of all what they talked about. I especially studied popular people. I then copied them and I started making friends. It took time but the more it worked the more confident I became and now it is a normal part of my life. I learned that people respect honestly and truthfulness and to be myself. People see through falsehood and pretence. Try it as it should work for you as well. x
I do not know what possesed me to by that crap off the internet. I very rarely drink and hate drink. I now think poppers should be banned.
I am not gay or homosexual, I was not at a club or anything. I just bought the bottle off the internet and I will never buy anything like that again.
Thanks for your reply.
Yeah, thanks for the advice. I want to be myself. I have studied people but some people who seem popular seem to have the most eratic discussions about the most random things and I don't think I have the energy to come up with these things so often.
**I do not know what possesed me to by that crap off the internet. I very rarely drink and hate drugs. I now think poppers should be banned.
I am definately not gay or homosexual, I was not at a club or anything, so had not reason to buy poppers. I just bought the bottle off the internet and I will never buy anything like that again.
Thanks for your reply.
Let me tell you about an event that changed my life.
As you describe it, i'm lonely too. So I'd go and sit to the coffee bar, in my neighborhood as usuall. The bar was full, so I checked for tables and moved on. An old man, didn't know me, but had seen me several times sit there alone, said come over here, I will get up and leave so you can sit. Just when I was losing hope on everybody, since I had separated myself from almost everyone (family included). That old man gave me hope. And that was enough for me to start change. It was one of the rare times I felt somebody, did something for me not to expect something in return. Maybe things aren't like you think they are. It's our perspective (the filter we add, to our senses) that doesn't let us see the reality. The beauty of this life. The mere fact that there are needed 2 people to give birth to a new life, is enough for me to tell me that I was all the way wrong. There are indeed some people that make us feel bad or lonely, but that only happens because thats how they feel for themselves. Maybe a certain situation in your childhood made you believe that was the truth, that you would forever be alone.
But you didn't know that nothing ever happens only to you. Even if i break a glass right now, in my house. You don't see it, but that glass is broken for you too. See we are all together, even if we don't see eachother. We share experiences, we aren't even aware at. We breathe the same air and eat the same foods, drink the same water and sleep like everybody else.
We are unconsciously connected to eachother, and we reflect that to one another. So you are never alone. It's just something that doesn't make any logical sense. So my friend stop pittying yourself about this lonelyness nonsense and go speak to strangers and smile to them, but mean it man. I'm sure they'll do the same for you. You think you feel lonely, because everyone thinks they feel lonely, so start proving yourself wrong, and thus doing some good for all of us.
And so might you one day if you learn to relax and be yourself. Then again you might not. It depends on your personality. Some people are naturally shy and reserved while others are more extrovert. We are all different which is what makes the world go round. You might find too that the things in you you see as faults can be virtues to others and vice versa too.
People often think there is a set of rules for acceptability ie you mustn't make mistakes, act silly, talk, not talk and so on. There isn't.
As long as you are socially acceptable ie hygiene wise, and don't break societys' taboos or rules, then you can make friends. If in doubt don't say anything just smile. That works wonders and we all do that. No one has the right to tell you how to behave or have a go at you for anything once you are an adult (unless it is your boss or something), and if they do then either laugh it off or have a go back. You have the right to be you. Remember that. x
thanks 
Thanks, yeah that is true. We are connected thank