Thank you for all the comments. I have read each one and layed it in the line. He had a choice to make. He told me to just leave. Once he saw I was going to do just that, he said he would stop with the porn. He made this promise to me before we got married but it only lasted a little while. He made sure to tell me he wasn't exactly happy to not watch it anymore which only tells me that it is just a matter of time before it starts back up. I know to some it is a silly thing to be this upset over, but for others like myself, it is a very hard thing to deal with. I am not yet comfortable in my decision to stay and only time will tell. He still does not acknowledge his possessiveness or that he is controlling. After typing this I can see that I am just fooling myself and preventing myself from being happy. I wish it were simple. Again, thank you all for your comments
As i said:It is hard.(a) To finaly admit to yourself the truth (B) to confront a person you are emotionally attached too and say" its over" etc. One can agonise over it but the final confrontation will occur.Once said it will feel like a weight,a burden has been lifted.
You are married to the "situation" not...the person.,and you are aware of this.
Possessiveness,controling etc is emotional abuse.The worst kind.It "entraps".The "perputrator" never ceases.Is never satisfied.never lets go.The controling never ends.Until you/he leaves.That is/will be.. the end result.If you remain the intolerable relationship will just worsen.The obvious outcome just delayed.
You have courage...just use it.
When you do,and you will.The intolerable situation you are now in will