Sou viciado em masturbação há quase 8 anos e tenho consequências muito ruins.

[nh_user_1021105]

Hi

I'm a 19 years old male, I don't have any health issues

I started masturbation since I was 13, I was doing it everyday and everything was fine,(*but at the same time I was reading about the consequences about addicting to masturbation but they won't affect me psychologically*) until I reached 16 and became a more logical and reasonable person, I realized at the time *16 years old* that the  consequences I read in the books and articles are becaming very true, every single consequence I read has applied on me exactly,(slow-thinking, bad fitness, bad behaivor with people, forgetting a lot- bad marks), but those consequences appeard very thin and light when I was 16 *sorry for my english*, and gradually those consequences are Increasing influence, until this day.

in the past 2 years, everytime I masturbate, right after the orgasm I stat to feel that my body is shutdown, my back is start to hurts very badly ( just like I read in articles) so I go imeddiately into a very deep-lazy sleep

and then I wake up doing nothing but eating, no mind activity at all, and trying to avoid tasks and people as much as possible.

I'm starting to belieave that my subconscious is sending commands to my body parts to make the consequences I read about to became real.

now I'm really suffering from this so my lifestyle in tha past 2 years was like this:

After I masturbate. I go to something I call it *Recovery period*, in my subconscios Im convincng my self: it's the period that I keep myself away from tasks and people for about 4-5 days without any sexual activity(masturbating) so I can be the Normal version of me, After I do the recovery period I feel like alive, and start get back to people And doing tasks, I really seize every moment of it while my body is healthy and strong, before I get back to masturbating again and get orgasmed.

Until this day I'm living this awful lifestyle, I just want to quit for good.

So I talked to people, experts, and reading artciles about quitting, they all talking about stop beating my self and it's actually healthy to masturbate, which is my subconscious refuse to accept this as a solution to quit.

I know how my subconscious act because it's my brain I can feel it, I think the only solution which I haven't tried yet is a physical solution, some drug that decrease testosterone, this is the only thing that comes to my mind right now.

to show you how much I'm beating myself, I graduated from highschool now and didn't apply to any college right now, I'm forcing that myself so I can quit, It's been 1 year now and it still the same so help me here please.

Thanks.

[anon53727290]

Oi Icydogfish,

Qual é a fonte da informação que você está lendo sobre a masturbação ser ruim para você? Só curioso. Parece que, talvez, seja uma fonte religiosa. É?

Eu acho que você pode estar lidando com algo além de sintomas negativos como resultado da masturbação. Com base na sua idade, parece que você está experimentando o que deveria. Parece que você está sofrendo com as influências do que leu. Novamente, só curioso sobre a fonte dessa informação.

Quando eu era criança, eu era um CATÓLICO MUITO bom. Então, quando alcancei uma certa idade, comecei a me masturbar; nem sabia o que era chamado. Então li algumas coisas católicas e descobri o que eu estava fazendo era um pecado grave, etc. Isso teve um efeito devastador em mim e eu tentei parar, mas não consegui. Não tinha ninguém para discutir isso até encontrar um padre que me ouviu. Ele eventualmente me abusou sexualmente, o que piorou as coisas. Finalmente, depois de muitos anos, parei de ser católico.

Parece que há "vergonha" associada à sua masturbação? De onde isso vem?

O que há de errado em aproveitar onde você está na vida? Deixe o testosterona em paz. O que há de tão errado em simplesmente ESTAR onde você está em tudo isso? Todo outro homem da sua idade provavelmente está lidando com a mesma coisa, mas não está divulgando.

[nh_user_1012366]

Masturbation is 100% normal at any age. I think you're overly concerned about this .. You are having the safest sex possible! You're body will tell you when you've had enough. Relax , it will be fine . I can tell you no doctor in the world would give you a testosterone adjustment at your age, this is the last thing you want to do. There are many men who seek treatment to achieve the opposite of what you are describing.

[nh_user_1135711]

Dear Sir:

The things I Can advise you about masturbation are the following:

1/Try to abstain, if you can

​2/Do not make out of masturbation a big deal

​3/Masturbation is a habit.  That is why it is difficult to abstain from it once you start

​4/Stop reading the literature about bad/good symptoms of masturbation

​5/Read the Catechism of the Catholic Church section on masturbation.  You will be happy you have read.  The passage as to how the Church views masturbation will nicely surprise you.

6/Do not despair, catastrophize as it will affect your life in negative way.

​7/Be mindful of masturbation but do not make a tragedy out of it.  The main goal is that you fill Okay with yourself

​8/I have a problem with masturbation also, and for many years.  I am a Catholic, and I cannot stop masturbating so addicted I am to it.  The Church helps me.  I go to confession once a month.  I realize it is a problem, but I try to live a normal life realizing that I have a problem.  I ask God for strength.  I take the Communion and I ask Jesus to give me strength to resist this temptation.  It is difficult to abstain from addiction.  I do not absolve myself and I do not set my mind that I sure will do it again.  Instead, I try to abstain as long as I can.  If I fail, I go to Confession again. And that is how I live my life.  It is a Cross I bear, but I know the means to be forgiven.  Remember God sees your heart not only actions.  I don't talk with any therapists about it because the greatest comfort I get from going to Confession.  The Priest does not make a tragedy out of it either.  He says to me "KEEP TRYING" .  There is a way:  Jesus said that one's sins should be forgiven not 7 but 77 times.  That means if you go to confession with a truly contrite heart, you will be forgiven.  If God forgives you, what else do you need?  I do not need anybody else.  Jesus is the only Person/God whom I need and who forgives me every time I go to confession with the desire to do better-with a contrite heart.  To commit a sin, you must wish and want it.  If you have anxiety, if your masturbation has become an addiction, the notion of sin here is not obvious.  Your own will is impeded here because you suffer from an addiction.  You find yourself the best way of coping with your habit.  Do not punish yourself.  God does not want you to do that.  God does not want you to worry.  For me the Church, the Confession, the feeling that I have been forgiven again grants me comfort, and shows me how merciful God is.  Take my way, and you will find peace.  Take your Cross and follow Jesus.  Good luck and may God bless You and grant you strength in overcoming your habit even if it takes for ever.  God is with You.  He sees Your Heart, and loves You no matter what.  If He sees you truly repentant from your habit/sin, He will forgive you every time you come to confession.  Life is important to me, but Eternal Life is the most important.  That is how I help myself with the issue of masturbation and daily life.  I regret, repent and atone for my sin every time I go to Confession where God grants me forgiveness, and I start anew.

[nh_user_1135682]

It is a problem if done often, I had a problem with this myself. I'm very small in that area and don't have a girlfriend as a result. But I stopped myself by writing books, drawing pictures, and playing addictive game. Life is much better without the horrible habbit.