I've contracted genital herpes from a guy who went down on me about a week ago I am so distraught and depressed I am trying to look on the bright side of things but when I think about it I just break down and cry. It's taking a huge toll on my life and my emotional and physical state I am also a mother and I am trying hard to cope with this and handling my mommy duties.I feel so alone and helpless like no one is going to want me and it's going to be even harder to find someone to accept what I have. My question is does it ever get better and how long?
Why are you being so hard on yourself? It's only herpes. It's not a life threatening disease and millions of people have it! It doesn't bother me so much anymore and soon you will realise that it's actually no big deal. Once this initial outbreak is over you'll feel loads better and you'll probably not even think about it much anymore. Keep your chin up!
Your feelings are expected and completely normal. I've been and we've all on here been where you are. It absolutely will depress you for a while. I would say you're in control of your depression but that's easier said than done and really irrelevant. Know this...This is a VERY COMMON condition and this society just can't admit it. If your partner knew of his condition and didn't tell you, well you're in good company because that's what happened to me. Imagine months later finding his Valtrex hiding in his closet in a shoe! I'm a mother as well. You're going to be ok. You know what my GYN told me? "She said: "Honey half the population is walking around with this and some don't know it." She said "If you had to get something be grateful its just this because it is so common. YOU ARE IN NO WAY ALONE! I have had a couple boyfriends I had to disclose this to and I do say pretty much right away. If someone cares and wants to love you, this will not matter! Once you get on meds truly you probably won't even have any episodes. I havent in 9 years except maybe once when I was VERY stressed out. It DOES get better. Its just a shock to the system. You are no different than anyone else out there. Remember, its COMMON! I hope this helps and I'm here if you need anything.
I agree with the both of them honey i had it for a month almst and since i been taken my meds everyday day i havnt had an ob since....im actually ok with it i told more ppl than i thought and noone has turned there nose at me yet but the brightside is this could be a gift and curse helps you be a better judge of character than before seems to weed out all the a**holes kinda lik a second sight we didnt have before😊
I'm slowly but surely coming to terms with it. I'm jus so mad that the person couldn't be honest with me. And now I have to take medication for life I guess I'm so used to having a carefree life it's taking me even harder to get over it. Thankyou for sharing your advice with me
This helps a lot I'm actually talking to someone right now and he tells me he's here for me no matter what but sometimes I feel like he jus says that to make me feel better. And if we were ever to not work out what am I to do in the future when I meet someone how do I approach the issue and so fourth some people understand and some people I know will not
My first outbreak was the worst I actually was thinking of committing suicide.im still going through it but it's not as worst as it was before I jus hope I don't have recurring outbreaks because when I do I get even more depressed
If you need to talk (on the phone) let me know....
Your welcome thats what this sight is for i wish they had in person discussion groups
Hey! I too got diagnosed and it is NOT the end of the world I promise! I was with the guy for 4 months and in that time he got a coldsore and passed it to me through oral sex. He tried to deny it but eventually admitted. My relationships and sex life has not been effected. I have been honest with 90% of partners and that's why I've decided to come on here. It's not easy but with anti virals and a decent balanced diet (which i struggle with!) you should be alright over time it lessens and your life will soon feel "normal" again. Just be careful of who you tell and make sure you're telling them for the right reasons. I've come to accept myself just the way I am. And do you want to know a secret? YOU'RE NOT ALONE!
A talk On the phone would be so nice coming from someone that has a shared experience
I'm just so terrified of outbreaks. I was in an out of urgent care & the emergency room throughout the whole week of my first outbreak.I have a poor diet & me having to take medication every day that's like another responsibility....all of you guys comments are making me feel better about myself
I think the reason ob are so bad the first time is because our bodies are getting use the virus with trying to fight it off even though it cant so things go into overload but once the body gets use to the virus and it settles in it does eventually become apart of us and we mst learn to liive with it....i have had it for almst a month my first ob mild my symptoms were much worse with the tingling, itching, more annoying really once i started my antiviral meds i was better with in 5 days and my 2nd one i havent had a second one😊......people take meds everyday that should not bother you plus some only take the meds when they feel a ob coming on when your body adjust your mind will follow suit