Im new to this site! Im 25 years old I caught genital herpes 3 years ago and only ever had my first outbreak..then for the past 3 months ive had the constantly every 2 weeks.doctor gave my supressive therapy but still ive experianced an outbreak now..does anyone else feel so down when they have outbreaks?
Hey, I'm new too... diagnosed yesterday 
but thought I'd get straight on the research.
Obviously experience wise I can't really comment...but from what I've read (quite a lot!) everybody is completely different... the lucky ones don't even HAVE outbreaks, mine is horrific. But I think it's very much natural to feel down... I think just the fact this is labelled as an STD. We need to remember it's a skin condition! You wouldn't connect the same negativity to eczema or an allergic reaction.
I think the therapy can take time....AGAIN it's totally different person to person. But keep positive and good luck with it 
Hey Taylor, did the doctor discuss any of the potential causes for your outbreaks and how to reduce them? I've been having outbreaks every few weeks also and I'm just about to start suppressive therapy.
The doctor had mentioned a few potential reasons for me having outbreaks so regularly but I'm 100% certain sex is my trigger!
I read in my meds instruction leaflet to tell my doctor straight away if I get an outbreak whilst on my suppressive therapy - so maybe it's best if you go see your doc again?
xo
Hi Taylor,I've been on suppressive meds now for the last 4 years on and off, was getting outbreaks constantly to start with,the meds stopped this but as soon as I was told to come off them or i forgot to take them I'd have another outbreak. I now only take them if I feel am gunna have a outbreak which seems to be working at the mo,but you can't always feel if a outbreak is coming which is poo! Luv dont worry everybody gets down when they have a outbreak,they've gotta do wouldnt be normal otherwise!Am new to this site too and it does seem like everybody's experience with this is different which is interesting cause u normally only get to talk about this with your doctor.
Keep strong Hun it does get easier to deal with.
Hello everyone,
I'm 26 yrs. old and I was diagnosed with Herpes simplex 2 last year June 4, 2012 and I have also been on suppressive meds on and off since then. There is so much I want to say about having or getting an outbreak but all I know is that it is uncalled for. Many people say that "rough" sex can trigger outbreaks but it hasn't always been the case for me. I contracted Herpes soon after ending a seven year relationship with an amazing guy that I thought I loved but realized I didn't when I meet the guy who gave me this strange gift. When I found out I had Herpes, it didn't really matter to me because I contracted it from a person that I really really liked and thought was the one!.. for a good five months we had an amazing relationship(B/c I didn't know what he was hiding) and my outbreaks were extremely mild, by mild I mean that they would only last max. two days. they would happen either before or after my period. sometimes after rough sex I felt like I would get one but then would shower and dry up( my genital area) really good and I was fine. There was even times where I felt like I was going to get one but then I would have sex and it got better. Seriously!... I would even think to myself "I hope "this guy" doesn't end up with getting it, bc I thought he would get the outbreak instead of me... THEN, I found out that the guy who gave me this gift.. And I say gift bc he didn't ruin my life(It's a gift from life, a gift bc its something you learn so much from having it). Herpes DOESN'T ruin people' life. I hope you know that...Anyway, I found out that he had been having a long distance relationship with a girl who apparently knew everything abt his condition and didn't care, and he obviously never cared to have a serious relationship with me because he decided to stay with that girl that he never saw.. It was then when I realized that stress was the main factor that causes outbreaks. After I got completely heart broken, I felt like I was getting the worst outbreaks of my life. When, according to research the worst outbreaks should happen at the beginning.. The one I got when I was recently broken hearted was worst than my first one. no kidding!..well, know that I realized that I needed to stop talking to this guy who broke my heart although he was begging for me to stay with him AND ACCEPT THE FACT THAT HE HAD ANOTHER GIRL IN ANOTHER COUNTRY!! NO WAY! so I haven't spoken to him since AND IT'S OKAY!! bc he wasn't worth my time...since then I have traveled a lot and spent a lot of time outdoors(bc being at home would create stress) from being outdoors a lot(ex. lake, beach, canoeing.. all this meant was being out in the sun), I have realized that getting too much sun also causes outbreaks and these outbreaks to me lasted longer.. soooo there is really no say about how long, how often, or how critical outbreaks are, they vary from person to person and all I have to say is... do the BEST YOU CAN about being a happy person. If it means changing your life style, forgetting about people who made you happy at some point, or getting more involved in religion, volunteer work, your education, yoga, exercise.. What ever it is that helps you release stress and be a happier better person. DO IT!!
Hello, My doctor prescribed me with FAMVIR 250mg tablets, within 5 days of taking them the outbreak is fully gone, the doctor said you can take one a day to stop an outbreak occurring as well It has helped me
Hi,
I was diagnosed with Herpes in October 2012 and I'm getting outbreaks every 2 weeks as well, I can set my watch that by day 14 it'll start! In fact I am getting more outbreaks as time goes on compared to when I first
got it.
I'm still as devastated today as I was when I got the call. It came as a complete surprise, even the nurse
said she couldn't believe my test results as she was sure I just had thrush, and my first outbreak cleared up within a day of using thrush cream. It took the clinic 6 weeks to get back to me with my results, as they had already told me I was negative for everything, just a horrible phone call completely out of the blue one day. In that 6 weeks I did not have any outbreaks at all, but as soon as I find out I have it they're coming every 2 weeks
I take suppressive medication sometimes, but when it runs out I'm too ashamed to keep going to the chemist to pick up my prescription.
I am just so angry, disappointed and disgusted in myself, I didn't even want to have sex with the person that gave it to me, I just got stuck in a really horrible situation (I was not raped) I really don't see how I can ever meet anyone, get married or have kids. Especially as I'm suffering so much from it and I'm guaranteed to pass it on. I can never ever do that to someone. I can't even talk to men because I just feel guilty and I know they should stay away from me.
I told my friend everything, who says it's not a big deal, but then she got drunk and told me she thought I hhad ruined my life and she would never be with someone who had it. As soon as she was sober she said that's not what she meant, but it was. It's even more annoying because she sleeps around so much, unprocted and has never even had thrush, but the one time I do I get a disease for the rest of my life.
From reading, this amount of outbreaks isn't normal so I'm now panicked that I might have something much worse, which is stopping me from being able to control it. Everything I've read says outbreaks should get less and less and within a year your body should have a control on it.
Does this ever get better?
Hey nelly i have not had any treatment from a doctor sense i was diagnosed 4 years ago at first I
Never had outbreaks but now there coming every two weeks I'm like ashamed to tell my doctor
Hey ob
Symptoms seem to effect everyone differently, I had continuous outbreaks in the year I was diagnosed now i don't get outbreaks, I have started vitamins to boost the immune system maybe this might be an idea after all it's our immune system that fights our outbreaks and keeps them away.
Don't be scared going to the doctor, remember its confidential and what ever you discuss won't go any further
Hi there,
I got diagnosed with genital herpes end of May this year and finding out that these stupid little spots weren't an irritation or pimples, but instead a virus that will stay with me for the rest of my life absolutely destroyed me.
I have been living in the dark for the past 8 months, scared, worried and disgusted that I let this happen. I was 17 years old, almost 18 and it breaks me knowing that I truly didn't deserve this in any way. Second time sleeping with a guy and BAM I'm doomed for life.
Sorry I don't mean to poor out all my frustration onto you, I just felt like I could really relate to your post and because none of my close friends have any experience or knowledge of this virus, I feel awkward and ashamed to talk to them about it.
I have outbreaks every month, sometimes twice a month. My main triggers are my menstrual cycle I think as I usually have an outbreak during or afterwards.
Have you possibly for any sort of advise for me, I know it might sounds silly, but I think it's so much nicer talking to someone who knows exactly what you're going through...
Thanks in advance
I was 24 when i contacted herpesvirus from a man i was casually sleeping with. I remember feeling like you, mortified and embarrased. My first outbreak was awful. I had to sit in a bath for nearly two days cause it was so painful. Anyways, i am almost 38 now and have learned to cope with the virus and it does get easier.
Words of advice; don't discuss your herpesvirus to anyone, including your friends. If they don't have it they won't understand it. You are judged. Living with the virus isn't as awful as we may initially believe. Outbreaks do become less infrequent. I've gone 2 years without an outbreak before. You will be able to notice signs quicker that way you can start suppressive therapy before it gets bad. Stress does seem to be the worst cause of outbreaks so pay attention to that and minimize stress in your life. Lastly, having herpesvirus does not end your love life. I've never spread the virus to a lover. You just need to be in very good tune with your body and refrain from sex at the first sign of a possible outbreak.
Good luck. Hope this helps
It seems it outbreak every two week on me. I feel so down. I can't have any relationship. What can u do to kill herpes virus?
You CAN have relationships! I was diagnosed just a few months ago and I was both mortified and completely destroyed... I contracted it from my boyfriend. He had been around the block a few times (if you know what I mean) before we got together. His outbreaks weren't typical outbreaks so he had no idea he had the virus until I started showing symptoms and I asked him to get tested. His symptoms seemed more like razor burn or chaffing. He had no idea. He was pretty torn apart that he was responsible for giving it to me. But I don't blame him. We had been together several months before we founder out and if he had known he would have told me. I even tried helping to treat his "chafing". Even I didn't know that's what it actually was. Truth be told, it does not ruin your life! I am blessed enough to still be with the same guy that gave it to me and we have a happy healthy sex life. From the research I've done, the frequency of outbreaks varies greatly from person to person. But they will be mousy frequent within the first year. You cannot cure herpes. You will have it forever. I know that's a lot to take in and can be very emotionally stressful, but you will learn how your body reacts to the virus, your triggers, the signs of the beginning of an outbreak, what to do/not do during an outbreak, etc. It's not the end of the world. It sucks! Trust me, I know! But you can get through it! Sex can be a trigger. It has been a trigger for me as my boyfriend is rather large so there is a lot of friction. That irritates the skin and can cause a breakout. Always talk to your partner about it. Be open about it. You're stuck with it, so they need to know. As far as first times with new partners.... I'm not the one to ask on that subject. I have yet to deal with that. But keep your chin up. You'll get through this!
I feel so down and depressed everyday. I got gential herpes 2 years ago it was terrible, break outs on my butt were unbelievable and my bf would still want to have sex with me (witch made it worse) . I finally stopped having outbreaks a year ago. Met a new boy and he is my boyfriend for a year now never had a problem with him INTILL he went down on me with a cold sore on his mouth!! And guess what came back? The herpes, all over my vaginal area lumps and sores that hurt so bad. They will not go away it's been a month and I've been taking medicine and more sores are forming now. Hate my life. Just when I thought I was fine, I was careless and now it's back.
I feel so down and depressed everyday. I got gential herpes 2 years ago it was terrible, break outs on my butt were unbelievable and my bf would still want to have sex with me (witch made it worse) . I finally stopped having outbreaks a year ago. Met a new boy and he is my boyfriend for a year now never had a problem with him INTILL he went down on me with a cold sore on his mouth!! And guess what came back? The herpes, all over my vaginal area lumps and sores that hurt so bad. They will not go away it's been a month and I've been taking medicine and more sores are forming now. Hate my life. Just when I thought I was fine, I was careless and now it's back.
I'm with everyone on this... I was only diagnosed this year after 7 years of non-classic symptoms. I started suppressive therapy and now I feel like the herpes is way more aggressive. I am getting outbreaks like crazy everywhere- even on my legs, ankles. Has anyone had this before or found any success?
I'm 18 and I was diagnosed November 2014 I've only slept with one person and I've been with him over a year. Before me he'd been with quite a few women.
He went down on me one night and the next day I was sore and itchy but still continued to have sex but then I noticed some spots and burning while peeing I was in tears because it hurt that much! My boyfriend when we first got together he had spots on the bottom of his penis but the doctor said it was just Bactria but then he started getting other oddities I call them friction burns but they weren't painful for him and his peeing was fine. The docs told me I had boils! But then I went to the clinic and they said it was herpes simplex 1 and my cold sores came from the mouth. At first my boyfriend wasn't bothered but after 2 month I had a breakout and he started suspecting I'd been elsewhere and got them from someone else I'm too self conscious to even go anywhere else as I never show my body to anyone unless I need too. I'm not that sort of person at all to cheat. Ever since January I've had a break out every month no pain just itching and I'm heartbroken I cry all the time at first I was ok cos the nurse said breakouts never usually reoccur with herpes simplex 1 but now they're and I can't cope! I'm so scared that if my boyfriend doesn't already have them on his penis that I will give them to him because the breakouts are so mild sometimes I have to physically check myself I couldn't live with myself if he got them on his penis. I don't know what to do
I have had herpes for 30 years I contracted it when I was in my mid 20s I only slept with one girl at that time she must have not known she had it. I would not tell anyone who doesn't have it, but things will get better. I met my wife 15 years ago we went out on several dates before I knew things were starting to heat up I sat her down and told her about it. She said she didn't care because she really liked me and would be okay if she go it (Crazy) I thought she was going to run out of the room . I also thought anyone who had herpes were lepers and should be sent away to a herpes island . Fast foward 15 years now and my wife never got herpes from me I use Valtrex to control outbreaks. Don't be down on your self herpes isn't a death sentace like HIV used to be or still can be today. It's just a itchy rash that's about it every one makes way more of it then it really is.
Hi Taylor- did your specialist ever find out why you were having frequent outbreaks?
Are you sure it's herpes? Sometimes herpes is mixed with Duhring disease.