I just don't know how to do any of this no more my whole body feels weird like nothing is functioning properly bp up and down I'm on meds,heart races off and on,I get hot and nauseated then chills,my digestive system is so messed up for awhile now. Bloated, indigestion,gas buildup seems bowels is sluggish. I have dizziness how do we do all this? After my March cycle things just keep getting worse have had labs done I cry everyday scared I'm dying from some horrible disease. I'm so scared of all this it's too many things at once to deal with and it's hard. My face stays flushed like I'm in a boiler burning skin off and on if some of these things would just stop I could deal with all this better. Things started getting worse right before this cycle I just ended and it just doesn't stop. My cycles is all over the map light,heavy, early, late and these symptoms isn't coming and going with cycles seems they staying around for good. I'm really at the end of my rope I'm drowning and nobody is listening my Dr always says anxiety and that is far from the case. My stomach burns when empty I'm so scared can anyone relate to all these things and no break or relief in sight?
Hi Pamela,
You are not alone...
I and thousands of other women are experiencing exactly the same as you.
Yes, it is terrifying at times. My perimenopause symptoms are quite bad and I too have a tough time dealing with them. It's horrible, frightening and totally unnecessary.
One thing I have noticed throughout this journey, is that it's given me uncontrollable and sometimes extreme anxiety. I hate it.
I'm currently going through a very bad patch and it's making me feel like I have no control over my symptons. It takes over your life.
Don't ever feel alone. I will happily chat with you via messenger on here. X
Hi Pamela! First, take 3 deep, slow breaths. That will help when you feel overwhelmed. I understand being at the end of my rope. My hot flashes have been horrendous for 3 months straight. At least 10 and day and then at night, I wake up hot all throughout the night. I just try to take each day one day at a time. I'm using black cohosh but so far (3 weeks in) it's not helping. I get bloated and so very uncomfortable...add that to the constant hot flashes, feelings of depression, dry, burning mouth and nether region, no libido, and mood swings, and yes...I feel at the end of my rope often. I'm shocked that many doctors do little or nothing to help us and that there is no real proven relief from our symptoms. Do research online and look at herbal remedies (check side effects) that may work for you. Pre/probiotics for digestion maybe. I take a probiotic every morning. If you eat lots of processed foods, eliminate them and eat fresher...a clean diet is always beneficial. Drink lots of water (I live in FL so ice water is important to help with hot flashes) Take each day one at a time. Exercise. Treat yourself to things you enjoy and remember to breathe. You are not alone. -K
Hi Pamela, as long as you are in perimenopause those are the symptoms you will experience and it does get worse once your periods stop..but it does get better with time all these symptoms I had I'm not out of the woods yet but I know how you are feeling you will and can get through it beleive you me..peri time is hard as hormones more up down during this time..I'm 16 months free of them few symptoms disappear I'm now gone back sleeping after months of none sleep..you don't know when it stops you just realise one morning oh I haven't got that now, just how it comes it will go..all I could say keep going you will get over it with TIME ((((((HUGS)))))).
Thanks ladies I'm trying so hard everyday I pray for some of this to be lifted up off me seems it's getting worse the more cycles is getting irratic I don't know why it has to mess with our digestive system this is the one main thing I'd love to get better and stop. I'm taking it one day at a time this is ovulation week and seems the digestive system is playing up worse ugh
Thank you dora
Hello there , I read your post and thought omg she’s talking about all the symptoms I have . I’m going through the exact same thing . It’s terrible some days and just remember your not alone , many of us are going through the exact same symptoms , some worse , some easier , but we all know your grief with it trust me .
Along with the BP pills I’m on , I’m also taking chloresteol pills and a baby aspirin per day too because this whole menopausal thing messed my body up for so many years that I even have blocked arteries in my legs . The heavy bleeding I had they fixed with a pill called fibristal it’s a 3 month treatment . I had fibroids and cysts in addition to heavy clotting and feeling like I was dying , so I hear ya . It’s been a nightmare actually .im 49 years old gonna be 50 in November. I do find when I drink lots of water and eat more greens weekly I feel better so I thought I’d offer that suggestion to ya . Everyone’s different and their body’s respond differently to all kinds of stuff so what may work for you doesn’t for me or vise versa but it’s worth a try .
Three times a week I eat a cup of frozen cubed chopped spinach with my meals . I don’t eat beef hardly at all now and I try to eat mostly chicken . Fish is good for ya too but I don’t eat that . I cut out all the margarines and now only cook with olive oil . It’s very beneficial so if you don’t use that , maybe give it a try too .
The hot flashes are horrible! Most of the day I deal with that so what I try is a cold wet cloth wrapped around the back of my neck and it does give some relief .
The sleeping is horrible though I usually get only a few hours because of the insomnia and Anxiety , so I do the best I can by trying to wind down with a movie or favourite DVD that I know I feel happy watching . Just little things like that I find help me . I hope maybe some of this may help you if ya try it or even try just different routines as you will for sure find things that kinda help a bit , but it takes time to find them . I know it’s hard trust me , I’ve been going through this for years and years. I also try to talk a lot about it to many woman cause I find knowing that other woman have these symptoms too help me cope a bit better and I know I’m not alone . Every day is a new day and one day closer to menopause that our bodies will adjust . Try to keep hope cause it will sort it’s self out one day and you’ll feel much better . Hugs to you from another menopausal lady with the same symptoms .
Best wishes and hang in there ! You can do this “ we all can do this “, and will get through it . One day at a time . Keep faith :-)
YES ALL OF THEM!!!!
Hi Pamela... I am the same with the stomach and bowel and much more... I know how you feel as you struggle to cope... I guess the only reassurance I can give you is that it gets easier.. Get on magnesium and good pro biotic... It's rollbar coaster but it gets easier...kerp checking in here for support... Ck
Thank you so much to each and every one of you for your kind words and suggestions I will try them, I'm taking it one day at a time and yes one day closer to menopause ugh I hope soon I get there
Pamela, you are absolutely not alone! I’m having extreme anxiety, digestive issues (sluggish is a great description) BP and heart rate anomalies too. Occasional hot flushes - red face too! Body aches and back pain. I am 18 months post-meno. I see a cardiologist, gastroenterologist and therapist (for the panic attacks) all of which are new things since symptoms of peri started about 3 years ago. And yes, the worry it brings about our health just adds to the anxiety. Reading accounts here is SO helpful. Safety in numbers I guess. Only my therapist is willing to connect the dots and agree that all of this is likely meno. I suspect that’s because there’s money to be made in recommending tests and meds. Try meditation and gentle stretching daily. Add a fiber supplement - that has been a huge help for me! Remove yourself from stressful situations when you can. We’re here for you!
Hi Maria
My periods have stopped.
Some of my symptoms have gone away (the wobbly legs, weird head, most of the heart palpitations)
BUT I have very bad anxiety and depression symptoms
Are you saying it gets worse for you once your periods stop?
THe anxiety and depression have gotten worse for me (although I am prone to anxiety)
But it is true what you say. For me the symptoms either change and some do disappear.
I have had so many symptoms through this time.
I actually have seen a cardiologist who did a stress test, ultrasound of my heart and carotid artery ultrasound (all came back that I was fine)
My BP has gone up and my cholesterol has gone up and since I had the heart palpitations etc, I decided to see the cardiologist. I do feel better after he ran those tests.
I also had a colonoscopy (came back fine) and went to a dermatologist and had moles removed (all benign)
So, yes I thought I had many things wrong with me as well.
Since my periods have stopped, some of the symptoms (such as wobbly legs, weird head, light head, have seem to gone away. )
BUT i still have extreme anxiety and depression which I feel are the worst of all!!
Hi Nancy
I am with you on the mood thing, its worse, much worse with meno for me.
I didnt have depression prior to menopause though so it really has been hard.
I think it will get better in time but im afraid that its going to take awhile for me..not an overnight fix.
How old are you now nancy and how long postsmeno?
thinking good thoughts good thoughts
x0x0
Hi Nanc,
Sorry to hear what you are going though, maybe you can try Estroven, you can find it at the health food store. It do helps with the anxiety and the depression. eats lots of celery and if you can get the seed to make tea it will help with the blood pressure and cholesterol.i'm praying you will feel better soon. try and exercise as much as possible it helps.hugs my dear it will get better.
Hi Pamela,
As the others have said you are not alone we all in this together.
I have woke from my sleep many times thinking i was having a heart attack. and my blood pressure very high. gone to the emergency room many night thought i was dying. i lost the ability to sleep, lost my appetite and in one month i loss 18 lbs.
Pain all over my body, heart racing . i think i had most of the 66 symptoms.But thank God I'm doing much better. My doctor as recommend ESTROVEN that is sold in the health food store and calcium , magnesium an potassium, vitamin E, vitamin D3, vitamin B12.Try and see if they will work for you too. and make sure to get lots of exercise. and remember you are not alone. you are in my prayer and lots of hugs to you my friend.
Hi Pamela.
I to feel at the end of my tether with it all, I had the worst day yesterday and just sobbed and sobbed last night thinking I can't do this anymore. I feel so on my own as have no friends that understand and my partner trys to but I can tell he's fed up with hearing me drone on about how awful it is and work, don't get me started on that as I nearly handed my notice in yesterday as I work in a traffic office full of men how can they understand.
I think mine started 3 years ago but apart from terrible itching it was subtle things then last September I had a very stressful period I lost 3 pets in the space of a year then had to cover at work for over a week and developed acute anxiety as It was so stressful trying to do a 2 persons jobs on my own tbh I don't no how I came out the other side of that very dark 3 months but I did and thought that was it until I started getting other symptoms I had insomnia for months then that settled down then 2 weeks ago had fatigue which never had b4 and just been feeling like on a rollercoaster, I'm still getting anxiety on and off depression that seemed to appear with the fatigue and legs and ankles aching/stiffness and bloating . When it's bad I have no positive outlook whatsoever just negative worrying I'm gonna end up in a psychiatric hospital and jobless on the streets just extreme negative thoughts.
Totally! I Even vomit sometimes. Feels like insanity. My cycles stopped last October. Seeing my doctor soon. Hoping he will have some answers and treatment options. Hang in there! You're NOT alone!☺
Oh, Pamela...hugs through cyberspace! your post is me- I could've written it! It is awful, what we're going through...but that's what I've realized- that we have get through it to the other side! We've all seen women in their 60s and 70s tho are still vibrant and happy...so we know its possible le for us too. And qe dont know what hell they might have gone through. You are so on point with the anxiety and worry about some dread disease...I think that's the worst of it all- the what if!!
All we can do is treat the crazy symptoms as they pop up..remember them when they come round again, and be gentle with yourself. Sending love❤
Thank you Maria