Hi i am putting this question to one and all, i know it will be a few months for me, but i was wondering how you guys took to get back to what was our Lovely Place x. I did have a look on here but could not find anyting, i have not even spoke to my Surgeon abou it. I was going to leave that to a later date x
Oh Daywalker !!! That is a fantastic sign on the road to full recovery
There is a big thread on this topic - Oh how I wish I could advise you here and give tips ...
But I am sure that there are many hippies who will be able to give you answers!!
Hi there, well all I can say (from my own personal experience) is ..... with difficulty! I am now 6 months post LTHR, other hip will be done end of May this year and hopefully with a slightly less traumatic experience than the first My replaced hip is brilliant now and range of movement improving slowly all the time, which is what I was told to expect. However, when it comes to 'all' being back to normal, i.e, 'the lovely place' as you put it - I don't feel like it'll ever be quite the same but that's just me. What I do believe is that it will be easier with a sympathetic, caring partner who is patient, loving and understanding when things are tricky and/or painful - not my experience.
To be more precise though and to give you a better idea, we tried to return to 'lovely place' from about 6-7 weeks, only partially successful (not for me) and to be honest it hasn't really progressed too much. My partner is, I know, only partially satisfied and I don't like it or want to go there at all - this by the way is very different to how things used to be. I'm 55, slim and was extremely fit before surgery and relatively fit now although have some way to go after my second hip gets done but I'm not overweight by any means.
I'm sorry if my experience isn't very uplifting but it is honest. I hope you have a really loving, understanding partner who will help you return together to that 'lovely place'.
Jo xx
Joyce oh i do a Male version of me, it is our 16th Wedding Ann in March. Words fail me as i would have to write so much about hubs. Took weeks off working looking after me, nothing is every too much trouble, though i have shouted at times i could not do much before, but from my Bed to our shower en-suite, and downstairs and up again. I am overweight, i have lost a stone since i have been home, but i had to go back again as i caught an infection they had to knock me out washed and flushed out my wound, you can read my up to date story. Takes so long to explain, i am 56 almost 57 in June but feel 90 x
A few weeks ago i read in the newspaper that all us middle aged ladies (!) were having our hips replaced to be able to get ourselves into the karma sutra positions of our youth!!!! I thought mine was replaced because it hurt to walk with OA and I limped badly!!! I will definately be telling people the op was done so I could swing from the chandeliers again because it sounds sooo much cooler😯
In the various papers given by the hospital, the section headed Sexual Intercourse said that unless directed otherwise, you may resume 6 - 12 weeks after the operation. Then, it said:
1) They also suggested that it was advisable to be the "passive" partner whilst recovering.
2) A side by side position with the operated leg uppermost and supported by a pillow (or partners thigh) for comfort.
3) Men may be more comfortable on their back with their partner kneeling astride.
4) After 3-4 months a man may go back on top and ladies should avoid twisting their legs too much.
From a personal point of view, my body was too 'out of sorts' for the first 3 weeks. I would also venture to suggest that if the patient is male, it is easier. However, I do stand to be corrected (as I have never been otherwise).
I hope that helps put a piece int the jigsaw.
Michael
Aha that one again - sorry, I have been on this lovely forum just too long!
As usual, the answer is "it depends". on if you are male or female, and how you are recovering. There is advice on the internet - and on my website I put an entry on the "When can I" page - "Usually about six to eight weeks after your operation, confirm with your consultant and/or physio, but still obey the 90° rule. Avoid vigorous sex and more extreme positions."
Common sense really. You can have lots of fun finding whatever is the best position for yourself (laying down, kneeling or standing), whatever you do, avoid strain, observe the 90 degree rule, stop if it hurts in any way, and have fun !
After two operations and two rounds of "6 weeks of celibacy" just 4 weeks apart, we were glad to be able to get into our 'loving place' again.
Best wishes,
Graham - 🚀💃
Oh yes, I adopted the term "Horizontal Folk Dancing" for it, from a friend.
I was given a booket expalining when where and how..as I now am on my own sadly it wasn't required but I was just impressed that the medics had even thought of it! I am sure you will get posts from the lucky couples who are still umm in the position of being able to get to a lovely place..!!
I better not read your replies!
Ali
whaaaa... I'm SO single.
Whilst I find the Karma Sutra fascinating and swinging from the chandelier has its merits, at the moment just the thought of hoisting myself up on the chandelier brings tears to my eyes ... much less contemplating how I would get down !
Haha. We can always hope and dream!!! If not exercise the memories!! Seriously we have all done so well to come out of this major op x
Alice i am double jointed, well not now lol, and i will not be posting when i do get to my happy place, bless you x
Well KDM i can just about walk up the stair good foot then operated foot, on the same step, i wonder how long it will be when i can actually walk up the stairs one foot in front of the other x
Well Rocketman as i was typing it just came to me, so many names for it, but i am being a lady x
Oh Brilliant yes I used to be able to get my foot behind my head..not for going to 'Happy Places' for I would be laughing too much! That is prob why I needed a hip replacement!
Good on you Girl. I used to have star system!!!!
Ali x
Oh Hells teeth! Me too...but many memories!!
ali x
Well i am gong to keep this clean girls/guys if one is on one own x
Hi Daywalker!
I'm 11 months out and I still walk steps like you do. I don't ever think I'll be able to walk with one foot in front of the other
😁😁😁oh,those were the days. ...