As many here...I've strugged for years. I'm 52...female...toss, turn, panic at bedtime.
There is medical guidance to go to be same time each night to maintain a routine and I have been doing that for 2 years.
No matter how tired I am...I wait till 12 to go to bed..because that has been my ROUTINE.
Well, last night I was so exhausted at 10...and I decided I was going to go to bed.
I realized this morning that the thought of the "routine" was really stressing me out. I followed that routine because the medical community says that works. But, I felt alot of pressure going to bed at the same time every night.
Going to bed when I was tired last night:
I fell right to sleep (no tossing and turning)
I felt less pressure
I slept better (I know because I had dreams REM sleep the deepest)
I still arise many times during my sleep time for the commode but that is a different problem to discuss with my Dr.
I awoke feeling more refreshed than I usually do.
So, I am going to try the same thing tonight...when I am tired...I'm going to bed.
The only problem with this is that I take sleep medication. And I was taking it every night at 11pm...to get to bed at 12.
BUT...I did feel very tired last night at 9 and I said sc*w it.....I'm taking my medicine NOW...so I guess that is how it will work.
i thought i would share this for people who are trying the "routine" thing...maybe you should try going to bed when your tired.
I feel rested today and I feel like being rested is going to lead me to having a less cranky and more productive day.