Hi there.
This is my second time posting to this forum, but I need some assistance once again.
Tomorrow I have plans to meet up with and old guy friend that I haven't seen in 5 years. But I want to cancel because I'm stressing out about it and I feel very nervous about it.
Everytime I think about it, I feel sick to my stomach and I keep telling myself that I have to cancel and plan for another time, but I feel that if I cancel it and reschedule, I will only cancel the next one and so on and so forth.
I was pulled out of high school and I haven't had much social interaction in a couple of years outside of my family, so I feel that that might be adding to my problems. I really want to get out and be social and have friends, but I'm so scared too.
I really want to see this old friend of mine, but I can't if I'm nervous and shaken up about it. Any advice???
Walk thru it....do it.
At first I thought your gut was telling you something for a reason.
But, then after reading your post and realizing we are on a self help board...I realized when you said "I really want to see this old friend of mine".
That you really do want to see him...and as you said "old friend"...no reason to be nervous..you both share the same background and it will be fun to catch up..you should feel NO PRESSURE>...
Its not a date...or don't look at is as a date..its an old friend..we all need to re connect to appreciate who we are now...Have fun ...just look at it as LUNCH..period with a friend.
okay, yes i do want to see this friend! nothing should hold me back (at least, i should have this mentality...)
Thanks for your comment!
I have the same feeling when o ever have to leave my home wether to see someone else or to just go out to get food from the store. I feel like I can help you maybe a little. I get panic attack and so scared and nervous about seeing anyone else who I haven't seen for a while or just a few days, because we were both taken out of high school and both haven't seen many people since I have a idea for you to try. Instead of schedule an appointment or scheduling to meet tell your friends or family members that you would rather see them randomly. No need to stress over in a few days. They can see you that day. It'll seem like it would be more stressful but honestly it's not at all. Help them to understand what it is your going through and then when they call to see you that day you won't have all that extra time to stress or worry about anything. You are amazing and brave don't forget that. God bless you and hope you have a great time with your friend. Anako