hi all . Il try and keep this short and sweet. sooooo i just want some advice and reassurance that my symptoms are anxiety ( which i think are and getting worse) . I am a mother of 3 currently going through a separation. It is amicable but kids dont know yet they are 7,5,1. house is up for sale and i will be looking to move while he moves back with parents for short term. i have no family near . I have always been a bit of a worrier particularly with health im always thinking the worst . i am a childrens nurse as well so surrounded by sad stories all the time that give me a skewered view of health problems and diagnosis so always think i have got something terminal. this year as well infeel everything i read is just about death. i think my axiety has worsened since having my 3 rd child. maybe i did have some form of depression but when he was 7 weeks old i found a lump on cheek had it scanned told it was a lymph node so fast forward weeks of stress that i was going to die i had the most irrational thoughts about dying leaving the kids etc would just have periods where i would be hysterical crying. in the end had biopsy and was told it was a fatty lump . Since then i feel my anxiety has worsened im so much more of a worrier i have these facial tinglings that happen and a tingle around eyes / side face which sometimes come with headaches so again i overthink and think i've got brain tumour. ) the last 2 weeks i have developed an eye twitch which worse case scenario can be brain tumour so going out of my mind. gp thinks its prob stress and i think it has settled for now. i have had eyes checked today as a contact lens check was due and all fine. I have this constant sick nervous feeling that something is seriously wrong i feel stressed with the kids. my youngest is hard work super clingy to me and i just struggle juggling work and 3 kids as well as day to day life and the prospect of a separation. just wanted to reach out to anyone who might be able to give me any tips . im also contemplating medication if anyone has gone down that route . hope it all makes sense and sorry for long post. thanks Rach .
hi,
i am also new here today, and what u have said sounds exactly like me, i have 3 kids also. my health anxiety is through the roof, i fixate on something and escalate it it makes me feel
sick to my stomach, one day its breast cancer , the next skin cancer, the next my heart etc it goes on and on i never have a day of feeling like nothing is wrong. i also get stressed out with kids and feel like i often take my anxiety out on them which isnt fair but once i have a thought something is wrong i cant think of anything else. its so hard.
i go to doctors worrying about different things but often dont get any relief when they say its fine as i sometimes feel they know i have health anxiety so just pass everything off as that and im scared they miss something.
i dont want to go down medication route as im scared of the side effects.
im sorry i cant help but just wanted you to know you are not alone.
I have that guilt aswell with kids i feel i snap at them when im stressed. i was offered anti depressants when i was struggling when i found that lump and said no. i just dont know if i will be worse after xmas thats when husband is leaving to go to hos mums. thought of not being with kids 24/7 kills me but then thinks maybe a break from them will do me good .
hi rach,
i can only say from what i have been threw i constantly worry about everything and as you can see by my profile constantly post for reasurance especially during covid as i cant get to see the gp i have tried medication and i was on a drug called amytripteline which did help but took about a month to take effect my best treatment though has been guided meditation and thought process training which although i get the fears still i can get my mind back to normal thinking alot quicker
hope this helps please message if you would like to discuss further
sorry you’re going through this. Everything you said sounds exactly like anxiety. The tingling, headaches, very common. You are overthinking this and going right to worst case scenario. you have a 99% chance that it’s anxiety related. i’ve been through all of this for most of my life. The best thing you can do is get some counseling so that you can manage it better. It also helps to vent to somebody else who can help. The more you think worst-case scenario, the worse your symptoms are going to be. Headaches are extremely common . it really doesn’t sound like brain tumor at all.
One thing I learned after all these years is that the number one thing I had to do was to take care of myself. Because if I don’t and I make myself sick, I am no good to my kids or anybody else. Your children need you to take care of yourself! You are young and healthy. Anxiety puts negative scary thoughts into our mind which are not based on facts or reality but only fear. I did that to myself for many years and wasted precious days that I can never get back because nothing bad ever happened! Don’t do that to yourself! I learned how to get rid of the fearful thoughts and you Can too! You have to be persistent and determined. so I would suggest …
- get counseling
- work on taking care of yourself. Exercise, healthy eating, meditation on YouTube for anxiety, every day ask yourself what you did for yourself today. you owe it to yourself and your children.
- work on stopping the overthinking . 99% of the things we worry about never happen.
- there’s a great book called finding quiet. It teaches you how to find peace and eliminate negative thoughts.
hope you feel better soon!
thanks for those tips and your reply
hi rachael hope you are feeling better. if you go through my profile and see my discussions you will see iv been feeling the exact same recently. i have a little boy hes just turned 1, i had really bad anxiety a few years before and now its hit me again. iv been having eye twitches for past couple of days not sure if its fatigue related or maybe its my eyes as i wear glasses but going for an eye test today because i lost my glasses last month and been struggling so much without them. i did exactly what you did and google every little symptom i have, it tells me im dying, brain tumour, you name it. i cant sleep at night thinking have i got one, then the palptations start and im laid in bed cant sleep for hours and no wonder why my eye twitches when im going to sleep at 12 and getting up at 7:00am with my LB