i have been preimenopausel for a few months now an im in a new relationship for over a year now, im suffering terrible anxiety and depression, is it possible for someone at 49 years of age to start a relationship when i have these symptoms ,iv read most marrages dont even last, he doesnt understand, and even though iv giving my boyfriend articals to read we still seem to have arguments, im trying my hardiest to cope but im not sure im strong enough to put him first when i need to consentrate on my own body and mind changes in life.
has anyone else had these problems and succeeded in a successful new relationship. Or should i just throw the towl in and maybe start a new once my menopause is under control in some way ...
OW dear you sound like your in a tough spot at the moment.. and to be honest there’s only YOU that can make that choise, the way you have come across to me is that your not happy with the relationship any way, the menopause is crap, there’s no two ways about it, mines been going on for 4 yrs now, and I do live on my own, and I’m not in a relationship, and at this moment I don’t want to be either, think if I had a guy, I’d of killed him by now. As I couldn’t cope with them, but that’s ‘ ME’... i know of woman who need there husband/partner to lean on for support, and couldn’t cope with out them..
So it’s a hard one for you, don’t make a choise that you will regret while you are in this state...
But you do need to think of you, as it is a hard time to go through the menopause, as your all over the place, best of look chic, please keep talking and I’m here any time you need a chat big hug 🤗x
I completely understand..it’s enough to keep ourselves functioning let alone worrying about maintaining a relationship..it’s all I can do to take care of my home, work and tasks that need to be done..the holidays have been pure torture..feel like I’m always lagging behind, exhausted, unable to function..but just try to take it day by day and try to go with your gut feeling, not an emotional perimenopause moment..Again, so sorry you have to deal with all this but you’re not alone!
Oh dear, only you can make the choice linda. i have been married 24 years and 2 years peri, and at times i am not liking him, but other times i need him. Sometimes i feel like running away and being on my own to deal with all this. Sorry its not helpful, i wish you well xx