Hi James,
Glad to hear your infection has cleared up. Without being entirely sure, I do have the feeling that most of my bladder infections recently have followed hospital stays! I don't know about the lower back pain, but a urinary infection could spread back into the kidneys, I suppose, or could have come from the kidneys.
If you're having irritation inserting the balloon catheter, it might well because it has created the irritation itself by sitting in there for so long.
I imagine that anything sitting in the urethra longterm would cause irritation. Without lubrication, and without fluids passing down the urethra, it will get dry and rub against the catheter. Certainly my two experiences of fitted balloon catheters, both only for a week, resulted in a very irritated and dry, blistered tip of the penis at the point of entry. Nurses said that was quite common and gave me an anaesthetising gel, but it didn't really help. In fact after the first occasion (a foley 20fr catheter), the irritation caused a stricture to form around the tip. It became incredibly painful to insert my 14fr ISCs and quite difficult even when I moved down to 12fr. They had to dilate under general anaesthetic in order to conduct a cystoscopy, which used a 22fr camera.
I do think that self-dilation would be gentler on the urethra because a) it doesn't stay in all the time, and b) you can lubricate it before use if it isn't (like my disposables) already lubricated. But I'm not a urologist! I suppose if cost is an issue, reusing a baloon catheter, or using the same one for a long time, is obviously cheaper than single use disposables; but as you say, resusing certainly increases the chance of infection.
I can't answer your question about urethrography v cystoscopy; I've had both and also CT and MRI scans, and none of them have shown up ANY cause for my condition! (So I presume I don't have a stricture apart from the meatal one at the tip which has stayed open since they dilated it.)
I don't know about sizes either - I use 12fr ISC, and I think I have a relatively narrow urethra. So 9 and 7 seem tiny! I recently tried out an 18fr which was a little painful to insert, and have wondered about moving back to 14fr ISC which would speed up my emptying. What would be the next size up from 9fr? 12? I think you would notice the change. But there's no point, I would imagine, in going smaller if you are trying to keep a stricture open.
Best wishes,
Colin