Listen to me when I say, the two of you need to be more supportive not share invaluable info back and forth.
I am on Naltrexone and over the past several months have noticed a much improved change in my attidute towards alcohol and the way it was destoying my life. It does take time and costs are high for the pill but not as much as I would spend on booze so I am ahead of the game. If you aren't comfortable with AA like I was, then seek counselling and see your doctor for the meds that will help you to cope with this disease.
ALSO, look into the "Sinclair Method" and the "onelittlepill" video.
If you PM Paul, maybe he'll send you a copy of it...and then your lives will get back on track.
Thank you, Tim. My life is certainly not on the straight and narrow though it is on track. Compared to drinking every day for 20+ years and today having 10 months and 4 day without a drink of alcohol. I wish you all the best with the Naltroxene. AA is not for everyone though I tried everything from self-will to jail to an asylum to psychology to rehab to an alcohol worker to therapy to drinming everyday and f*** it to detox. Longest I got off the alcohol was a few weeks. AA is the only solution for me that has given me a prolonged and still going length of sobriety. I don't like 98% of the perosnalities in AA. they did not get me sober. The 12 Step program of AA did.
Don't pluralise "lives". I am not drinking.
It is for everyone who happens to be reading this forum Richard. Just don't like to see bickering on here. We ALL need help - that's we are here !!!
Hi. I'm really sorry if I offended anyone ystd, it certainly wasn't my intention. Tim is right and thanks for pointing this out. We all just want to find a way to control our drinking and it's different for everyone. I'm not drinking today and hope I don't this evening. Feeling okayish. A bit down but that's the after effects of alcohol. At least it didn't end up a very long binge, just 3 bottles in 2 days. So much happier when I don't drink . Thanks for everyone's help on here :-)
Didn't realise you were the forum guv'ner. I don't care if you don't like it. There are others on this forum, I agree.
I'm not sure what you mean by "pluralise lives"? You sometimes come across as aggressive and bitter. We on this forum are just wanting help and advice that's all really :-)
Of course I'm aggressive and bitter. I'm an alcoholic addict in early recovery. I listen to the excuses for drinking all day long from numbers of alcoholics, excuses which I used to make. I am sorry for being drawn into this debate, I wish you all well. I hang around with those that are living the solution and want help not ones that moan about having to drink and seek attention and do not have the courage, honesty or willingness to grab with both hands the solution that is offered. I have lved too long in the problem. I only hope you don't take the 'social' drinking down far enough and you get the help you so desparately seem to be seeking. I do sincerely wish you well and I apologise for harming you.
Amazing. I've just thought about what you wrote and I thank you. Truly, I thank you. I am bitter and agressive. I am not bitter and aggressive due to being in recovery. I am bitter and aggressive due to haveing a stammer since the age of 11, due to not getting th place at university I wanted, bitter about losing girlfriends, not having certain friends, bitter about the friends I did have, bitter about sh*te jobs, bitter about politics, bitter about my parents need to control, bitter about my Dad's lack of encouragement, bitter about society and it's rules, bitter that they got and I didn't, bitter about being an alcoholic, bitter about not being able to drink and use like 'normal' people. This bitterness comes out in aggression. It is this that is the prblem. this bitterness and aggression has fuelled me and been the catalyst for my drinking all these years. This is the nature of my alcoholism. This resentment and lask of control is the problem. The alcohol and drugs were the solution. I am sorry for venting my bitterness and agression, my nature at you. It was wrong of me. I apologise. I admit my bitterness and aggression and the accompanying brood of other negativities of my nature. I will work to not behave like that and I will practise the opposite. I do sincerely thank you for saying that and for pointing out. This is my alcoholism and I am realising this. The more this gets revealed and removed, the further away from the need to drink I get. Remarkable as I used to drink heavily every minute of every day and only stop when I passed out or something or someone else stopped me, Thank you and good luck in your recoveries.
Tim was addressing us both. He told us both and suggested "and then your lives will get back on track." Plural of lives suggesting he was talking to us both.
Hi. It's me again. Have managed not to drink today and won't. Much happier when I'm not drinking but sometimes we make mistakes! I'm not looking for attention btw, just basically want to be prepared if this happens again tho hoping it won't. I don't like what alcohol does to me. Like obviously the blackouts, my health etc. but after a day and evening and 3 bottles of wine I hate the little things like depression, anxiety and looking several years older and so so tired. I want to take nalmefene so that it won't happen again. Naltrexone I have but you have to take it everyday( which I did last year for a few months.) Just want to take a tablet when I feel the urge to drink again. I'm doing ok compared to last few years, 2 slip ups in 6 months. Anyway thanks to you all and take care :-)
One day at a time!! You did well today, focus on the good feeling from NOT drinking. And wake up tomorrow, NOT looking old and haggard, and feeling crap, but stronger, and healthier, and keep on that path. Wishing you well xx
Thanks so much for that Olivo, means a lot :-)
Richard, thank you for your honesty. There are people who need this site to get out their frustrations with additions...period.
We all need the support, that is why we are here.Your bitterness reminds me...OF ME. I feel helpless in my quest, other than here. My medical community is sometimes clueless as to our situations...they listen but don't have the proper training.
I think Paul has said it best - "it isn't our fault". It is a disposition of everything addictive, we are born with it and fight it forever.
Good health to all, Tim
Hi. Thanks for your honesty and you haven't offended me at all. Sorry to hear of you struggles. The most important fact is you haven't drank for over 9 months which is a miracle for you. Carry on working the programme and these resentments will disappear. You are very lucky to have found your own path to sobriety and can help others to now. Massive congratulations to you :-)