Hi everyone, I must admit long before I experienced peri and menopause. When I heard women complaining about their horrible symptoms, I used to think they were crazy and needed to get a life. I never thought the day would come, that I would be in their shoes now. Live and learn.
This experienced has taught me to at least have compassion for people when they tell me their troubles. You never when the shoe will be on the othet foot.
Hi Maria, sorry you are suffering now too. It's hard for anyone to truly understand what someone else is going through unless you've experienced it yourself. I never heard anyonr complain of the symtoms I have, so when I hit perimenopause, I had no idea what was wrong with me. I honestly thought i was going insane! This is a great support group, and sorry the show is now on the other foot. It's nice to know we're not in this alone
Colleen, I never heard anyone complaining about all this stuff either! I don't know if it is an age thing (I'm 44). ..or maybe I just need different friends. Lol. That's why this forum is so great.
I could literally sit in a coffee shop on here talking with you all and be happier than eating lunch with someone who doesn't understand what I am feeling right now. I can't tell you how many times I am sitting in a waiting room reading this and start laughing at something on here. (only the funny stuff of course). The people prob think I'm laughing at a joke on fb or something. If they only knew.
Maria. My mom was older when she had me and I can remember wondering what the heck was wrong with her and how I was never going to act like that when I grew up. Well here I am
Your so funny! Yes if only people knew what we were reading. I sit in different waiting areas and read these posts. Even in the car when my husband is driving lol! I love this site.....it helps me to feel normal
I wish we lived near one another. I don't know anyone going through this
Hi,
I'd heard of hot flashes and periods ending but that was it!
I wasn't expecting the moods, anxiety and things changing downstairs 😲😲.
I'm 41 and expected to carry on having a normal sex life (if only I had a bloke) lol.
Now it's changed, who's going to want a moody, anxious woman with problems downstairs??
At least I have this site you ladies who understand xx
Where do you live? I swear this is so hard. I don't have any really close friends here since we haven't lived here long, but out of the ladies I do know, nobody talks about this stuff and I keep looking for someone that is as exhausted as I am. To make matters worse, the last time I mentioned it to someone (and she is a couple of years older) she was perplexed. Like there was something bad wrong with me. Oh geez then the anxiety started up again. Ugh
Me too Karen! Hot flashes and no periods and all would be swell😳.
If only 😂😂😂😂😂
Hi Chr, I live in a rural suburb 25 miles East of Buffalo NY. You?
Downstairs! LOL! My problems are upstairs!!! I don't know which is worse? ???
This is why I'm thankful for the internet. I'd heard of hot flashes and sexual drive changing, but not the heavy periods that rain clots and never end. Nobody ever talks about that part. I'm so thankful for groups like this so we can help each other.
Yes, I went through the same thing. There were times I bled for the entire month straight. Then there were times I skipped a month. The blood clots looked liked something from a crime seen. Now there is nothing.
I live in middle Ga. I've always wanted to go to NY. You see a lot of snow I bet
Yep good old downstairs 😂😂
I live in flat so I don't have problems upstairs 😂😂😂😂
Why were we never told about any of this??
I will be an expert by the time my older cousins hit this roller coaster, I may sell my knowledge to them 😂😂😂
We're awash in information here in the digital age, yet menopause still seems underdiscussed and so misunderstood. Magazines vaunt youth and vitality, deepening our sense of isolation. Although the Change is a normal part of life, there's so little "normal" in how I feel most days: anxious, sleepless, heart palpitations, hot flashes, poor digestion. You name it. Menopause is the storm before the calm, but at 50, I'm still waiting for the calm....
I've not found doctors very helpful, they've only got their 20-minutes insurance-approved time with me. This midlife transition is radically challenging, and thanks to forums such as this we can at least acknowledge it. I've been able to chat about it with a few women friends, and we compare "cheat sheets" on how to cope: melatonin, valerian, exercise, meditation, leafy greens, long walks, herbal teas, HRT. I wish I had a sure-fire suggestion, one true thing that would help everyone feel better, sleep better: I'd share it with you all in a heartbeat. But I hear you, and I understand, too....